Comments on: Taking matrimonial bliss into our own hands

By: Dataceptionist

Dataceptionist — Thu, 23 Feb 2006 23:44:33 +0000

The problem I have with the whole Woman proposing thing, does the girl still get a ring? I’m not obsessed with the ring idea, just, is it rude to then want one?

By: Knows

Knows — Fri, 16 Dec 2005 13:11:50 +0000

Obviously it will never happen for you. Through what I see, it’ll be years before that “man” of yours does anything useful, nevermind propose.

By: Freyja

Freyja — Thu, 01 Dec 2005 16:03:04 +0000

I proposed to my husband on his birthday, after the usual… intimate festivities. We were basking and I pulled a lovely watch from under the bed and just asked.

It doesn’t have to be an ultimatum. There’s no reason that you should have to languish and wait for him to be ready to buy you with a big ol’ rock. If getting married is important to you, take control of your destiny and pop the question!

By: Never teh Bride

Never teh Bride — Wed, 30 Nov 2005 23:16:07 +0000

Thanks for the encouragement, JayKay! It’s a tough spot for both of us. THe Beard is truly wonderful - honest, caring, gentle, responsible, trustworthy, etc. so I don’t want to lose him. But I was brought up to see marriage as highly important while in his family marriage doesn’t carry as much weight. It’s a case of clashing ideologies.

By: JayKay

JayKay — Wed, 30 Nov 2005 22:50:28 +0000

I agree…ultimatums never work out well for anyone…
And, no matter what the situation, I’ve found that pushing the issue has similar results…
Men are kinda slow sometimes (my DJ included) and it takes ‘em a while to realize a good thing…but one day, the idea to act on said good thing will fall out of the clear blue sky and hit him on the head…and then its like buttah, baby!
Hang in there, dear…your day is coming

By: Kourtney

Kourtney — Wed, 30 Nov 2005 22:36:06 +0000

*wince* oooh, ultimatums are not so great. You’ve already started with a time frame & a ‘conversation’; let that simmer in his brain for a while.

By: Anna

Anna — Wed, 30 Nov 2005 22:32:58 +0000

Never teh Bride,

You should give The Beard an ultimatum: Marry you or get out. Maybe that will get the wheels rolling.

By: Megaera

Megaera — Wed, 30 Nov 2005 21:32:10 +0000

woo! So you mean to tell me that on Leap Year in Scotland, if some woman wanted to get a pretty, new outfit, she could propose to some man who had his eye on another woman!!!!! SWEET!!!!!!! ‘Course if he said yes, that might be a pickle, but come on, you could find some man who was set on marrying some other woman…mmm silk dress…mmm other people paying for it…

By: Never teh Bride

Never teh Bride — Wed, 30 Nov 2005 20:32:04 +0000

That sounds so wonderfully simple, Kai. Can your husband talk to The Beard for me?

By: Kai Jones

Kai Jones — Wed, 30 Nov 2005 19:44:21 +0000

I proposed to my current husband, with the simple phrase, “Let’s get married!” It was in response to his discovery that (a) his roommate was moving out–to live with a woman that we introduced him to, and (b) the lease on their apartment would be up in a few months.