Put the Rose in (Your) Hair Like the Andalusian Girls Used

The superbly lovely Kate wrote to ask:

I’m a regular reader of your blog and was wondering if you could help me out. I’m getting married at the end of September and want to wear a cream-colored “flower” in my hair, to match my dress. Problem is, what I find is either something from the WIC that’s eighty bucks, or a shoddy-looking fake “silk” blossom that is 1.99 at the craft store. Can you help me find a pretty off-white fake flower for my hair, for less than forty dollars? My hairdresser says it doesn’t have to have a barrette – if it has a stem, she can weave it in.

I feel Kate’s pain, even though I when I was getting married it wasn’t flowers but rather hair gems I sought. Everything truly elegant was way out of my price range, and everything in my price range looked like it had come from a girls bracelet making kit from the Toys ‘R’ Us. Eventually, I let my hair stand on its own, which was more than fine because my stylist was truly a wizard.

Now, anyone looking for faux blooms should learn a little background and a little lingo before hitting the shops. Today’s silk flowers typically aren’t actually made of silk…except when they are, in which case they may cost you a pretty penny. The reason so many fakies look so awful is that they’re made of cheap polyester. Even worse, they are sometimes embellished with things like rhinestones and plastic water droplets.

For blooms that look as nice close up as they do from far off, search for “real touch” or “natural touch” flowers. At present, they’re not that easy to source, unfortunately, and buying just a few is sometimes impossible.The good news is that they’re not hugely expensive, but you might have to eat some shipping costs because they’re easier to get in the UK.

I searched a bunch of floral shops, eBay, and Etsy, and my favorite real touch flower by far is this one:

This clip comes from Mikiye Creations, which carries a large selection of beautiful accessories crafted from semi-precious stones, metals, freshwater pearls, Swarovski crystals, silks, and feathers. The real touch rose above is approximately four inches across and is meant to look and feel like the real thing.

While Kate did say she’d be happy with either a clip-on blossom or a stem, I thought a clip would be more comfortable. I worked with faux flora before my own wedding, and I found the stems themselves to be pointy and not quite as flexible as I might have liked. Better to stick with a clip than to spend one’s wedding day being poked in the head by a rogue bit of plastic!

5 Responses to “Put the Rose in (Your) Hair Like the Andalusian Girls Used”

  1. Melissa B. says:

    NtB, have you considered a career as a personal shopper? What a great find!

  2. Evie says:


    Also, I second etsy. Their wedding shop is full of non-icky hair decorations for very reasonable prices.

  3. Kate says:

    Thanks NtB! I ordered the flower and await its arrival! I’ll send you a picture from the wedding.

  4. Melissa B.: I’d want to be an online personal shopper!

    Kate: I look forward to seeing it!

  5. Pencils says:

    That’s a gorgeous flower! If anyone else is looking for vintage (or not) flowers, Tinsel Trading has a great selection. I bought some gorgeous vintage silk ribbon daffodils for my wedding there. I attached some to the cake cutting knife and server, and more to the flower girl’s basket. So pretty! And not even all that expensive.