Public Proposals: You’d Better Be Very Sure
By TwistieMore and more folk seem convinced these days that if a marriage proposal is just a simple question asked privately, that’s not nearly enough. Almost every day, it seems, we hear tales of guys who did it ‘right’ by hiring casts of thousands, organizing hugely elaborate rituals, or submerging perfectly good rings in glasses of good champagne to the sorry detriment of both items.
The thing is, if you ask someone to marry you in public and they say no, there’s pretty much no way not to be publicly humiliated. You need to be very certain a) that the answer is going to be yes, and that the askee is going to be okay with the very public nature of the moment.
After all, you don’t want to be this poor guy:
But if you’re very certain of the answer, and certain she (or he; after all, it’s the 21st century and women can do the proposing, too) will appreciate something very public and very elaborate, then by all means go for it…particularly if you have the sort of friends this guy has to help him out:
November 24th, 2007 at 7:01 pm
Dammit, Twistie! I wasn’t expecting to be sitting on the couch, bawling, on a Saturday afternoon. That second video was just amazing. I didn’t think that I could love Scrubs more than I already do. Just…awwwwwwwwww. Loveit!
Also, my hubby proposed to me in our favorite restaurant, a place which means a lot to us, and it was just the two of us. It was absolutely perfect and I wouldn’t have had it any other way. I’m generally not a fan of big, public proposals…but there’s clearly an exception to be made for the one above.
November 25th, 2007 at 3:58 pm
Awwww, that was so sweet!
November 25th, 2007 at 4:26 pm
My sister was dating the widowed fire chief for two years when he showed up with the ladder truck. He went up the ladder to her fifth-floor apartment window with a dozen roses and a ring (in front of all his firemen buddies, of course) and proposed.
She said, “I need to think about it.”
Which, as we all know, is code for “No.”
He is now married to someone who, unlike my sister, shares his “let’s not discipline my boy because his mother is dead” approach to child rearing.
November 26th, 2007 at 4:56 pm
I would have freaked (and not in a good way) over a public proposal. Granted, I wouldn’t have minded more effort than simply dropping to his knee in our bedroom with both of us in our pajamas, but oh well. He has since learned how to make an appropriate fuss, with no overtly public surprises, but still something I can gush about later.
November 27th, 2007 at 5:59 pm
…and sometimes, the public proposal goes very very wrong.
Like this one:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/spain/article/0,,2214928,00.html
Eek!