We here at Manolo for the Brides are fond – sometimes perhaps a tidge too fond – of reminding the dewy-eyed that weddings have a way of not going precisely as planned. It stands to reason, actually. When all is said and done, a wedding combines two things fraught with the potential for utter disaster: a traditional ceremony and a large party. Each of these things is a freaking minefield just waiting to go off. Combine this with the mythology of ‘one perfect day’ and ‘the happiest day of your life,’ not to mention the warring expectations of dozens of friends and relatives, and you can see why we like to remind you that there will be a lot of other very happy (indeed, some much happier) days and that perfection is not for mere mortals.
Today, though, I’d like to look at another phenomenon that all too many of us don’t even imagine is possible: the thing that goes wrong, but makes the event better.
‘What’s that, Twistie?’ you say. ‘Have you finally and completely lost your lonely remaining brain cell?’ you demand. No, I haven’t. It doesn’t happen all that often, but when it does it’s magical. It’s unforgettable, though in a much sweeter way than the time the cake tent collapsed or the time the ring bearer announced to the congregation that he needed to go potty right now in the middle of the vows.
I’m talking about the wedding I attended where the boom box decided to give up the ghost just as the wedding party turned to recess from the chapel. After a moment of silent confusion, the bride burst into laughter. We all joined her, and the party recessed to the most perfect music of all: pure joy.
I’m talking about the wedding reception where the wrong cake was delivered. It wasn’t precisely what either the bride or the groom had expected, but it served about the same number of people as the cake they’d ordered, the gold and white decor fit into their color scheme, and we all decided to take it as a good omen that this cake was originally intended for a golden anniversary party. Coolest of all? It was the same flavor the couple had ordered.
Sometimes it’s good to just leave yourself open to the glorious absurdities of life.
So what about all of you? Have you ever been to a wedding where something magical went wrong?