Comments on: To Stress Or Not To Stress, That Is the Question http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/ Manolo Loves the Brides! Sat, 20 Mar 2010 01:43:49 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Tiffany http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-139723 Tiffany Sat, 20 Oct 2007 20:45:09 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/#comment-139723 I so agree. And it's funny, planning my wedding was ridiculously stressful, but we weren't the cause of any of the stress. My parents and inlaws were great and really supportive, and we had very few things that we really cared about... it's just that our plans kept falling through. The only caterer for our original reception location tried to rip us off. There was an arson at our church. The restaurant we chose as an alternate reception location decided that the banquet room wouldn't be available after all. And on and on. The end result was that 7 weeks before our wedding, we changed the date from Saturday to Sunday, and suddenly all our plans clicked into place. It was great. Very low stress. I so agree. And it’s funny, planning my wedding was ridiculously stressful, but we weren’t the cause of any of the stress. My parents and inlaws were great and really supportive, and we had very few things that we really cared about… it’s just that our plans kept falling through. The only caterer for our original reception location tried to rip us off. There was an arson at our church. The restaurant we chose as an alternate reception location decided that the banquet room wouldn’t be available after all. And on and on. The end result was that 7 weeks before our wedding, we changed the date from Saturday to Sunday, and suddenly all our plans clicked into place. It was great. Very low stress.

]]> By: The Manolo Week in Review » Manolo's Shoe Blog: Shoes, Fashion, Celebrity, and Manolo! http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-139703 The Manolo Week in Review » Manolo's Shoe Blog: Shoes, Fashion, Celebrity, and Manolo! Sat, 20 Oct 2007 15:10:05 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/#comment-139703 [...] Twistie… I’m still amazed at the expectation that stress and misery are the primary emotions involved in wedding planning. [...] [...] Twistie… I’m still amazed at the expectation that stress and misery are the primary emotions involved in wedding planning. [...]

]]> By: Twistie http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-139393 Twistie Tue, 16 Oct 2007 16:26:56 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/#comment-139393 Having enough money to do more or less as you please can certainly make life easier, Tizzy, but I don't think it's the whole story by a longshot. I had a grand total of two thousand dollars to work with, and yet I was probably the calmest bride I've ever known. I think it really has a lot more to do with expectations, understanding of the process, and finding ways to go about planning that fit your personality than what sort of budget you have to work with. Having enough money to do more or less as you please can certainly make life easier, Tizzy, but I don’t think it’s the whole story by a longshot. I had a grand total of two thousand dollars to work with, and yet I was probably the calmest bride I’ve ever known.

I think it really has a lot more to do with expectations, understanding of the process, and finding ways to go about planning that fit your personality than what sort of budget you have to work with.

]]> By: Tizzy http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-139349 Tizzy Mon, 15 Oct 2007 23:55:42 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/#comment-139349 Sheesh if I had 37,000 dollars to spend I could have a stress free wedding, too. Sheesh if I had 37,000 dollars to spend I could have a stress free wedding, too.

]]> By: Twistie http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-139320 Twistie Mon, 15 Oct 2007 15:42:42 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/#comment-139320 You're welcome, Lesley! I stumbled across your blog a few days ago and thought your advice was so sensible that I needed to spread the word a little bit. Emotional and psychological preparedness often gets short shrift on this side of the Pond, too. You’re welcome, Lesley! I stumbled across your blog a few days ago and thought your advice was so sensible that I needed to spread the word a little bit.

Emotional and psychological preparedness often gets short shrift on this side of the Pond, too.

]]> By: Lesley http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-139254 Lesley Sun, 14 Oct 2007 22:39:43 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/#comment-139254 Thanks for the mention! I don't know how you found me but I'm glad you did because even though we are thousands of miles away we are coming from the exact same place. I will just say, though, my blog is also about preparing emotionally and psychologically to get married, which in the UK gets overlooked almost completely. In my book, this is the key to being able to deal with things effectively, with clarity of mind and room for creativity. I don't for a minute believe that wedding planning is the real villain here! Thanks for the mention! I don’t know how you found me but I’m glad you did because even though we are thousands of miles away we are coming from the exact same place.

I will just say, though, my blog is also about preparing emotionally and psychologically to get married, which in the UK gets overlooked almost completely. In my book, this is the key to being able to deal with things effectively, with clarity of mind and room for creativity. I don’t for a minute believe that wedding planning is the real villain here!

]]> By: Chloe http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-139153 Chloe Sat, 13 Oct 2007 18:11:37 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/#comment-139153 LOL my manager at work asked me why I wasn't flipping out dealing with all the wedding planning :-) My fiance & I worked hard to de-stress the wedding, even to the point of promising each other that we wouldn't freak out! I think going into planning your wedding with realistic ideas and not getting sucked into the "wedding industry" idea of what the day should be. LOL my manager at work asked me why I wasn’t flipping out dealing with all the wedding planning :-) My fiance & I worked hard to de-stress the wedding, even to the point of promising each other that we wouldn’t freak out! I think going into planning your wedding with realistic ideas and not getting sucked into the “wedding industry” idea of what the day should be.

]]> By: Glinda http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-139150 Glinda Sat, 13 Oct 2007 17:52:37 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/#comment-139150 I was lucky not to have gotten that response. I would have been bummed. And if anything, my husband was a wee bit TOO involved, if you ask me. I was lucky not to have gotten that response. I would have been bummed.

And if anything, my husband was a wee bit TOO involved, if you ask me.

]]> By: JaneC http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/comment-page-1/#comment-139142 JaneC Sat, 13 Oct 2007 16:50:55 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/2007/10/13/to-stress-or-not-to-stress-that-is-the-question/#comment-139142 Thankfully, I have a very good relationship with my mother and my mother has very good taste. Her best friend is also a retired professional event planner. I planned the ceremony myself, but handed them a very basic sketch of what I wanted the reception to be like and let them have at it. They seem to have had a lot of fun, and I didn't have to worry about what color table cloths to get and whether to serve beer or not--I just want people to have fun at the reception, to dance, and have some good food. So, I have not really been stressed about the wedding planning, until now. Now, with a mere five weeks to go, all kinds of people are not cooperating. The kilt maker finally sent my fiancé and his father their kilts, but the jackets and sporrans haven't come in (easy to rent, sure, but it's annoying to rent when you've already paid for your own tailor-made jacket). My fiancé's favorite cousin, who had verbally agreed to be an usher back in May, has sent back the invitation response card marked "Regrets" with no explanation of why he isn't coming. Only one of the five guys I asked to be altar servers has emailed me back (three weeks later). It's getting difficult to remain calm. Thankfully, I have a very good relationship with my mother and my mother has very good taste. Her best friend is also a retired professional event planner. I planned the ceremony myself, but handed them a very basic sketch of what I wanted the reception to be like and let them have at it. They seem to have had a lot of fun, and I didn’t have to worry about what color table cloths to get and whether to serve beer or not–I just want people to have fun at the reception, to dance, and have some good food.

So, I have not really been stressed about the wedding planning, until now. Now, with a mere five weeks to go, all kinds of people are not cooperating. The kilt maker finally sent my fiancé and his father their kilts, but the jackets and sporrans haven’t come in (easy to rent, sure, but it’s annoying to rent when you’ve already paid for your own tailor-made jacket). My fiancé’s favorite cousin, who had verbally agreed to be an usher back in May, has sent back the invitation response card marked “Regrets” with no explanation of why he isn’t coming. Only one of the five guys I asked to be altar servers has emailed me back (three weeks later). It’s getting difficult to remain calm.

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