Comments on: The Element of Surprise?

By: anna and the ring

anna and the ring — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 00:16:24 +0000

Well, I’m using my blog to let out my fit to bursting excitement of ideas! Certain general things such as colours are fair game but the details, I will spend hours deliberating over that no-one but me will care about, are not.

Also, I have three close friends marrying just before me I want my day to be different and I quite enjoy the fact they have no idea about my blog and all my ideas.

By: Never teh Bride

Never teh Bride — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 22:33:35 +0000

Twistie: Topics of conversations other than weddings? I don’t know what you’re talking about! I kid, I kid. In fact, I did my best not to bring up the topic of weddings unless asked when planning my own for fear of being perceived as some kind of bridezilla.

Blossom: Ack, I’m sorry people are being so vocal about their opinions regarding your choices! I’ve said it here on the pink plenty of times: If you don’t like someone’s wedding choices (or baby name choices or shoe choices), then zip it unless there is a real potential for bodily harm or emotional injury. Wearing a kimono? Dressing in red? Does not qualify! And is, in fact, awesome.

By: Blossom

Blossom — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 09:59:22 +0000

I’m not kepping secrets but i’m not dishing either. If someone asks about the wedding I’ll answer the question but not in very big detail mainly because i’m sick of people saying things like, “why are you wearing a red kimono and not white?” Umm because my fave colour is red and i have wanted to wear a kimono ever since a watched memoirs of a geisha. I even had an aunt ask if i was going to make my eyes slanty to match my kimono and then snicker behind her hand. So yeah i dont say much anymore.

By: Twistie

Twistie — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:43:44 +0000

Maybe I’m missing something, but aren’t guests usually clued in to some of these questions (color scheme, location, theme elements, etc.) via invitations? And wouldn’t they have to go on your social networking site to learn every passing thought you’d had about coral gowns?

Besides, even if you’re dishing about the wedding on Facebook or another social networking site, isn’t it up to you how much you prefer to reveal even in that setting? I mean, there’s no law that says that just because you’re passing some information to some people that way that you’re obligated to share anything you do wish to keep secret.

As for keeping things secret, well, my wedding was held long before MySpace and Facebook existed. Would I have used them if they had? I kind of doubt it. I’m not a big social networking site kind of gal. Was anything about the wedding a big secret from anyone? Nope. Mr. Twistie got to spend a lot more hours than he probably wanted watching me make the wedding lace, and I’d long ago shown him the picture of the gown I wanted mine based on. He didn’t remember what it looked like, but I didn’t even keep that a secret. He even stood there while I opened the package with the fabrics being used when they arrived via UPS.

Anyone who needed to know anything got regular updates from me, anyone else who asked a simple ‘how’s the wedding planning going’ was likely to hear more than they were interested in knowing, and anyone who didn’t ask…didn’t hear. After all, I wanted to have other subjects of conversation going aside from the wedding.