Comments on: Vows from the heart http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/ Manolo Loves the Brides! Fri, 19 Mar 2010 08:14:37 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Wedding Chicago Blog http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-3915 Wedding Chicago Blog Tue, 23 May 2006 15:31:25 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/#comment-3915 Hi all, Great tips. Personal vows are nice, but I always suggest that couples keep it tasteful. I'm actually glad that my husband and I did not write our own vows. He got so nervous during the ceremony that he repeated his vows back to me in reverse order and then added my name at the very end. The priest and everyone in the church just giggled. Too funny... Have a good one! Alison Hi all,

Great tips. Personal vows are nice, but I always suggest that couples keep it tasteful.

I’m actually glad that my husband and I did not write our own vows. He got so nervous during the ceremony that he repeated his vows back to me in reverse order and then added my name at the very end. The priest and everyone in the church just giggled.

Too funny…

Have a good one!

Alison

]]> By: jj http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-3070 jj Thu, 18 May 2006 15:58:06 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/#comment-3070 While writing your own vows is challenging (and like Twistie says, I've been to weddings where it's WAY TMI!), I have to say that writing our vows was the single most romantic part of our wedding planning. By far. It gives you a chance to take a break from fussing over silly stuff and just sit down and actually talk about what you mean to each other. It was just awesome. While writing your own vows is challenging (and like Twistie says, I’ve been to weddings where it’s WAY TMI!), I have to say that writing our vows was the single most romantic part of our wedding planning. By far. It gives you a chance to take a break from fussing over silly stuff and just sit down and actually talk about what you mean to each other. It was just awesome.

]]> By: Twistie http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-3059 Twistie Thu, 18 May 2006 14:15:58 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/#comment-3059 It's a fine line between personally meaningful and TMI. It’s a fine line between personally meaningful and TMI.

]]> By: Never teh Bride http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-3058 Never teh Bride Thu, 18 May 2006 14:06:57 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/#comment-3058 I've heard some pretty personal vows in my time. I think it leaves the guests sort of looking at their shoes in discomfort. I mean, personal can be great, but one can take it too far. I’ve heard some pretty personal vows in my time. I think it leaves the guests sort of looking at their shoes in discomfort. I mean, personal can be great, but one can take it too far.

]]> By: Abigail http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-3053 Abigail Thu, 18 May 2006 13:04:51 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/#comment-3053 We wanted to write our own but we weren't sure what to say. Then I found the about.com list of <a href="http://weddings.about.com/cs/bridesandgrooms/a/vowwording.htm" rel="nofollow">sample wedding vows</a> - we found one on there that we thought was perfect, but then decided a few days later to tweak slightly. It worked really well for us. At my friends wedding, they had all this weird personal stuff and it made me glad we didn't write our own. We wanted to write our own but we weren’t sure what to say. Then I found the about.com list of sample wedding vows – we found one on there that we thought was perfect, but then decided a few days later to tweak slightly.

It worked really well for us. At my friends wedding, they had all this weird personal stuff and it made me glad we didn’t write our own.

]]> By: Twistie http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-2959 Twistie Wed, 17 May 2006 19:11:35 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/#comment-2959 Books can be a huge help with writing a ceremony/personalized vows. I used one book that broke the ceremony down into its constituant parts, explained which ones were legally necessary and which were optional, gave examples from a number of different religious traditions and one or two civil (read: not religious at all) versions of the same part. You could use all the parts from one tradition, mix and match, or use it as inspiration for writing something completely original. It then had a few sample ceremonies at the back. Great book. The other I used was a book of poems, essays, quotes, and scripture passages particularly appropriate for weddings. In it, I found a wonderful piece by Wendall Berry that absolutely summed up my feelings about marriage. My beloved liked the ceremony I wrote around it, and the officiant asked permission to add our ceremony to his packet of suggestions he sent to all couples he was marrying. Of course I said yes! It's not as daunting a task as it looks at first as long as you get some good guidelines of what is and isn't necessary, find a book or website with words from people more eloquent than you, and steal from the best! Oh, and be sure to discuss your ceremony with your officient well in advance, in case you've missed putting in something important. Books can be a huge help with writing a ceremony/personalized vows. I used one book that broke the ceremony down into its constituant parts, explained which ones were legally necessary and which were optional, gave examples from a number of different religious traditions and one or two civil (read: not religious at all) versions of the same part. You could use all the parts from one tradition, mix and match, or use it as inspiration for writing something completely original. It then had a few sample ceremonies at the back. Great book.

The other I used was a book of poems, essays, quotes, and scripture passages particularly appropriate for weddings. In it, I found a wonderful piece by Wendall Berry that absolutely summed up my feelings about marriage. My beloved liked the ceremony I wrote around it, and the officiant asked permission to add our ceremony to his packet of suggestions he sent to all couples he was marrying. Of course I said yes!

It’s not as daunting a task as it looks at first as long as you get some good guidelines of what is and isn’t necessary, find a book or website with words from people more eloquent than you, and steal from the best! Oh, and be sure to discuss your ceremony with your officient well in advance, in case you’ve missed putting in something important.

]]> By: Never teh Bride http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-2958 Never teh Bride Wed, 17 May 2006 19:03:24 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/#comment-2958 Thanks for the tip, Vis Major! I'll have to check it out. Thanks for the tip, Vis Major! I’ll have to check it out.

]]> By: Vis Major http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-2944 Vis Major Wed, 17 May 2006 17:36:43 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2006/05/17/vows-from-the-heart/#comment-2944 I'd also like to suggest the book "<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1402203438/ref=dp_return_1/002-1454510-6019213?%5Fencoding=UTF8&n=283155&s=books" rel="nofollow">The Wedding Ceremony Planner: The Essential Guide to the Most Important Part of Your Wedding Day</a>" by Rev. Judith Johnson. I used this book to customize every aspect of my recent wedding, from the opening prayer & gathering words to the final blessing & pronouncement. There are several passages of each "section" of the ceremony for you to choose from, as well as suggestions on personalizing each section. The sample ceremonies will give you a great place to start if you know you want to personalize your ceremony but aren't sure where to start. The book isn't just geared towards those looking for religious ceremonies: there's a perfect balance of ceremony passages for those looking for religious words as well as passages for non-traditional unions (ex: same-sex ceremonies, second marriages, marriages with children from previous relationships, etc). The helpful hints, practical advice, and checklists throughout the book made this an indispensable resource. I’d also like to suggest the book “The Wedding Ceremony Planner: The Essential Guide to the Most Important Part of Your Wedding Day” by Rev. Judith Johnson.

I used this book to customize every aspect of my recent wedding, from the opening prayer & gathering words to the final blessing & pronouncement. There are several passages of each “section” of the ceremony for you to choose from, as well as suggestions on personalizing each section. The sample ceremonies will give you a great place to start if you know you want to personalize your ceremony but aren’t sure where to start.

The book isn’t just geared towards those looking for religious ceremonies: there’s a perfect balance of ceremony passages for those looking for religious words as well as passages for non-traditional unions (ex: same-sex ceremonies, second marriages, marriages with children from previous relationships, etc). The helpful hints, practical advice, and checklists throughout the book made this an indispensable resource.

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