Comments on: Puffin’ and buffin’s not just for the ladies http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/ Manolo Loves the Brides! Tue, 22 May 2012 18:25:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Lou DiCola http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-69484 Lou DiCola Sat, 17 Feb 2007 02:34:08 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/#comment-69484 Wow, I had completely forgotten about these postings, and this website. Surprised to see all these postings still here--figured they'd have been replace with something else by now. Thank you, Dale, and FutureMrs.C, for the kind words. Wow, I had completely forgotten about these postings, and this website. Surprised to see all these postings still here–figured they’d have been replace with something else by now.
Thank you, Dale, and FutureMrs.C, for the kind words.

]]> By: FutureMrs.C http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-6134 FutureMrs.C Tue, 11 Jul 2006 04:19:13 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/#comment-6134 I have to say - planning a wedding with my beloved, who has opinions on everything (down to the colors!) has been an excellent exercise in negotiation. He isn't Groomzilla, not in the least, however, everything has been up for discussion--as long as I do the research. I am not a typical bride, I haven't spent the last 34 years planning my wedding..and while I appreciate his input...making choices together takes more time than I imagined; sometimes I DO just want to say "you don't have a say!!". I believe however, that if we can't get through this negotiation, we have trouble ahead anyway...and besides, at the end of the day, I hope our guests will say "that day completely reflected the COUPLE." (not just the bride). PS - Lou: your wife does beautiful work...I'll be stopping by to see her in the near future! I have to say – planning a wedding with my beloved, who has opinions on everything (down to the colors!) has been an excellent exercise in negotiation. He isn’t Groomzilla, not in the least, however, everything has been up for discussion–as long as I do the research. I am not a typical bride, I haven’t spent the last 34 years planning my wedding..and while I appreciate his input…making choices together takes more time than I imagined; sometimes I DO just want to say “you don’t have a say!!”. I believe however, that if we can’t get through this negotiation, we have trouble ahead anyway…and besides, at the end of the day, I hope our guests will say “that day completely reflected the COUPLE.” (not just the bride). PS – Lou: your wife does beautiful work…I’ll be stopping by to see her in the near future!

]]> By: Dale Osborne http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-2635 Dale Osborne Thu, 04 May 2006 16:20:23 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/#comment-2635 I stumbled across this thread when searching for info on Danese Creations... I can attest to the fact that Lou is not a jerk. And his wife is one of the lovliest and kindest people I have ever met. I can also testify that Lou's policy works. Marriages are about two people, that is for sure. WEDDINGS are about the bride. 99.999 percent of men recognize that they are legally married if they whiz through a drive-up Elvis window and pay 50 bucks. Wimmen, on the other hand, need and want all the glitz... and that is okay... but they should not expect the groom to share in their enthusiasm for the pomp and circumstance. After all, there is no beer during this time and no remote control, no sports... I stumbled across this thread when searching for info on Danese Creations… I can attest to the fact that Lou is not a jerk. And his wife is one of the lovliest and kindest people I have ever met.

I can also testify that Lou’s policy works. Marriages are about two people, that is for sure. WEDDINGS are about the bride. 99.999 percent of men recognize that they are legally married if they whiz through a drive-up Elvis window and pay 50 bucks. Wimmen, on the other hand, need and want all the glitz… and that is okay… but they should not expect the groom to share in their enthusiasm for the pomp and circumstance. After all, there is no beer during this time and no remote control, no sports…

]]> By: Lou DiCola http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-872 Lou DiCola Sat, 28 Jan 2006 20:30:16 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/#comment-872 Dear LaBellaDonna, Ending a marriage after 23 years must have been very painful---I am sorry for your loss. Neither my wife nor I engage in any forms of manipulation, but we love and celebrate the differences between men and women, and we especially love the humor that comes from those differences. And one of the differences between men and women is that women love to plan weddings, and men not so much. We feel that men should be men, and that women should be glad of it. (Actually, that's my own little twist there, but my wife would just read that and appreciate the humor behind it.) I guess we're lucky to have found each other. Dear LaBellaDonna, Ending a marriage after 23 years must have been very painful—I am sorry for your loss. Neither my wife nor I engage in any forms of manipulation, but we love and celebrate the differences between men and women, and we especially love the humor that comes from those differences. And one of the differences between men and women is that women love to plan weddings, and men not so much. We feel that men should be men, and that women should be glad of it. (Actually, that’s my own little twist there, but my wife would just read that and appreciate the humor behind it.) I guess we’re lucky to have found each other.

]]> By: La BellaDonna http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-691 La BellaDonna Tue, 10 Jan 2006 15:45:16 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/#comment-691 Why, yes, Mr. DiCola, I would absolutely be the first to admit to being "humorously challenged;" certainly in terms of suggesting the fine art of manipulation in terms of marital relations. I'm glad that you and your wife have been together for almost 16 years, and that you both have a fondness for one movie in common. But be advised: even the slowest learner may discover that she's been manipulated, and she may not like it - either the discovery, or the manipulation. I left after 23 years of marriage, and my ex is still telling people that we had a great marriage, and that "suddenly" I left it for no reason. Why, yes, Mr. DiCola, I would absolutely be the first to admit to being “humorously challenged;” certainly in terms of suggesting the fine art of manipulation in terms of marital relations. I’m glad that you and your wife have been together for almost 16 years, and that you both have a fondness for one movie in common. But be advised: even the slowest learner may discover that she’s been manipulated, and she may not like it – either the discovery, or the manipulation. I left after 23 years of marriage, and my ex is still telling people that we had a great marriage, and that “suddenly” I left it for no reason.

]]> By: Lou DiCola http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-674 Lou DiCola Sat, 07 Jan 2006 00:34:53 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/#comment-674 Mrs. B and LaBellaDonna seem humorously challenged, whereas Darcy, JJ and Never theBride seem like women who have happy men for husbands. But don't fret too much, Mrs B and JJ, all is not hopeless. Just get a copy of Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor in The Taming of the Shrew, watch it with your husbands with a bottle of wine and the younguns asleep in bed, and enjoy. My wife and I have been together for almost 16 years now, and we both like the movie. Mrs. B and LaBellaDonna seem humorously challenged, whereas Darcy, JJ and Never theBride seem like women who have happy men for husbands. But don’t fret too much, Mrs B and JJ, all is not hopeless. Just get a copy of Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor in The Taming of the Shrew, watch it with your husbands with a bottle of wine and the younguns asleep in bed, and enjoy. My wife and I have been together for almost 16 years now, and we both like the movie.

]]> By: Darcy http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-658 Darcy Thu, 05 Jan 2006 22:35:03 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/#comment-658 My husband and I worked 50-50 on our wedding plans, but I'm the opposite of Bridezilla and I enjoyed and appreciated his input and help. In our case, two heads were almost always better than one, and our wedding planning experience was our first taste of what a great team we make when we work together on a project! Yeah, he made a few spreadsheets, but he's a dork, and that's one of the things I find very endearing about him. Plus, we paid for the whole shebang ourselves so it was good to see where our money was going. I guess I'm a dork, too. My husband and I worked 50-50 on our wedding plans, but I’m the opposite of Bridezilla and I enjoyed and appreciated his input and help. In our case, two heads were almost always better than one, and our wedding planning experience was our first taste of what a great team we make when we work together on a project!

Yeah, he made a few spreadsheets, but he’s a dork, and that’s one of the things I find very endearing about him. Plus, we paid for the whole shebang ourselves so it was good to see where our money was going. I guess I’m a dork, too.

]]> By: jj http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-651 jj Thu, 05 Jan 2006 19:37:07 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/#comment-651 I think whether Lou's advice is good or not depends on how 'zilla the bride and groom are. If both of them are going crazy and it's a struggle, then yeah... it's better for one person to just drop it and reduce the stress level. But in my case, I was happy to have my husband's insight on the parts that were important to him, and I NEEDED his help with the seating plan, since I barely knew many of his relatvies. Then again, he was hardly a groomzilla about any of it, he's a pretty laid back guy. I think whether Lou’s advice is good or not depends on how ‘zilla the bride and groom are. If both of them are going crazy and it’s a struggle, then yeah… it’s better for one person to just drop it and reduce the stress level.

But in my case, I was happy to have my husband’s insight on the parts that were important to him, and I NEEDED his help with the seating plan, since I barely knew many of his relatvies. Then again, he was hardly a groomzilla about any of it, he’s a pretty laid back guy.

]]> By: Never teh Bride http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-644 Never teh Bride Thu, 05 Jan 2006 17:44:20 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/#comment-644 A wedding, IMHO, should be about two people, not just the one with the XX chromosomes. However, I do know a few future brides who have tactfully and not so tactfully encouraged their future husbands to butt out! In that case, I feel bad for the men, who might not like the idea of strung Christmas lights or a cold seafood gelee. Really, if The Beard wanted to add something to my dream wedding, I'd let him. It can only help relations later on. A wedding, IMHO, should be about two people, not just the one with the XX chromosomes. However, I do know a few future brides who have tactfully and not so tactfully encouraged their future husbands to butt out! In that case, I feel bad for the men, who might not like the idea of strung Christmas lights or a cold seafood gelee. Really, if The Beard wanted to add something to my dream wedding, I’d let him. It can only help relations later on.

]]> By: La BellaDonna http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-636 La BellaDonna Thu, 05 Jan 2006 14:54:21 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/01/04/puffin-and-buffins-not-just-for-the-ladies/#comment-636 I agree with the lovely Mrs. B. I was under the impression that marriage was a joint venture, and a joint adventure, not a battle between two participants and, I suppose, as many innocent bystanders as possible dragged into the fray. Unpleasant "advice," unpleasant attitude. I shall light a candle for the unfortunate Sylvia. I agree with the lovely Mrs. B. I was under the impression that marriage was a joint venture, and a joint adventure, not a battle between two participants and, I suppose, as many innocent bystanders as possible dragged into the fray.

Unpleasant “advice,” unpleasant attitude. I shall light a candle for the unfortunate Sylvia.

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