FULL DISCLOSURE: I’m knocked up. There’s a bun in my oven. I am heavy — well, not yet — with child. I’ve got a stowaway in my gullet. There is a person growing in my uterus. Etc., etc. Why am I telling you this? Besides the fact that it’s fun to spill the beans, I can also tie it in nicely with today’s topic. You see, I’m currently trying to get The Beard to write a pre-baby blog, the same way I tried to get him to write a groom blog when we were planning the wedding. That is to say, to no avail.
Which brings me to my main point. There’s a total drought of groom blogs out there. Oh, you get plenty of results when searching for groom’s blogs, but most went defunct long before the associated wedding. I suppose you could argue that there’s just not enough out there to occupy the average groom-to-be’s attention, but no one is saying that dudes should be blogging about bridal shoes, floral arrangements, or table linens. I’d be satisfied with a blog filled with groom-centric grousing about high prices, meddling relatives, and the Electric Slide.
Contrary to what popular culture tells us, not all men are grunting barbarians who think wedding planning is for sissies and girls. As tongue-in-cheek as it is, I don’t like Brideorama’s Top 11 Reasons Its NOT a Good Idea to Put The Groom In Charge of the Wedding list because it promotes unfair stereotypes. Find me one groom-to-be who actually wants his groomsmen in tie-dye t-shirts and his wedding vows to include the words, “Whatever, dude.” Heck, I would have happily eloped, but The Beard wanted a wedding with all the pomp and circumstance!
Grooms should be sharing their experiences, if a survey by Bridal Guide is any indication. According to respondants, 42% of engaged couples plan their weddings together, flatly ignoring the kind of advice my father gave The Beard, i.e., “Shut up and get out of the bride’s way.” It makes sense, considering how many men and women are paying for all or part of their own weddings. If a guy is dropping $5,000 for cake, music, a site, and transportation, he’s going to want to have his say.
After some Googling, I found two active blogs for grooms, one of which is the blog associated with GroomGroove so it doesn’t really count. The other, I Groomzille…You Bride, has been around since July, is written by an actual groom-to-be, and the author is involved in his wedding in a decidedly dude-ish way.
If your guy is at all involved in planning your wedding, why not suggest that he start a blog about it? He could also be a contributing writer on your blog if you have one. It won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, of course, but I really think that we here in the wide world of online wedding writing could use a dose of testosterone.