Ever teh Bride? Now teh Bride?

Hey, everyone. Before I say anything more, I need to extend my sincerest gratitude toward the wonderful Twistie, as it was she that made my nuptial leave of absence possible. And, to top it off, her posts were fantastically informative and captivating. So let’s everyone give her a shout out of thanks, shall we?

As you no doubt already know, I am now a wife, as well as an aunt and an in-law. The first role has already proven exciting – “my husband” seems to carry more weight than “my fiancé” or “my boyfriend.” I almost feel like I’m now a part of some secret club, at least where my paternal family is concerned. I’m only in the membership registration phase, however, as you’re only ever really in the aforementioned club if you have children.

Since I didn’t talk overmuch about my own matrimonial choices (to keep prying family and friends from knowing too much about my plans), I thought I’d spend the next few days discussing the ups and downs of my own wedding experience. If I were called upon to do it all over again, there isn’t much in the way of details that I’d change. I would, however, handle some organizational tidbits quite differently.

That aside, I truly, truly, truly enjoyed my own wedding…more than I thought it possible to, really. The ceremony was — dare I say it — fun, and I did at least fill up on cake, even if I didn’t get quite as much lunch as I would have liked. Also, my stylist was wonderful throughout, appearing magically at my side whenever my hair or lip gloss needed any sort of touching up. Now if only I could get him to pretty me up on a daily basis, my life would be almost perfect!

Stay tuned, there’s more to come, and I’m glad I’m back at the keyboard! Also, just so you know, that’s me and the Beard above, in a photo taken by our good friend Enrique.

22 Responses to “Ever teh Bride? Now teh Bride?”

  1. Riona says:

    Look forward so much to hearing (and maybe seeing?) some details? Lovely photo!

  2. Twistie says:

    May you and The Beard spend many, many delightful years together!

    (settles in to wait for more photos…considers framing the one today)

  3. C* says:

    Yay congrats NtB and welcome back!

  4. Pencils says:

    Congratulations! Now the Bride! Mrs The Beard? Nah, don’t like that one.

    Can’t wait to hear about your wedding planning. Although it will most likely be too late for my wedding planning: I’m getting married a week from Sunday.

  5. Phyllis says:


    I can say for a fact that four things happen after you get married (1) Now that you’re hitched, you can just say “my husband” and no one will ever again express the slighest bit of interest in the status of your relationship because everyone gets it (you don’t even need to use his name!), (2) weddings are *much* more fun to attend once you get your own out of the way, (3) If you took your husband’s name you may never get used to hearing “Mrs.CCCC” without thinking of your mother-in-law is in the room, and (4) friends are something you can choose but family you’re stuck with! ;o)

  6. asiji says:

    Well, if you’re going to keep maintaining this blog and keep up your sense of enthusiasm about it, how about Forever the Bride? Or, maybe Never the Bridesmaid?

    Settle in, there’s going to be a bit of a headache while one of you tries to juggle all of the paperwork for a name change. (And get ready for a fight if he’s the one changing his name. Some places will insist that you can’t even do it.) I ended up taking my husband’s last name (moved from last alphabetically to first, now people can spell and pronounce my last name, and I’m not very close to my birth family), but he and I both added my maiden name as a second last middle name, so both names are reflected when our full names need to be written out (like on most legal documents)

  7. la petite chou chou says:

    Wow, Ntb!! That was fast!


  8. bethgirl says:

    MANY congratulations to you, NtB! Your teaser photo is lovely. I think it will be fun to read about your wedding-planning thoughts “after the fact.” Welcome back and welcome to married life!

    It is wonderful to have your best friend by your side each day. I have only been married about 4 years, but to me, the best thing about marriage is knowing that my dear husband and I share in the best and worst moments of our lives, individually and collectively. I fall more in love with him each day. (awwww!)

    Good luck to you in your new marriage!

  9. 04u-WFKYVxw23Bb-OXKklG4kvUDGdOkQx9UC0_ApmcQ. says:

    Woo Hoo!

    (And incedentally, you look utterly fabulous!)

  10. Married 6 years says:

    Making your boyfriend your husband is like upgrating your computer. Fantastic for everyone involved.

    I thought my boyfriend was my best friend before we married. But I had no idea of how awesome our relationship was to become. It gets better every day!


  11. Dianasaur says:

    Congratulations! I’m so happy for you. Can’t wait to see more pictures and here details. I have two months to go so I’m welcoming advice to ease the stress!

  12. aimlessjoys says:

    Many, Many Happinesses to You! Lovely photo, Lovely BRIDE & HUSBAND!

  13. Kai Jones says:

    I wish you joy!

  14. Chloe says:

    Congratulations! The photo of you both is lovely – best wishes 🙂

  15. Vis Major says:

    Congratulations to you & The Beard. May you have many wonderful years together! Also, thanks for sharing a picture with us. I bet you looked fabulous.

  16. Mary Ann says:


    You look so happy and gorgeous (and who knew that the Beard actually has a beard)! I’m looking forward to reading more about the celebration of your marriage:)

  17. La BellaDonna says:

    Welcome back to Now teh Bride! For some reason, alas, I cannot see the photos (firewall? Phooey!), but I’m sure you looked wonderful, both of you. And many thanks to the capable Twistie, for the posts that entertained, enlightened, and ensured continuity in your absence!

    And NtB is so right about scheduling “private time.” My siblings, whom I love with all my heart, stayed to chat with my husband at our place after the wedding. I went to bed about 3:00 AM; I don’t know when my husband got to bed. And the next day, I made breakfast (French toast and hash browns) for twenty-six people. I wouldn’t do either of those things if I were getting married now.

  18. enygma says:

    Congratulations!! I can’t wait to see pictures!

  19. Ninjarina says:

    Gong Xi Ni!

    I think it was in an older episode of the Simpsons when Marge mentions that she’s in a secret club – there are only two members and they have rings! I think you just made your own secret club =)

  20. belasala says:

    Congrats NtB! I’m so happy for you! Can’t wait to see more pics.

    Re: private time – it’s programmed into a Jewish wedding! After the ceremony, the bride and groom retire to someplace private nearby for a little time together in the first few moments of being married. It’s called the yichud, and I’m very excited for ours (our room will have our favorite snacks!).

  21. Susan says:

    What a wonderful photo -congratulations!