Comments on: Mismatchy-mismatchy

By: La BellaDonna

La BellaDonna — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 16:30:53 +0000

Well, props to you both, Monica and Pencils; I had the devil’s own time trying to find something in “navy” for my brother’s wedding, which was in August. Now, if I had wanted “black” or “red” – two colours in which I look fabulous, and would normally buy – those two colours were everywhere. But the theme was not “what would the groom’s sister look great in” but “navy.” Which was really, really hard to find in August, especially when 102% of your time is actually being spent making the bride’s dress.

By: Pencils

Pencils — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 15:54:41 +0000

My attendants wore three different dresses. It was an odd wedding party: my sister, who is in her early 40s, as matron of honor, then the bridesmaids and flower girl were all my nieces, ages fourteen to seven. They went from teens to little girls, with body types that ranged the spectrum. There was no way they could all wear the same dress and be comfortable. So I picked out a junior bridesmaid dress for the two eldest bridesmaids, in navy with pale yellow trim. I had a hard time finding something that wasn’t too mature or hootchie, but also something that didn’t look to babyish for the young teens. My youngest junior bridesmaid, at age ten, wore the same dress as the flowergirl (age seven), a traditional girl’s formal dress from Pegeen with a sash and full skirt. The bridesmaid’s dress was navy with a pale yellow sash, the flowergirl wore the opposite colors. And I told my sister, the matron of honor, to wear whatever she wanted, hopefully in navy. She bought a gorgeous dress from Martin McCrea, which was hand-dyed–it turned out to be more of a violet than a navy, but that was fine, it looked gorgeous. I got her lavender roses to go with it.

By: babe_r

babe_r — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 13:20:20 +0000

Wow! Tropical bridesmaid in pink only is actually the BRIDE!

That’s an even more unconventional decision. I think I like it.

By: anon

anon — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 03:01:46 +0000

I only had one bridesmaid and I asked her to wear a floor length chocolate brown gown in a style that mirrored mine. She kicked up quite a stink saying she didn’t want to wear brown, couldn’t she wear grey, or this particular black dress with white piping that she had found (and just wanted an excuse to buy, it didn’t suit the simple elegant look of my dress at all).
I was quite upset because my mum was going to make it and I was only asking her to pay well under $100 for the fabric. Turned out she looked gorgeous in the colour and got compliments all night.
Well that marriage didn’t last very long at all (the bridesmaid wasn’t the only poor choice I made) and next time around I think I will tell my two likely bridesmaids to go shopping together and find something they both like, a top and skirt combo would be fine, and just giving them a colour range. They are very different body types so I would not impose any kind of style direction on them.
I saw that done at a wedding where the bridesmaids all wore the same interesting “going-out” style tshirt and matching skirts and they looked absolutely lovely.

By: Dent

Dent — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 02:00:22 +0000

Oh, if only I could have persuaded my bridesmaids to wear whatever they wanted… Not to mention my mother. They told me I needed to make decisions FOR them. Apparently everybody thought I’d turn into a raging Bridezilla if I didn’t give clear and implicit directions on what to wear. And now I have four lovely bridesmaids who are wearing the exact same dress. Unfortunately I had to pick my battles.

By: Georgie

Georgie — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 19:07:15 +0000

How about this as an idea… wear your own individual dresses but create a theme around accessories? This could be bridal shrugs like the ones seen here: http://www.fauxplay.co.uk where you can buy animal-firendly faux fur shrugs. Worth checking out the pictures.

By: Chelle

Chelle — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 18:48:56 +0000

I told my bridesmaids to find a matte black cocktail dress that made them look fabulous. ( My dress is deep red). My only caveats were that it should’t be too sparkly ( i hate rhinestones etc on dresses) and is shouldn’t be too lacy. But I told them as long as it was black and they looked awesome, they could pick whatever they wanted.

I told them whatever shoes they wanted too, in any color. Black can get boring.

By: Colleen

Colleen — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 22:23:16 +0000

A friend of mine coined a phrase that I totally stole for my own wedding. Her bridesmaids were in “comfortable blue”. As in, “is it comfortable?”, “is it blue?”, “it’s great!”

So in honor of that, my ‘maids are in “comfortable green”. Like LaBellaDonna my maids range from 5’1″ to 6′ and from less to very well endowed so finding one dress would have been cruel to someone, and probably everyone.

By: La BellaDonna

La BellaDonna — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 19:26:41 +0000

What do they call the opposite of Bridezilla? They call her “Michelle,” obviously.

Blablover5, I did something very similar. My bridesmaids ranged from 5 feet tall to 6 feet tall, and I said they could wear any shade of blue that they wanted; the only caveat was that it had to be early 17thCentury, and any trimming had to be gold. I was wearing white and gold; my husband-to-be wore white and silver, and his groomsmen were in blue and silver.

Each made a dress that suited her, they all looked fabulous, and they all got to wear their outfits again!

By: Evie

Evie — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 18:55:59 +0000

Cute! And, furthermore, everyone actually looks comfortable.

Love your idea, blablover! Were I to have bridesmaids, I would opt for the same concept. I like color coordination, but using only one or two hyper-specific shades for an entire wedding party is bit junior prom for my personal taste