When it comes to wedding favors, there’s one important thing to keep in mind: unless it’s a consumable, most of your guests will either leave them behind or junk them quickly. Over the years I’ve taken home more than my share of plastic doves, personalized wine glasses, tiny implements like flashlights that don’t actually work, and other assorted useless bits of flotsom and jetsam. Most of them got kept for a few puzzled months and then finally tossed in the trash…though I do still have a couple wineglasses with the names of couples I barely know sitting in my cupboard. They don’t get used, but I can’t quite bring myself to simply toss them and nobody wanted them at our last garage sale. No, I wasn’t surprised, but I gave it a shot.
Over and over again, it’s been made clear that if you want your favors to be a hit, then it’s best to give a popular kind of candy like chocolate. I’m all for chocolate, of course. I love it. It’s tasty, it’s sweet, and it’s nearly universally popular. But there are some other options you may wish to consider.
Why not soap? Soap is even more universal than chocolate. We all need it, and if you don’t like the one you get, it’s easy to either just stick it in the guest bathroom or pass it on to someone else.
And at $2.39 apiece, it’s affordable, too.
Don’t like the hearts? How about shells? They cost a little more, but you get two soaps per favor instead of one.
Not into the soap idea? That’s okay. There are other options. How about tea? If one guest leaves it behind, another will have plenty of room to take a second…or you might use the extras for yourself.
All of these favors and hundreds more are available from Hanson Ellis.
Of course, you don’t have to give favors at all. If you’re looking to save a few dollars on your wedding, favors are actually a great thing to cut. If you give them out and they aren’t consumable, at least half will probably get left behind and half of those taken will never be used. If you don’t give them out, chances are 90% of your guests won’t even notice.
Just do me one favor, if you’ll pardon the pun: if you decide not to give out favors, for the love of all that’s holy do not put out some sort of notice that you decided rather than spending the money on your guests, you’ve given it to charity for them instead. For one thing, people should be allowed to choose their own charities. I don’t care who you give it to, you’re going to at least annoy and possibly offend someone. More than that, though, those notices tell your guests that it wasn’t spending the money you minded, but spending the money on them which is an incredibly rude thing to say. Go ahead and give to the charity of your choice. Just don’t try to tell me that’s my party favor, because it isn’t.