Comments on: Bridesmaid Letters? http://manolobrides.com/2009/03/17/bridesmaid-letters/ Manolo Loves the Brides! Wed, 08 Feb 2012 11:59:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: La BellaDonna http://manolobrides.com/2009/03/17/bridesmaid-letters/comment-page-1/#comment-353938 La BellaDonna Wed, 25 Mar 2009 20:57:31 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/?p=2194#comment-353938 NtB, I feel your pain! I, too, had a specific colour-and-trim scheme for my brides - blue and gold - and a specific style/period - Cavalier - but within those strictures, they could make and wear anything they wanted. One of the bridesmaids had been in a wedding several years prior, and had really pissed off the bride by turning up in only the underdress part of her outfit - and it was black! And it was NOT a suitable choice for that wedding or that bride. I cheerfully told my bridesmaid that those were the colours for my wedding, and if she found herself unable for some reason to comply, I would understand <i>perfectly</i> <b>that she couldn't be in the wedding.</b> She didn't - and she wasn't. Ugh. We won't talk about the maid of honour, who was pissed that I didn't make myself available to help her with her dress - even though she never asked. Even though she'd been sewing longer than I had at that point. Even though I was making my gown, my husband's outfit, and several others. NtB, I feel your pain! I, too, had a specific colour-and-trim scheme for my brides – blue and gold – and a specific style/period – Cavalier – but within those strictures, they could make and wear anything they wanted. One of the bridesmaids had been in a wedding several years prior, and had really pissed off the bride by turning up in only the underdress part of her outfit – and it was black! And it was NOT a suitable choice for that wedding or that bride. I cheerfully told my bridesmaid that those were the colours for my wedding, and if she found herself unable for some reason to comply, I would understand perfectly that she couldn’t be in the wedding. She didn’t – and she wasn’t.

Ugh. We won’t talk about the maid of honour, who was pissed that I didn’t make myself available to help her with her dress – even though she never asked. Even though she’d been sewing longer than I had at that point. Even though I was making my gown, my husband’s outfit, and several others.

]]> By: Never teh Bride http://manolobrides.com/2009/03/17/bridesmaid-letters/comment-page-1/#comment-352518 Never teh Bride Sun, 22 Mar 2009 16:35:49 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/?p=2194#comment-352518 Raven1025: There's nothing wrong with being organized! And you shouldn't for one minute think of yourself as bridezilla-ish. I was merely thinking of bridesmaid letters in terms of one more thing for already overworked brides-to-be to do and hoping that no one thinks they MUST spend time setting up a newsletter. Those who have the time or the talent should by all means do so if they feel the need. Twistie: Would that I had had your problem! Our biggest problem with attendants was that those on the bride's side didn't seem to give a fig that they were supposed to find a "dark brown ankle- or floor-length dress, not strapless, with any fabric being okay." It wasn't until I started asking the bridesmaids directly whether they actually wanted to be in the wedding (a month before the event) that they finally bought dresses! Raven1025: There’s nothing wrong with being organized! And you shouldn’t for one minute think of yourself as bridezilla-ish. I was merely thinking of bridesmaid letters in terms of one more thing for already overworked brides-to-be to do and hoping that no one thinks they MUST spend time setting up a newsletter. Those who have the time or the talent should by all means do so if they feel the need.

Twistie: Would that I had had your problem! Our biggest problem with attendants was that those on the bride’s side didn’t seem to give a fig that they were supposed to find a “dark brown ankle- or floor-length dress, not strapless, with any fabric being okay.” It wasn’t until I started asking the bridesmaids directly whether they actually wanted to be in the wedding (a month before the event) that they finally bought dresses!

]]> By: Twistie http://manolobrides.com/2009/03/17/bridesmaid-letters/comment-page-1/#comment-351936 Twistie Fri, 20 Mar 2009 22:10:47 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/?p=2194#comment-351936 Raven, I can't see how that could be interpreted as bridezillaish. Two newsletters over the course of the planning period with basic information they all needed? That's good communication. To hit bridezilla level, you would have had to send them out filled with insane lists of duties, long sets of insulting rules, and lots of ugly harranging. Making sure everyone knows when and where the rehearsal dinner is being held and giving them the details of where to order their wedding finery is just being organized, which is a very good thing. It means you don't get calls like the one my brother the alpaca rancher made to me a few weeks before the big day begging to know what he was supposed to wear for the wedding and threatening to show up in a kimono and top hat if Mr. Twistie didn't give him details soon. For the record, I told my brother that I thought the kimono and top hat idea was cool. It was, however, sufficient motivation to Mr. Twistie to let his groomsmen know at long last what he expected them to wear. Raven, I can’t see how that could be interpreted as bridezillaish. Two newsletters over the course of the planning period with basic information they all needed? That’s good communication. To hit bridezilla level, you would have had to send them out filled with insane lists of duties, long sets of insulting rules, and lots of ugly harranging.

Making sure everyone knows when and where the rehearsal dinner is being held and giving them the details of where to order their wedding finery is just being organized, which is a very good thing. It means you don’t get calls like the one my brother the alpaca rancher made to me a few weeks before the big day begging to know what he was supposed to wear for the wedding and threatening to show up in a kimono and top hat if Mr. Twistie didn’t give him details soon.

For the record, I told my brother that I thought the kimono and top hat idea was cool. It was, however, sufficient motivation to Mr. Twistie to let his groomsmen know at long last what he expected them to wear.

]]> By: Raven1025 http://manolobrides.com/2009/03/17/bridesmaid-letters/comment-page-1/#comment-351611 Raven1025 Thu, 19 Mar 2009 21:41:26 +0000 http://manolobrides.com/?p=2194#comment-351611 I'm just sorta glad that someone else has done it. For our wedding (nearing eight years ago!), I sent out newsletters to the whole bridal party. I think we sent out two of them. They included things like rehearsal information, tux renting info, etc. I set them up with a newsletter template. At the time, I just wanted to make sure everyone had the appropriate details they needed, and they could stick them on their fridge or give them to their wives or girlfriends or whoever as any extra reminder. Now, I worry it was bridezilla-ish. Though, if it's a real thing, and not something I made up to ease my anal-retentive organizing need, I feel slightly better. Slightly. I’m just sorta glad that someone else has done it. For our wedding (nearing eight years ago!), I sent out newsletters to the whole bridal party. I think we sent out two of them. They included things like rehearsal information, tux renting info, etc. I set them up with a newsletter template. At the time, I just wanted to make sure everyone had the appropriate details they needed, and they could stick them on their fridge or give them to their wives or girlfriends or whoever as any extra reminder. Now, I worry it was bridezilla-ish. Though, if it’s a real thing, and not something I made up to ease my anal-retentive organizing need, I feel slightly better. Slightly.

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