Comments on: Letting Go of ‘Perfect’

By: Glinda

Glinda — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 05:32:38 +0000

Twistie, this was a fabulous post!

My wedding was pretty much perfect in my eyes. I didn’t really know of anything that went wrong for anyone, but it was mostly just luck and some good planning!

But, even if the cake had sucked or there had been a problem with the food, it still would have been perfect because I married the man I love!

By: Dent

Dent — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 00:21:06 +0000

Complete agreement! Striving for perfection almost guarantees that you will end up frustrated and, in my opinion, that perfect day will almost certainly elude you. Instead, just hoping for a good day means you will enjoy yourself and make the experience all the more memorable.

By: Colleen

Colleen — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 22:24:00 +0000

I heartily agree. In fact I pretty much planned on something going wrong and ya know what? One or two things did. But because I had planned pretty well, they were mostly minor and my husbands tux made it back from it’s unscheduled trip to Kansas City (pick up location was NYC) in plenty of time and everyone seemed to have a fabulous time. Which is what I was doing all the planning for anyway.

By: Dianasaur

Dianasaur — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 17:51:00 +0000

Amen sister! I never strove for my wedding to be perfect. I planned it so meticulously that it would be hard for the big things to go wrong, but didn’t really care about the little details and let relatives take care of those.

Looking back, even though things went wrong, I feel like it was perfect and have nothing but wonderful memories. I think most important thing was planning it carefully ahead of time, having people to get things done, and then not worrying about any of it the day of. On our wedding day all I thought about was that I was about to marry the man of my dreams!

By: Never teh Bride

Never teh Bride — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 15:56:26 +0000

If I had been expecting perfection, I would have been sorely disappointed, and I expect I’m not the only one out there! Like all brides, I was dealing with the vagaries of the weather and the whims of people and the simple facts of life like traffic, frayed hems, and hair that won’t stay in place. Is it even possible to have a perfect wedding?

It seems to me that the only truly perfect wedding would be the wedding where everyone has a good time despite all the little annoyances that plague us every day. If you enjoy your wedding and are married at the end of it, that sounds pretty perfect to me!

By: Twistie

Twistie — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 15:51:14 +0000

Melissa B, I think that may be because so many people use the phrase ‘your special day’ to give the bride permission to treat everyone around her (including the groom) as dirt beneath her Jimmy Choos or else to bankrupt her parents.

I’ll allow ‘your special day’ to anyone who is willing to apply it to both parties equally AND promises not to use it as a stick against the rest of the world. It’s current common usage, though, entirely blows.

By: Melissa B.

Melissa B. — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 15:00:22 +0000

Agreed. Can we also ban the word “princess” and the phrase “your special day”? (For some reason, any time someone describes a wedding as the bride’s “special day” I feel nauseous.)

By: Monica of The White Box

Monica of The White Box — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 01:17:16 +0000

Amen! A perfect day has not existed since Eden. As soon as a bride uses that word, I shy away from wanting to work with her. It WILL NOT be perfect, but it can be fabulous, elegant, fun, memorable, joyous, and all sorts of other goodness.

By: Polka Dot Bride

Polka Dot Bride — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 00:59:43 +0000

I agree 100% I hate the use of the word perfect. I don’t think it does anything for stressed out brides and grooms and I certainly don’t think it’s what a wedding should be about anyway!