Comments on: Men get off so easy http://manolobrides.com/2007/04/19/men-get-off-so-easy/ Manolo Loves the Brides! Wed, 08 Feb 2012 11:59:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: La BellaDonna http://manolobrides.com/2007/04/19/men-get-off-so-easy/comment-page-1/#comment-101662 La BellaDonna Fri, 27 Apr 2007 00:40:23 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/04/19/men-get-off-so-easy/#comment-101662 One good thing the groom can do? <i>ASK the men he wants to participate to participate!</i> My dear sweet brother <i>assumed</i> that of course his brothers were going to be his groomsmen and ushers - but he didn't think to mention it until, I think, about two weeks or less before the wedding!! Unnecessary chaos and unpleasantness ensued; one brother agreed, no problem; the other (who is admittedly quirky; I love him, but it is a True Thing) declined. He loved his brother, he was going to be there at the wedding, but for whatever his reasons (to which he was certainly entitled), he wasn't comfortable with the short notice, or the cost of the tux - whatever. He wouldn't do it. Eeesh. So, gentlemen, do remember to actually <i>ask</i> - preferably with a few months' notice. One good thing the groom can do? ASK the men he wants to participate to participate! My dear sweet brother assumed that of course his brothers were going to be his groomsmen and ushers – but he didn’t think to mention it until, I think, about two weeks or less before the wedding!! Unnecessary chaos and unpleasantness ensued; one brother agreed, no problem; the other (who is admittedly quirky; I love him, but it is a True Thing) declined. He loved his brother, he was going to be there at the wedding, but for whatever his reasons (to which he was certainly entitled), he wasn’t comfortable with the short notice, or the cost of the tux – whatever. He wouldn’t do it. Eeesh. So, gentlemen, do remember to actually ask – preferably with a few months’ notice.

]]> By: Sarah http://manolobrides.com/2007/04/19/men-get-off-so-easy/comment-page-1/#comment-95991 Sarah Sun, 22 Apr 2007 01:49:06 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/04/19/men-get-off-so-easy/#comment-95991 Thanks so much for answering our question, NtB -- my boy and I appreciate it! Thanks so much for answering our question, NtB — my boy and I appreciate it!

]]> By: Rhonda http://manolobrides.com/2007/04/19/men-get-off-so-easy/comment-page-1/#comment-94570 Rhonda Thu, 19 Apr 2007 22:21:25 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/04/19/men-get-off-so-easy/#comment-94570 Never teh Bride, Great topic! Getting the guys to be involved or at least interested seems to be one of the most common wedding problems out there. I'm actually dedicating my whole week of blogging next week to this issue. I'll email you with the details. Rhonda Never teh Bride,

Great topic! Getting the guys to be involved or at least interested seems to be one of the most common wedding problems out there. I’m actually dedicating my whole week of blogging next week to this issue. I’ll email you with the details.

Rhonda

]]> By: Twistie http://manolobrides.com/2007/04/19/men-get-off-so-easy/comment-page-1/#comment-94568 Twistie Thu, 19 Apr 2007 22:06:09 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/04/19/men-get-off-so-easy/#comment-94568 The funny thing, Jane, is I really would have been completely cool with the kimono and top hat idea, even if my beloved had wanted all the groomsmen to wear them. I thought it would have been nice to have a slight nod of the head to my beloved's Japanese heritage beyond the wonderful sushi his mother provided for the reception. But to each their own. Oh, and my other brother said as soon as he was asked to be in the wedding party that he was wearing his kilt and that was that. My beloved knew better than to say anything after that. My family is noted for being determined to display our Scottishness. I do love a man in a kilt. The funny thing, Jane, is I really would have been completely cool with the kimono and top hat idea, even if my beloved had wanted all the groomsmen to wear them. I thought it would have been nice to have a slight nod of the head to my beloved’s Japanese heritage beyond the wonderful sushi his mother provided for the reception.

But to each their own.

Oh, and my other brother said as soon as he was asked to be in the wedding party that he was wearing his kilt and that was that. My beloved knew better than to say anything after that. My family is noted for being determined to display our Scottishness.

I do love a man in a kilt.

]]> By: JaneC http://manolobrides.com/2007/04/19/men-get-off-so-easy/comment-page-1/#comment-94564 JaneC Thu, 19 Apr 2007 21:43:16 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/04/19/men-get-off-so-easy/#comment-94564 Twistie, I sincerely hope that my groom-to-be never sees that comment. He is the sort who would probably beg and bribe his best man to show up in a kimono and top hat. He already tried to get the best man to wear traditional Slavic costume--my GtB will be wearing a kilt as he is of Scottish descent, and the best man is Slavic-American, so I sort of see the logic...but no. Twistie, I sincerely hope that my groom-to-be never sees that comment. He is the sort who would probably beg and bribe his best man to show up in a kimono and top hat. He already tried to get the best man to wear traditional Slavic costume–my GtB will be wearing a kilt as he is of Scottish descent, and the best man is Slavic-American, so I sort of see the logic…but no.

]]> By: Vis Major http://manolobrides.com/2007/04/19/men-get-off-so-easy/comment-page-1/#comment-94561 Vis Major Thu, 19 Apr 2007 21:02:47 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/04/19/men-get-off-so-easy/#comment-94561 "I envision them as being filled with pictures of boobies and recipes for signature drinks containing Jaeger." Totally cracked me up. :-) “I envision them as being filled with pictures of boobies and recipes for signature drinks containing Jaeger.”

Totally cracked me up. :-)

]]> By: Twistie http://manolobrides.com/2007/04/19/men-get-off-so-easy/comment-page-1/#comment-94560 Twistie Thu, 19 Apr 2007 20:59:43 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/04/19/men-get-off-so-easy/#comment-94560 I remember well that one of the duties that devolved to groomsmen in my wedding was hounding the groom to make a decision about what they should wear. Somehow it never occured to my beloved that he needed to tell them anything about that. At last one of my brothers called and announced that unless he heard otherwise within the week, he was going to show up in a kimono and top hat. I told him that was fine with me, but I would see what my beloved had to say on the subject. Turns out he assumed everyone knew that since they all owned some form of formalwear of their own, they should just wear that. Communication was a tidge lacking in that regard. In the end, my brother wore his wedding suit which had been custom made for him and was quite lovely. Still, a little piece of me has always regretted not seeing him in the top hat and kimono ensemble. I think it would have been quite colorful. I remember well that one of the duties that devolved to groomsmen in my wedding was hounding the groom to make a decision about what they should wear. Somehow it never occured to my beloved that he needed to tell them anything about that.

At last one of my brothers called and announced that unless he heard otherwise within the week, he was going to show up in a kimono and top hat. I told him that was fine with me, but I would see what my beloved had to say on the subject.

Turns out he assumed everyone knew that since they all owned some form of formalwear of their own, they should just wear that. Communication was a tidge lacking in that regard.

In the end, my brother wore his wedding suit which had been custom made for him and was quite lovely. Still, a little piece of me has always regretted not seeing him in the top hat and kimono ensemble. I think it would have been quite colorful.

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