Comments on: The real shotgun wedding

By: longislandsurfer

longislandsurfer — Mon, 31 Oct 2005 16:54:00 +0000

I love the wit in your writing. although I have been a bride – and may yet again, I have little to no use for all things wedding. it’s your writing that keeps me coming back to this site – totally addicting. Hey, I looked on the website – are there Never Teh Bride tee shirts? can’t find any… must have one.
lisg

By: never teh bride

never teh bride — Sat, 15 Oct 2005 03:23:15 +0000

Atomic Bombshell, I’m sure your husband wouldn’t mind at all! I make a mean pie!

By: LadyGlori

LadyGlori — Sat, 15 Oct 2005 03:02:50 +0000

I also agree with Onawhim & Motormouth. Not only did my husband ask my grandfather (father has never been in the picture), but he asked my entire family (there’s only 11 of us, counting children!). Everyone’s response? “Of course you can – (insert “take her please” joke here)! We were wondering how long it was going to take (my family is the picking-on kind…arg) before you asked!”

By: Atomic Bombshell

Atomic Bombshell — Fri, 14 Oct 2005 21:42:18 +0000

I’ll marry you… I don’t think my husband will mind… much?

By: Onawhim

Onawhim — Fri, 14 Oct 2005 21:34:45 +0000

I concur with Motormouth. My sister’s husband did NOT ask permission. And my father resents it to this day, despite the production of the first grandchild.

By: Motormouth

Motormouth — Fri, 14 Oct 2005 20:15:24 +0000

My husband called my dad to ask for my hand in marriage before he proposed. Talk about greasing the skids. Dad LOVES him. Highly recommended as a good way to start things off on the right foot with the in-laws.

By: Never teh Bride

Never teh Bride — Fri, 14 Oct 2005 18:01:40 +0000

JayKay, thanks for the kind words!

To answer your question, I find that the decision to request the blessing of the FOB is generally something that is or is not a tradition in the family of the future bride or future groom. My pop is an old fashioned kind of guy and has made it quite clear that he expects to be asked for my hand. What I forsee happened is The Beard proposing and then me saying, “Oh my gosh, quick, call my dad!”

By: Lori

Lori — Fri, 14 Oct 2005 17:51:51 +0000

Hee hee. Every time I tell my mom about a new dance partner, she says, “Is he married? How old is he? Did you like him?” Even if the guy is still in braces or has a boyfriend, to her, he’s a potential son in law.

Victor, maybe you could try the vague excuse, e.g., it’s just not the right time.

By: JayKay

JayKay — Fri, 14 Oct 2005 17:47:40 +0000

Ok, so I am new to all the wedding hoopla and need a little help with the do’s and don’ts of this whole thing….While I have learned that October is not a beach-wedding month and that it is UBER tacky to include registry cards with wedding announcements, is it still necessary in this day and age to receive the blessing from the Father of the Bride? I think it is sweet and traditional, but I honestly cannot see my darling love asking my dad if its ok if we get married. *shrug*

Never teh Bride, you crack me up! This site is both entertaining and educational for someone like me who knows NOTHING of nuptual etiquette. Thanks!

By: Victor

Victor — Fri, 14 Oct 2005 16:40:45 +0000

My gf and I are constantly being asked by *friends*, “When are you two getting married?” The latest was from a friend of hers who is the last of her college group to get married–next month (I should state my gf was married once before. I never have.). I guess we’re fortunate it seems the only people who haven’t asked us that question are our parents.

What’s truly astounding is we’ve explained to these folks our reasons for not getting married and while it’s obvious our reasons are not valid to our friends, they’re valid to us and that *should* close the case. Alas and alack, thy name is “We’re not listening LALALALALA!”

Man, my blood pressure is sky-high right now.