As a precaution, I have started to recruit my best friends, not to cut ribbons and hearts for invitations, not to judge the millions of dresses I have tagged, but to remind me every day that it will be OUR wedding, no one else’s.

If it happens that Valentine’s Day is the best day in terms of scheduling, then that’s a big plus in its favor. Please do not make the day into an unnecessarily pink circus, however. In the history of all things bridal, I am sure there are many, many couples who celebrated their marriages on Halloween, Christmas, and other holidays that traditionally call for decoration without actually resigning themselves to a regrettable theme.

Among your guests there may be those who absolutely adore V-day and they will likely think your wedding fest is romantic for virtue of your chosen date. There may also be those who can’t be bothered to remember any significant dates and they will likely think your wedding fest is lovely simply because it’s yours.

The way I see it, by eschewing lacy hearts and chocolate box aesthetics you’re not ignoring the international significance of the day. Far from it! For all the swoony couples out there who give each other candy roses, there are couples who give each other video games and couple who do nothing at all. You’re just putting your own spin on what is, when it comes right down to it, one Saturday among many.

If you find yourself wanting to give some sort of shout-out to V-day, just give out some silly candy (non themey, of course) If you’re worried that people will think something is wrong with you specifically because you didn’t deck the halls with strings of light-up hearts…well, there’s always one or two people at a wedding who have their strong opinions and it’s best to ignore them.

Just do your own thing, and popular opinion will sort itself out without your having to do anything. And if that seems like a tall order, you could always delay a week!

We’re getting married on 11.2. next year, which is a special date for us. It happens to be a Wednesday, so we thought we’d have a party the next weekend, with only the closest relatives present at the registry office. I must say I was shocked when I noticed it would be Valentine’s. A proposal might be sweet and cute on the day of pink heart-shaped chocolate boxes, but I can’t imagine being serious about a wedding (my feelings on the damn day are, why can’t we be romantic 364 other days of the year as well).

Do you have any ideas? There’s bound to be visitors from out-of-town, and most people have jobs to go to, so I figured Saturday would be the only option. Will I just have to make the day a lavish pink circus show or try to ignore the international meaning of the day? We’d really like to keep our date but I really think Valentine’s day for the big celebration would be mostly embarrassing, not sweet. Does that make any sense?

Thank You Never teh Bride and Twistie for this blog, I love it to bits!

The proposal ones are gorgeous and so sweet though