Ladies, be your own Valentine
Let me tell you a secret. Even though I love thinking about marriage and am crazy about all things pertaining to weddings, I am not one of those people who has to have a man on Valentine’s Day. Likewise, I am not expecting The Beard to present me with a ring tomorrow nor do I anticipate his making a “big deal” out of this Hallmark holiday.
That said, I can definitely understand how many people without singificant others can get a trifle peeved when subjected to the site of hearts, roses, chocolates, and cherubs for the six weeks leading up to Valentine’s Day.
So, for those of you ladies out there who are single and proud, here are some neat gifts you can buy for yourself to celebrate your independence.
Alice Steinbach is definitely an independent woman. In Without Reservations : The Travels of an Independent Woman, a memoir and travelogue, she bounces from city to city throughout Europe, making friends and learning about her inner self. Pair it with A Journey of One’s Own: Uncommon Advice for the Independent Woman Traveler and you’ll be primed and ready for your own journeys.
If you find your folks or your friends give you a hard time come tomorrow, point them to Even God Is Single, So Stop Giving Me A Hard Time by Karen Salmansohn. It’ll shut them up fast.
Forget the wilting lily act and get a double dose of independent womanhood by spending an evening with leggy yet bad-to-the-bone Lara Croft in the first two Tomb Raider flicks.
Finally, as Ben suggests in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, “frost yourself.” There’s no rule saying you have to wait for some man to lay out the bling bling.
Have fun tomorrow!
And here’s another suggestion – give flowers to your girlfriends & tell them how much their friendship means to you. (Now, I’m not talking roses, but a little bunch of tulips, or daisies, or carnations, or alstromeria, or whatever.) Put that whole “it is better to give than recieve thing” into usage, & you’ll be AMAZED at how much it really does warm the cockles of your heart.
I used to have a huge complex about nevery getting flowers from men until right before we broke up, & I got over it by giving flowers to women that I appreciated, because that’s what I would like – flowers, & note saying “you totally rock.”
My friend bought herself a “right-hand ring”–ten diamonds set in a criss-cross setting.
Some people might enjoy the movie Mrs. Miniver about a nice English housewife who keeps a can of whoop-ass on hand. It won seven Oscars in 1942.
Kourtney: What a fabulous idea! I mean, who’s to say that Valentines are only for significant others? Why not show your love for friends, as well!
Lori: Thanks for the recommendation!
Happy Valentine’s day, ladies!
My lovely man gave me a vase full of tulips and a wonderful card. He is just fabulous.
In the ‘before times’, I did have the ‘god is single’ book and quoted it often to my mother and any other relatives that felt the need to comment on my singular status. My favorite was ‘anyone can get married. Look at you people!’.