
My father once told me he would give me $5,000 in cash to elope. My stepmother promptly beat him upside the head with a rolling pin and screamed, “Over my dead body!” Though my stepmother dreams of helping me to coordinate my dream wedding, my father is still a frugal man and I have a herd of siblings that need food and clothing. Thus, I have known since I was in high school that I will most likely be having a do-it-yourself kind of wedding.
I plan to enlist the help of friends and family in creating a cake. I am going to utilize my grandmother’s riverfront property for the ceremony. And I am strongly considering skipping the usual DJ in favor of simply making a lot of well timed mix CDs. Cutting certain costs will allow me to rent those white wooden folding chairs I love as well as a portable dance floor and huge canopy tent. That’s why I’m already reading things like Kathleen Kennedy’s “Priceless Weddings for under $5,000.” Sure, being a do-it-myself bride will be stressful, but, hey, so is everything else!
That said, the Internet is full of great tips on how to do a wedding “on the cheap”, like these from wikiHOW:
Have your ceremony and reception in the same location to simplify things and save you money. There will be no need for limos to take you to the second location. Many houses of worship have halls that are equipped to handle wedding receptions at reasonable fees – especially if you are a member.
Ask friends to lend their talents (in lieu of a gift)by helping out with such things as invitations or flowers. Ask a friend with pretty penmanship to address your invitations instead of hiring a calligrapher. If you simplify your flowers and arrangements, perhaps a friend can assemble fresh or silk flowers which will save you hundreds of dollars.
Instead of a limo, consider a regular vehicle.
Remember that the wedding is one day at the start of a life-long committment. Look beyond the wedding day to future goals you will have as newlyweds. If you want to purchase a house in the next few years, keeping that as a priority throughout the wedding planning process will help you to be prudent about how much you spend on that one day.
Personally, I’d rather use the minimum amount of money that will buy me the maximum amount of wedding and then put the rest in a nice, stable Roth IRA. My memory of my wedding will last a lifetime and when I’m old and wrinkly, I want to have all the free time in the world to think about those memories.