Tweeting at Weddings: It’s For the Birds!
Sometimes I just don’t know what the world is coming to.
In hunting for just the right subject for today’s article, I came across this article published in late August in the Huffington Post on the do’s and don’ts of tweeting your wedding.
That’s right, I said tweeting your wedding.
Seriously, does anyone actually think this is a good idea?
Apparently some do. Here’s what two brides-to-be had to say on the subject:
“There are so many details that happen during weddings that it is impossible to remember it all. By opening an online discussion, you’re sharing your big day with everyone and they help you collect and immortalize all of the moments from multiple angles. When you think of it, it’s very intimate.”
I’ve got a better suggestion for both remembering your wedding and getting a feeling of intimacy: spend your time interacting with your guests instead of interacting with the virtual world.
And:
“It’s okay to be bold about who you are and what you do. This is an opt-in world, so you don’t need to worry too much about people being disinterested.”
How nice. You don’t have to worry about boring people with your wedding. That’s lovely. But what about what this says to the people you invited? And what about the people who aren’t bored by your wedding details because they’re too busy resenting the fact that you’re rubbing their noses in the fact that you didn’t invite them to be there?
Trust me, tweeting at the altar or in the middle of your reception dinner is every bit as rude as calling someone on your cell phone under the same circumstances.
I think this lady summed up my feelings perfectly:
“Tweeting won’t be allowed at my wedding. I frown upon people telling others (who weren’t invited and perhaps are resentful) how much fun they are having! I think it’s snobby — ‘I’m here and you weren’t invited!’ How rude. Plus — live in the moment, don’t try to be elsewhere.”
Spend your wedding at your wedding with your new spouse and the people you invited. You can always send out a brief tweet before you retire for the night, if you really must.
Coming up next from the Wedding Machine…
hiring someone to live-blog your wedding!
Let’s save the tweeting for when one is bored at the computer, not a wedding.
I swear some people are addicted to tweeting. They need to get a life.
This behavior falls within the broader category of what Miss Manners would politely phrase as the “turn the g*d-d*mn cell phone OFF, moron” rule for participation in weddings, funerals and like gatherings.
Ok, so maybe Miss Manners wouldn’t state it quite that way.
I like twitter. I think it’s great. Paired with my iphone it’s maybe my favorite online community.
But at a wedding? Sorry. No.
I don’t even fiddle with my phone when I’m out with friends (unless there’s a serious emergency). Nothing screams “I’m bored with this.” quite like messing with your phone in the middle of a party or outing…so why would it be acceptable to do it at a wedding?