Greening my do-over (and over and over)
When I was researching bouquets before my wedding, I suddenly developed a thing for green roses…and green lilies and green everything else. I’m not sure where my obsession came from, considering that I’d always found green flowers to be kind of ridiculous, but I was nonetheless adamant about having some non-leafy greens in my bouquet. Sadly, my floral adviser (a designer of some experience) nixed the idea after seeing my wedding colors, and I wisely trusted her judgment.
But that doesn’t mean I can’t create my own green extravaganza, with pretty chair wraps and a stunning Vera Wang gown and greengreengreen centerpieces in tinted, thrifted glass!
Heh, that’s the beauty of having a blog. I get to recreate my wedding, over and over again. This go around, my MOH will be in apple green silk by Nicole Miller and The Beard’s sister will don an ivy green satin number by A.B.S.
What wouldn’t I change? I’d still go with bronze seal ‘n’ send invitations and I’d still donate all of the leftover food to the local halfway house. I’d still have both my mom and my dad walk me down the aisle, and I’d still get married in my grandmother’s back yard. And I’d still marry The Beard, of course!
Have you ever thought about what you might do differently if you could do it all again? I know I’m not the only one out there who would make a change or two — a quick search for ‘wedding regrets‘ tells me that vendor regret, dress regret, bridal party regret, and financial regret are some of the most common feelings out there.
I totally have wedding party regrets! I had two women in my party that I have not spoken a word to since my wedding. I should have replaced them when they didn’t offer to help with the preparations at all but I felt bad kicking them out. But if I had to do it over…I’d have realized that it was my wedding and since they weren’t thrilled by my choice of mate…I should have shown them the door and asked people who supported me and my choice more. Ah well.
What I DO NOT regret are my wedding color choices (suggested by my husband) which were black and red. I wore a stunning red ball gown with black lace panel and train in the back and a black lace bolero jacket in a modern Victorian style. Designed and fitted for me by a local dress designer firm who I adore!
After fourteen years the biggest regret I have is that I didn’t take a firmer hand with the two friends who decided – whether I would or no – to put together birdseed bags to hand all the guests. I really didn’t want to end the day with people throwing things at me, let alone hard things that hurt to be pelted with and don’t come out of the hair for three days.
I really should have told them no and made it stick rather than whining pathetically ‘I don’t suppose there’s any way I can talk you out of this, is there?’
Oh, and it’s not exactly a regret, but I do think it was a waste of money (not much because it was on a big sale, but still) getting that guest book. I only got it because it was very cheap and quite pretty…and in fourteen years I’ve never looked inside it because I already had every scrap of information anyone put in it.
So, one very small regret and one very small ‘what was I thinking’ doesn’t strike me as too bad.
Love the pretty apple green gowns, NtB! Positively lickable!
Will you please tell me what the name or design number of your dress is? I’m trying to find it for sale online. Thank you!