Comments on: LOVE/Hate: The Mean Girls Edition

By: Johanna

Johanna — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 16:33:14 +0000

I feel sick. Really, I tried to find the funny stuff on that site but after 10 minutes of reading about how this and that is “wrong” and those who know what is “right” must laugh at the less fortunate ones I felt like slicing someone’s face. There’s a difference, like La BellaDonna says. She said it well so I won’t repeat everything, but really, smiling/laughing at peculiar or imaginative choices is not nearly the same as judging someone coldly by their appearance or limited resources. Or deeming their choices absolutely “wrong”. I have absolute taste concerning my wedding, no-one else’s.

By: daisyj

daisyj — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 17:37:23 +0000

La BellaDonna– I actually have no recollection of what the bride was wearing. Something relatively normal, I think. It’s kind of hard to be the center of attention when the guy next to you is in head-to-toe fringed buckskins. (He’s the mayor now.)

By: libbyblue

libbyblue — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 01:36:51 +0000

some deeply unpleasant women who refused to believe i was not related to them kept me on their email list for nearly a year, despite my repeated protests and different first name from the cousin they insisted i must be. then one of them sent me about a dozen photos from the same wedding featured as the “worst wedding photo shoot ever.” i went off on the sender. she shot back the ever-so-mature response “get over yourself!!!!” i was irritated, but i never heard from either of them again.

By: La BellaDonna

La BellaDonna — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 21:41:34 +0000

I despise the mockery of other people’s wedding choices. There isn’t anything WRONG with them, unless an unwilling child bride is involved.

Taste which differs from one’s own IS NOT WRONG. It is only DIFFERENT.

I can’t tell you how vehemently I loathe the cowardly unkindness that boils out over other people’s special day. Blue tuxedos, butt bows, puffy sleeves, see-through waistlines – a change in fashion is just that, a change in fashion. There is no one absolute, immutable Exemplar Of Perfect Taste to which everyone should aspire. In my own opinion, I enjoy looking at all the different expressions of people’s love and happiness. And I think all those scornful mockers, should they appear at that instant all over Teh Innernet, would have a hard time holding themselves up as icons of style and beauty. I lump them in the same cesspit with bullies.

The folks here poke a bit of fun at different things. What they write is usually witty, and very seldom unkind. It’s a far cry from some of what’s written at the other sites. Do they have any idea how parochial and insular they appear? They’re not sophisticated, however much they may think they are. Just because it’s not something they’re used to doesn’t automatically make it “hilarious.”

daisyj, I for one would LOVE to see your uncle’s fringed buckskin suit, it sounds glorious. What did his bride wear?

By: class factotum

class factotum — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 20:08:10 +0000

Oh, let’s not even get started (fourth wedding, gangsters and whores theme) on cousins’ weddings. And how that one didn’t last, either.

By: daisyj

daisyj — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 18:14:56 +0000

It’s definitely mean to criticize another person’s looks; at least the people on sites like Hot or Not (does that even still exist?) signed up for it. But on the other hand, those guys’ jackets are hilarious.

And speaking of outdated styles, if I wasn’t afraid of family retribution, I would totally share the pictures of my uncle getting married in his fringed buckskin suit.

By: class factotum

class factotum — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 18:07:16 +0000

Susan — I’m thinking that those down-the-butt baggy jeans don’t look so hot even now.

By: SusanC

SusanC — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 17:37:58 +0000

Yeah, I’m in the same camp as Melissa B. Just think how your nieces will laugh at all the strapless dresses and tiaras or at the very least say, “oh, that’s sooooo aughties.”

But the guys have it worse this fashion cycle. Think of how all those photos of down-the-butt baggy jeans will look in a few decades.

By: Melissa B.

Melissa B. — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 16:20:56 +0000

It also seems a bit harsh to call a wedding “tacky” when styles have changed dramatically since said wedding took place. Don’t get me wrong, it’s all sorts of hilarious fun to look back at the giant mustaches and blue tuxedos our parents wore in their weddings! But I’m sure in 30 years our wedding photos will look old-fashioned and outdated, even though right now I think our stuff is way cool, so I try not to judge anyone too harshly for wearing mutton sleeves or giant sideburns back when they were in style. We are all fashion victims of our era

By: Twistie

Twistie — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 15:34:54 +0000

I’m with you, NtB. Poking a bit of fun at a bizarre cake or really unfortunate dress is one thing, ridiculing a person for failure to meet any random measure of ‘pretty’ is hitting below the belt.