Archive for July, 2006

Get your nuptial kook on

Friday, July 21st, 2006

When good veils go boom
What do you do when your veil explodes? I mean, what DO you DO? Judging by the model’s befuddled expression, she doesn’t know either.

For the princess in training
This fantasy wedding dress by Montreal designer, Rya Soleil (for Fairy Fashion), is just a little busy. But I bet my kid sisters would love it.

Beauty and protection!
Finally, a wedding dress that covers the bride during the ceremony and reception, then covers the groom during the honeymoon.

While you’re digesting these dresses, go take a look at this lengthy list of inappropriate wedding songs. Then come back and tell me what *you* think the most tasteless wedding song ever is.

Congrats, Carrie and Sujeet!

Thursday, July 20th, 2006

I read about a very special wedding in a recent issue of Time Magazine and wanted to offer my heartiest congratulations to Carolyn Bergeron and Sujeet Desai. With all the celebrity divorce and the cheating hearts and other wedding-related BS we are subjected to on a daily basis, it’s nice to see something positive in the news for a change.

Good luck, guys!

Bergeron and Desai both live with Down Syndrome and found themselves moving through adulthoods that were rich with activity but lonely. That is, until they found each other.

Bergeron and Desai met at [a National Down Syndrome Congress session] two years ago. (“I told my mom I wanted to date her,” Desai recalls. “I was shy. I couldn’t say anything, so Mom helped.”)

With help from their families, who live about 90 minutes apart in upstate New York, the couple began dating. At a Valentine’s Day party, “I had my eyes on her all the time,” Sujeet recalls. Later that night, “I started to kiss her. She loved it!”

The happy couple began this new phase of their lives with a traditional Hindu ceremony in which prayers were offered to the goddess Parvati, and Bergeron and Desai performed the ritual of Saptapadi. Following the ceremony, they cut a rug, Indian style. A week later, the newlyweds enjoyed a Western ceremony in upstate New York.

Check out the pics here. I can’t get over that gorgeous sari!

Nice Threads

Wednesday, July 19th, 2006

Ladylike threads all the way

I’m not a huge fan of the whole chocolate with baby blue fad. It’s…interesting, but I’ve never once been able to pull it off. But my point is moot because this beautiful floor length duchess satin bridesmaid dress from Thread Bridesmaids comes in twenty-one other color combinations – most of which are much more pleasing to my eye. It can be had in a range of sizes, beginning at 0 and ending at 22. Being busty, I’m always a little wary of the low crossover v-necks, but my inhibitions vanish when I know I can order up and alter down. Finding a bra to go underneath would be a challenge, though. Sigh…

For guys, by a guy

Tuesday, July 18th, 2006

A man\'s man isn\'t afraid of weddings

Like many men, Ken York is a real guy. Just look at that cigar. And like many guys, he doesn’t want to have to wade through loads of frilly, frou frou stuff about flowers and lace and support undergarments in order to determine what he needs to know to make his daughter’s wedding beautiful. But he also doesn’t want to be told to sit back and hand over his wallet, either.

“I am about to spend more money on my daughter’s wedding than I did buying my first house and first new car combined and 90 percent of the advice I’ve found for fathers of the bride is to be supportive and write checks,” said York.

So he started a blog which he plans to parlay into an e-book.

The concept behind the blog is to chronicle the experiences that Ken York is going through while helping to plan and pay for his daughter’s wedding in October 2006. “As I go through this process people are opening up to me telling about their positive and negative experiences,” said York. “I intend to both post this information along with my research on the blog and in an E-book that I am writing.”

Good for Ken, I say. I like to see dads getting in on the act in a way that isn’t reflective of Mr. Banks from Father of the Bride. If Ken decides to temporarily postpone the penning of his e-book–which, with all the wedding hullabaloo, he might–he should consider consulting The Pocket Idiot’s Guide to Being the Father of the Bride.

UPDATE: Ken has, in fact, read The Pocket Idiot’s Guide to Being the Father of the Bride and found that it *didn’t* speak to a man’s sensibilities. His goal is to create a guide that translates the womanly language of weddings into man-speak. I’m no guy (obviously) but I am looking forward to seeing what Ken has to say.


Monday, July 17th, 2006

When I think of the love I want in my life, I think of two songs: Morning Song and Painters by Jewel from the album Pieces of You. Two passages come to mind.

From Morning Song: It’s you that I adore, for you I’ll be a poor man’s wife.

From Painters: They painted every, passion every home, created every beautiful child. In the winter they were weavers of warmth, in summer they were carpenters of love. They thought blue prints were too sad so they made them yellow.

Kind of sappy, I know. But I’m a sap for everlasting love. I like hearing about happily married old folks celebrating golden anniversaries. I like hearing about young couples beating the odds. I like it when my friends get married, especially when they get married to each other. So what does this have to do with tungsten? Tungsten carbide–a metal alloy ten times harder than 18K gold–is a relative newcomer on the wedding band scene, but one that apparently will “last as long as your commitment to each other.”

A metal truly ready for commitment

What that means is that your tungsten carbine wedding bands, once polished and sized, will never lose its finish and will furthermore never pick up unsightly scratches, dents, or pits. The thought of never having to have one’s wedding band replaced is an intriguing one.

Tungsten carbide’s sole folly is the same as its most appealing trait. Namely, its everlastingness. In the event of an emergency, hospital and ambulance workers may not know how to remove a tungsten carbide ring stuck on a finger. provides tungsten wearers with this advice:

Rings made of extremely hard materials, like tungsten carbide or ceramic, can only be removed by cracking them into pieces with standard vice grip–style locking pliers. Standard ring cutters will not work. Place vice grip–style locking pliers over ring and adjust the jaws to clamp lightly. Release and adjust tightener one-third turn and then clamp again. Repeat until a crack is heard, and then continue clamping in different positions until the hard material breaks away.

Those dancin’ feet

Friday, July 14th, 2006


The ever foot conscious Manolo made a wonderful point in his recent Washington Post column about the attractiveness and comfort of the professional dance shoe. I’ll admit that that I am not as graceful as I’d like to be when wearing high heels. I have wide, rather oddly shaped feet (thanks, dad!) and thus tend to teeter and totter in the most expensive and well made pumps.

Put me in a pair of dance heels, however, and I’ll shimmy circles around you. I do have eleven years of dancing under my belt, but there is more to it than that. Think about it. Dancers need a pair of heels that ensure stability. They need heels that look dainty and graceful yet cushion the feet as they pound and twist on hardwood floors. And they need heels that come in a wide range of colors and dye-friendly materials to match those flashy costumes.

Because the style range is somewhat limited, dance shoes are not for everyone. But if you’re a little unsteady in heels like me but still want to traverse the nuptial aisle in them, consider a white stage or character heel, or a ballroom dance shoe such as the Amanda by Glide. After hours on your feet, you’ll thank me.

Mawwiage is what bwings us togethew

Thursday, July 13th, 2006

I’m thinking about marriage rather than weddings today. Of course, the two are highly intertwined and both are rocked by large and small-scale controversy. Did you hear about the Massachusetts man suing his son’s bride and her family because she is “too ugly?”

Dr. Pandey of Belchertown (hee!) said in his lawsuit that after they had flown to India to meet the bride, his wife, son, and daughter were “shocked” to discover the Indian woman was “ugly with dark complexion and protruded bad teeth and couldn’t speak English to carry on conversation.”

While that isn’t exactly a nice attitude for people to have toward marriage, it does take all kinds. For example, if you’re not keen on a traditional western wedding, you could try Nikah urfi, handfasting, a digital wedding, or a modern-day Fleet wedding (seen below).

Do it in secret on Fleet Street

When it comes to marriage, there are also some interesting options that go beyond your one-on-one love marriages and your arranged marriages. There is covenant marriage, sororate marriage, levirate marriage, morganatic marriage, common-law marriage, circle marriage, open marriage, and serial marriage. Whew!

Personally, I’m still partial to the ever-popular monogamous marriage, but I’m not about to deny two or more consenting adults (humans, that is–dolphin and snake lovers can step aside) their chances at happiness. According to, the odds they’ll stick together are better than I thought.