LOVE/HATE: The Using Your Head Edition
There are bridal veils of all kinds, there is hair jewelry that sparkles, and there are plenty of bareheaded brides (like moi). Then there is the other…the headgear for funky brides-to-be who know they want to outfit their heads with some form of chapeau but are shying away from the traditional options.
I’m loving these wild headpieces from WhichGoose…they’re perfect for the bride or for the fantastic woman who is sick of the usual department store hats and drugstore hair clips. We’ve gotten all sorts of reader responses regarding wedding headwear here on the blog, from both those who think you’re simply not a bride without a veil to those who feel veils are a tool of the patriarchy.
I figure that means we’re just about ready for a poll. You tell me:
I clicked Hairclip or other hair jewelry because it came closest to what I wore, but it’s not completely accurate.
What I actually wore was a white snood with a hairclip of a large silver straw hairbow low on my head.
The funny part is that I’d gotten a bunch of things to play with in making a headpiece, and then I woke up on my wedding morning saying to myself ‘holy crap, I never figured it out!’ I put my finished headpiece together in five minutes and got compliments on it all day.
I picked “ribbon,” but it was more dollar-store decorated wire – little orangey-red maple leaves, a little smaller than a pinky fingernail, attached down the length – that I twisted into a circlet.
I wore a veil though I did get a tiara for my 21 year old flower girl to wear. I don’t see any reason why just the bride should wear something fun in her hair.
I chose hat (even though I haven’t been married).
I attend a very conservative Catholic Church where many women wear veils every week to Mass. I am the ‘rebel’ wearing a hat every week (not out of piety as much as the fact that i love it is a socially acceptable place to wear a hat). I think I should do that on my wedding day too.
I was going to wear a veil, and then at the last minute decided not to pack it because I wanted to wear my hair down instead. So I chose hairclip because I wore a whole passel of sparkly flowers (the kind that have the spiral screw and slip into the hair).
I think you meant to say that veils are a “tuille” of the patriarchy! (SORRY! I couldn’t resist the pun!)
I wore my MIL’s Italian lace mantilla for the ceremony. It has lace embelleshments around the edges but also in the center of the bottom 1/3 and I really wanted to showcase that. So, instead of wearing it the traditional mantilla way, which made the embelleshments hard to see against my train, I folded down 1/3 of veil and pinned it just above my chignon to create a double layer veil. Then for the reception I ditched the veil and wore a single, white Casablanca lily in my hair.
Yep, I’m a 2 hairpiece bride.
*embellishments. ugh.
I’m very excited I just ordered a feather fascinator with birdcage veil for my wedding!
I had three different things, a tiara, small yellow roses, and gold ribbon. It sounds like overkill but it was a renaissance wedding and everything was so intricately placed that it looked incredible. You couldn’t actually see all of them at once.
So far the plan is a flower/extra bits fascinator. Who knows what will actually happen 11 months from now.
I do know I’m growing my hair out – its just past my shoulders now and I want it to get as long as possible
. (I say this now – I might decide to say “SCREW IT” and chop 90% of it off.)
Mainly I know that I do not want to wear a veil. Its just not for me.
And I’ll still look like a bride, since I’ll be getting married.
First time, I wore a cathedral length veil in tulle with a netting blusher, both attached to a satin teardrop-shaped cap worn on the front of my head. All in ecru (darker than ivory) to match my then-MIL’s wedding dress which I wore.
Second time, a barrette with a huge white chiffon bow. And a purple sueded-silk dress.
If I were to do it again (unlikely!) I would definitely buy one of the multi-colored cotton-ball looking things from the Etsy seller! Those are too cute.
I wore a long veil, WITH a wreath of flowers made by a friend who acted as matron of honor – little white and yellow roses, mixed with orange blossom, to go with my autumn wedding/white and gold bride’s colours (the groom’s colours were white and silver). The veil has long since made its way into my sewing room, but the wreath found a home around the brim of a straw hat, where it looks great!
A tiara, since I love and collect them, and a short veil, simply because when else can I get away with a veil? That was the same reasoning I used for the poofy princess dress. I’ll have other chances to wear regular evening gowns.
I was pondering your comment, Dianasaur, about possible “overkill”, and I realized that I have never seen the baseline estabished for just-enough-kill. Therefore, it is my assertion that there is no such thing as “overkill”, and whatever the bride chooses is just enough – however many layers go into the topping.
A tiara, because I make them. And they dont have to be traditional – they can be anything you want!
Jenna.x
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