Comments on: Do Me a Favor

By: Jennie

Jennie — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 06:19:40 +0000

I had no idea I was so out of it. Wedding favors are now expected? Personally, I am doing everything I can to de-clutter/de-crap my house. I have so much “in honor”, “representing”, etc… shite in my house, drawers, cabinets that I can’t stand it. Goodwill doesn’t want it. My name is not Shirley or Tom so it’s not usuable. Personally, spend the money on the bar, on a charity, not at all, or on your honeymoon. This is YOUR day. Not mine. Please do things your way and to the darkest pits of the seventh dimension with what everyone else thinks!

By: CCC

CCC — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 19:44:43 +0000

I have a serious problem with the selfish statements on this blog. I would be honored if someone donated to a charity instead of giving me some crappy trinket. I actually got the idea to donate in lieu of giving favors at a friend’s recent wedding — they donated in lieu of a gift, and I thought it was a great idea. So my fiance and I are donating to a cancer charity. We’re researching them to make sure it’s one that actually funds research for a cure. But my fiance’s father died of cancer, and my mother battled cancer three years ago (we’re lucky, she beat it), and frankly, if any of my guests has a problem with that then I don’t know that they’re someone I want in my life. If they want the $4 votive candle so badly I’ll happily drive their selfish butt to the store so they can buy it themselves.

By: Charity Bride

Charity Bride — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 00:20:59 +0000

I agree with everyone on this blog that said ” I would be honored to see that the bride and groom cared enough to donate money instead of waste it on candles, soap, or whatever”

Seriously- you do have to make sure you are not doing a controversial organization but other than that —– if you don’t like the idea of donating to the less fortunate please do not show up to my wedding!

Has America become soooo materialistic that they would rather receive a stupid candle then know that money was going to the less fortunate. Who can argue with “Make a Wish Foundation” —- another way i would see getting around the political controversery is to donate to a local charity that is highly viewed among the community. My fiance and i are from the same town so we’re donating to the humane society in our town.

We are feeding our guests dinner for free- yes we get a gift in return but i would rather say “i helped the humane society” instead of 90% of my gifts were thrown away!
And you could offend anyone with any gift and someone is bound not to like it— again please do me the favor and don’t show up to my wedding! We are inviting 150 people but we’re just going to say “on behalf of our guests” not sam, sally, susie, etc… come on why would they care?
In lieu of a favor means instead of— instead of wasting $400 on favors we actually saved a dogs life—- oh and we’re animal lovers so if you hate animals then you have offended us and won’t be invited to our wedding! (seriously if anyone complains at it at my wedding then tough luck)—- you’re telling me you have never offended anyone and that you have accomplished please 150 people all at once—- there are other complaints: the ceremony’s too long, im allergic to flowers, i didn’t like the menu choices, i mean the list goes on!

Oh also check out the I Do foundation —- it works with the wedding channel and will donate a portion of your gifts to a charity of your choice! and its no cost to you or your guests! Weddings are so expensive and have become more and more wasteful — consider what you’re doing first!

I think it is soo respectful to donate- and that is what our families do now for christmas- instead of buying another statue we donate to a charity!

By: daisyj

daisyj — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 19:46:23 +0000

I really don’t care one way or the other about wedding favors, or what charity the couple decide to support in honor of their wedding. And if you want to cut out unnecessary expenditures somewhere in the wedding to free up money for that charity, then by all means do so. But I’m with Twistie and the people who say they don’t see what this has to do with them. You giving to a cause you support is a fine thing, but it isn’t a gift to me, and I think if I were to get a card to that effect I would feel like you were trying to get double-duty out of the money, by spending it on something you wanted and getting out of a perceived obligation to your guests. None of which is to say I would prefer a plastic tchotchke to world peace; I just think if you’re going to take credit for giving someone something you should probably actually give them something.

By: Maryland

Maryland — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 19:04:32 +0000

@Leah –
Favors are something the wedding INDUSTRY created to entice you to spend more money. I haven’t been to a wedding with favors, and I don’t plan to do them myself.

By: Leah

Leah — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 21:07:00 +0000

@maryland: While I don’t disagree with your sentiments about charitable donations, the favors ARE about the guests, are they not?

By: maryland

maryland — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 16:57:10 +0000

I’m really dissapointed in this blog. How insulting for you to say that charitable giving is not a favor. Instead you suggest soap and other crap? how selfish to say that you don’t want a charity donation in your name. In case you forgot, the wedding is NOT about the guests, it’s about the couple. As a wedding blogger, you are not sending the right message to your readers. shameful.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 22:16:42 +0000

My fiance and I are both in education and are making a donation to the Make a Wish foundation for our 250 guests. Honestly, if anyone attending our wedding is offended by that, helping out and providing for ill children,–I would hope they wouldn’t come.

Personally, I have been to so many weddings and would be honored if I saw that the couple made a donation in my name. I hate trinkets and if you have ever attended a wedding you should know that there are always more than enough sweets present!

By: Julie

Julie — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 04:35:17 +0000

“Yes, lung cancer kills more Americans than breast cancer. No, there isn’t money for research because if you get lung cancer it’s your fault.”

I know this has nothing to do with the topic at hand, but I just wanted to respond to this particular statement. I’m a research oncologist, and I was shocked to read this statement — there is A TON of money for lung cancer research — #2 after breast cancer, followed closely by prostate. It’s the most funded particular form of cancer research at my particular university. A HUGE chunk of money from the tobacco settlements is funneled straight into biomedical research relating solely to lung cancer.

Like I said, nothing to do with the wedding favor topic, but I just wanted to clarify up that misconception.

By: class-factotum

class-factotum — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 00:04:03 +0000

what if you have a Mormon friend attending your wedding? They don’t eat chocolate because it contains caffeine.

I guess I won’t be converting any time soon.