Archive for August, 2006

Wear what you dare…no, really!

Thursday, August 31st, 2006

Don\'t forget to invite Sponge Bob!

No doubt some brides- and grooms-to-be invite guests to wear whatever they like and cross their fingers that their friends and relatives won’t take their admonition too far. But not UK residents Dave Brown and Barbara Smith. They said “wear what you dare” and meant it. The vampires, skeletons, superheroes, nuns, and Native Americans in attendance made the bride and groom look practically conservative. Brown was decked out in a kilt in his family’s tartan and Smith donned a red and black, silk and leather gown.

[Brown’s] dad Malcolm said: “I sat at my son’s wedding with SpongeBob SquarePants next to me!”

So next time you ask a MOB or MOG about the formality of the upcoming wedding only to be told that any old thing will be just fine, suit up in your Jack Sparrow costume or your poodle skirt. Just don’t wear this:

Escante Women\'s Blushing Bride

Champagne on the brain

Wednesday, August 30th, 2006

Who says she isn\'t pure?

Not that champagne, silly. I’m talking about champagne (or sand or gold) gowns. Put me in white and I look like I’m dead. It’s sad, but true. Furthermore, I don’t tan and I look ridiculous with even the most realistic fake bakes. Surely, I’m not the only one. I don’t look particularly healthy in off-white shades, either.

What’s left? Champagne, gold, etc. And how do you know if a non-white gown (like the French taffeta number from Bonny shown above) is right for you? Just ignore the ferocious look of the model in the picture, first of all. Then consider your skin tone and undertones (thanks, RZA!). If you’ve been “blessed” with fair, yellow-tinted skin like I have, you’ll most likely look your best in warmer natural colors. Those with medium skin with yellow undertones also look great in sands and champagne.


Gifting for guests

Tuesday, August 29th, 2006

Feel free not to feed the moneytrunk

Well, I’m sure we all know by now that guests are under no obligation to give a newlywed couple a gift that is equal in monetary value to the cost of one or two plates at the reception dinner. In fact, guests are under no obligation to give brides and grooms any gift at all – though it’s not nice to abstain.

Neither is it appropriate to ask for money or specify that it will be a wishing well wedding in your wedding invitations. It’s alright to have a card catcher at the reception but you should never expect people will feel inclined to include cash with their cards.

Can you tell I’m still in an etiquette centered frame of mind?

Luckily, the rules for guests when it comes to gift giving are relatively simple. Guests should send their gifts ahead to the residence of the MOB and FOB or to the home of the bride- and groom-to-be. Likewise, gifts can arrive just after the invitation is received or a bit after the wedding has taken place.

Guests who want to know if or where the couple might be registered can ask someone in the wedding party, a relative of the couple getting married, or individuals who are helping out with the planning. But, according to Beau Coup (and Miss Manners), choosing not to utilize the registry is in no way unmannerly.

Some people may still prefer the element of surprise when giving a gift, or might have something personal in mind to give to the couple. A gift should be a token of affection, and is not intended to pay for the wedding. However, to not send a gift altogether is in poor taste. Depending on your relationship with the couple, the gift can be small, or something more substantial.

Everyday Italian: 125 Simple and Delicious Recipes

As you can no doubt imagine, cookbooks, like Everyday Italian: 125 Simple and Delicious Recipes, remain a popular choice.

Miss Manners says…

Monday, August 28th, 2006

After the ever-fabulous Mcmiller mentioned Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior in our little discussion of shower etiquette the other day, I had to order the book. I mean, who can resist a title like that? So I’ve been flipping through it, taking special care to dog-ear all of the pages that concern wedding manners, and wanted to share some gems with you.

Regarding how guests should dress:

If there were a rule forbidding wedding guests from being prettier than the bride, Miss Manners supposes that they, not the bride, would have to wear veils…attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder. If the bridegroom finds this lady more attractive than the bride, Miss Manners only hopes he finds out before the ceremony.

Regarding the fact that it is now appropriate to say “Congratulations” to a new bride:

It is because today’s brides hear far worse. Those who are repeatedly told, “It’s about time!” and asked, “Are you pregnant?” are only too happy to accept kind thoughts, however they are phrased.

Regarding tossing rice at very pregnant brides:

You could throw minute rice, symbolizing that things are happening any minute now. Miss Manners prefers the paella or pilaf approach: The more good things in your symbolism the better, but don’t examine it too closely.

Regarding grooms that find traditional wedding cakes ostentatious:

Who are you, the Mies van der Rohe of the pastry shop? Wedding cakes are supposed to be vulgar. Go buy yourself a doughnut to satisfy your aesthetic sense, and let [the bride] have her wedding cake.

Seriously, Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior is awesome. Check it out already!

Let’s run away together

Friday, August 25th, 2006

Anytime and anywhere, just get me to the county clerk\'s on time

If I was going to elope, I think I’d want to do it in this silk shantung suit from Aria Bridesmaids. In white, of course. And I’d nix the little purse and get myself a single calla lily wrapped in a plain ribbon. Then I’d top off the whole works with something like this white straw cloche hat by Armani. That is my dream elopement outfit right there.

While my parents (especially my stepmom) would go rabid if I eloped, I still think the notion of eloping is très romantique. Sure, marriage is supposed to be a public declaration of commitment in front of family and friends. And everyone can appreciate a good party. But I see nothing at all wrong with a couple choosing to make their declaration in a private way.

That said, it is time to bid a tearful adieu to a longstanding Vegas tradition: the red-eye quickie wedding. The Chicago-Sun Times recently reported that the Las Vegas marriage bureau will be closing its all-night counter, “eliminating 24-hour marriage license service on Fridays, Saturday and holidays. The counter did not offer after-midnight service Monday through Thursday.”

But if you’re the impulsive type, don’t fret. Madly-in-love couples can still get hitched on the fly from eight in the morning to midnight.

Do you take this link?

Thursday, August 24th, 2006

Lovely and yummy

Vegan to the core? Express your beliefs through your choice of bridal gear by walking down the aisle with a veggie bouquet. They’re attractive AND edible. Companies like Incredible Edible Bouquets and Veggie Bouquet can help you incorporate your love of vegetables into your wedding theme.

Remember designer Austin Scarlett? If you have no clue who I’m talking about, he was the fabulous prettyboy blonde from the first season of BRAVO’s Project Runway. Well Nina Callaway of About Weddings was lucky enough to meet Scarlett, and chat him up about his luxurious wedding gown designs and his experiences on Project Runway. Check out the interview here.

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Pimp My Bride

Wednesday, August 23rd, 2006

When I dream of my wedding day, I visualize something like this. Alright, maybe not, but this clip still cracked me up. So, how do you really pimp a bride?

Bling ring!

First you need a true bling ring, like this one from Variety Gem.

Nothing is classier than a bare midriff

And naturally the bride can’t be hidin’ her assets behind yards of tulle. Get a midriff baring gown like this one from Allure Couture.

Like a bus, but badder

Finally, you need to drive off into the sunset in one of these gas guzzling H2 limos.

Congratulations. You are now BIG PIMPIN’!