Comments on: So If FTD Provides the Flowers, What Does Tampax Pay For? http://manolobrides.com/2007/09/02/so-if-ftd-provides-the-flowers-what-does-tampax-pay-for/ Manolo Loves the Brides! Thu, 18 Mar 2010 02:15:18 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Livia http://manolobrides.com/2007/09/02/so-if-ftd-provides-the-flowers-what-does-tampax-pay-for/comment-page-1/#comment-135970 Livia Sat, 08 Sep 2007 23:18:18 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/09/02/so-if-ftd-provides-the-flowers-what-does-tampax-pay-for/#comment-135970 My husband and I got married at a somewhat sleazy marriage saloon on Wilshire Boulevard in Los Angeles. We invited a few friends, those who could make it on 2 days notice. All of them were gay men. The wedding cost us $184, and the receipt was stamped "No Refunds" in English and Spanish. Our best man came in a black suit and an orange t-shirt. The best man's boyfriend was the photographer. He used a Polaroid camera. Our friend who "gave me away" gamely practiced the bridal walk down the aisle with me until we were able to do it to the Venezuelan Baptist minister's satisfaction. We'd have gone to Las Vegas, but couldn't get a hotel room. Who knew that Halloween was so big in Vegas? This turned out to be better. Our wedding gifts included a pair of champagne glasses and a couple of Halloween cupcakes for our 3-day weekend honeymoon in Solvang. It was all absolutely, wonderfully memorable. We drove off into the sunset on Highway One after the ceremony and the lunch we bought our participant friends. We still have the small cuckoo clock we bought as a honeymoon souvenir. We've been blissfully happily, wonderfully partnered, for 15 years. We wouldn't have had it any other way. I understand our wedding may not be for everyone. For us, it was perfect. It makes me sad to read about huge weddings that stress the couple so badly they separate within weeks after, or couples that feel they have to shake down corporations or their friends to have the wedding they want. Isn't it about what happens after? Why put on an insane display? Does it make the marriage any better? Just asking. My husband and I got married at a somewhat sleazy marriage saloon on Wilshire Boulevard in Los Angeles. We invited a few friends, those who could make it on 2 days notice. All of them were gay men. The wedding cost us $184, and the receipt was stamped “No Refunds” in English and Spanish. Our best man came in a black suit and an orange t-shirt. The best man’s boyfriend was the photographer. He used a Polaroid camera. Our friend who “gave me away” gamely practiced the bridal walk down the aisle with me until we were able to do it to the Venezuelan Baptist minister’s satisfaction.

We’d have gone to Las Vegas, but couldn’t get a hotel room. Who knew that Halloween was so big in Vegas? This turned out to be better. Our wedding gifts included a pair of champagne glasses and a couple of Halloween cupcakes for our 3-day weekend honeymoon in Solvang. It was all absolutely, wonderfully memorable. We drove off into the sunset on Highway One after the ceremony and the lunch we bought our participant friends. We still have the small cuckoo clock we bought as a honeymoon souvenir. We’ve been blissfully happily, wonderfully partnered, for 15 years. We wouldn’t have had it any other way.

I understand our wedding may not be for everyone. For us, it was perfect. It makes me sad to read about huge weddings that stress the couple so badly they separate within weeks after, or couples that feel they have to shake down corporations or their friends to have the wedding they want. Isn’t it about what happens after? Why put on an insane display? Does it make the marriage any better? Just asking.

]]> By: class-factotum http://manolobrides.com/2007/09/02/so-if-ftd-provides-the-flowers-what-does-tampax-pay-for/comment-page-1/#comment-135946 class-factotum Sat, 08 Sep 2007 16:31:09 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/09/02/so-if-ftd-provides-the-flowers-what-does-tampax-pay-for/#comment-135946 Ugh. I went to an Easter sunrise service on the beach in Miami years ago with a friend who belonged to the church running the service. In the middle of the service, the pastor thanked Lipton for sponsoring the service and afterwards, there were Lipton reps handing out free samples and coupons. Tacky, tacky, tacky. Didn't Jesus thrown the moneychangers out of the temple? Ugh. I went to an Easter sunrise service on the beach in Miami years ago with a friend who belonged to the church running the service. In the middle of the service, the pastor thanked Lipton for sponsoring the service and afterwards, there were Lipton reps handing out free samples and coupons. Tacky, tacky, tacky. Didn’t Jesus thrown the moneychangers out of the temple?

]]> By: Ninjarina http://manolobrides.com/2007/09/02/so-if-ftd-provides-the-flowers-what-does-tampax-pay-for/comment-page-1/#comment-135691 Ninjarina Thu, 06 Sep 2007 09:28:25 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/09/02/so-if-ftd-provides-the-flowers-what-does-tampax-pay-for/#comment-135691 Ugh, how crass. Still, it has to force one to re-examine one's lifestyle - why are you being turned down by businesses that are actively searching to sponsor people? Ugh, how crass.

Still, it has to force one to re-examine one’s lifestyle – why are you being turned down by businesses that are actively searching to sponsor people?

]]> By: Pencils http://manolobrides.com/2007/09/02/so-if-ftd-provides-the-flowers-what-does-tampax-pay-for/comment-page-1/#comment-135519 Pencils Tue, 04 Sep 2007 14:56:12 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/09/02/so-if-ftd-provides-the-flowers-what-does-tampax-pay-for/#comment-135519 Very true, Twistie! I'm very much in agreement that couples should have the wedding they can afford. We did! Actually, we could have afforded more of a wedding, but we were more interested in putting that money towards a down payment on a house than spending it on one day, no matter how special the day. (We had a beautiful small wedding with a budget of 10K.) Corporate sponsorship of your wedding--of any personal celebration--is tacky. And I don't understand why any company would think it was a good idea anyway, considering the limited nature of the audience. During my wedding planning I saw so many posts on my local weddings board from brides desperately asking how they could raise more money, asking how you go about getting a loan, or would a low-interest credit card be a better idea... I always responded "DON'T!!" but they'd say they had signed the contracts and had to pay the money. Besides, many of them said, they'd get the money back in gifts anyway! Oh yeah, because you can count on that. Sigh. And people wonder why Americans are drowning in credit card debt! Very true, Twistie! I’m very much in agreement that couples should have the wedding they can afford. We did! Actually, we could have afforded more of a wedding, but we were more interested in putting that money towards a down payment on a house than spending it on one day, no matter how special the day. (We had a beautiful small wedding with a budget of 10K.) Corporate sponsorship of your wedding–of any personal celebration–is tacky. And I don’t understand why any company would think it was a good idea anyway, considering the limited nature of the audience. During my wedding planning I saw so many posts on my local weddings board from brides desperately asking how they could raise more money, asking how you go about getting a loan, or would a low-interest credit card be a better idea… I always responded “DON’T!!” but they’d say they had signed the contracts and had to pay the money. Besides, many of them said, they’d get the money back in gifts anyway! Oh yeah, because you can count on that. Sigh. And people wonder why Americans are drowning in credit card debt!

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