A Vision of Loveliness

The other day my esteemed colleague wrote about some quite fetching veils she’d found and fallen head over heels for. The thing, though, that really caught my eye about the article was a comment by our own Kai Jones on an aspect I must admit I had never considered terribly carefully:

When I was looking for decorative options (while planning both my first wedding and my second) I would have really appreciated being able to see models with glasses wearing the veils, hats, etc. Glasses make a visual statement that affects the rest of the picture. Some frames would look ridiculous under some veils, and others would look great, but I have trouble visualizing how glasses at all on the face would affect the face veils.

That’s a great point, Kai Jones.

And so I set out to research the question of bespectacled brides. The disappointing part is that many of the boards, advice columns, etc. I found at first gave the same single piece of advice: don’t wear glasses on your wedding day.

Well phooey on that.

One bride begging for advice on whether or not to wear her glasses seemed to have made up her mind but really needed someone to tell her it was okay. Otherwise, I don’t think she would have posted pics of bespectacled brides or expressed herself this way:

My mom came up with the hilarious idea of me just not wearing my glasses to the wedding, I told her that was a great idea except that I’ll probably walk over to the wrong man or just end up at a different event completly.

For what it’s worth, I think she should wear her glasses. But that’s me.

Look, what you decide to do really depends on a number of issues. How badly do you need your vision corrected? Do you normally wear glasses or contacts? Do you switch off according to whim or activity? Can you wear contacts at all? In the end, though, it comes down to making sure you can navigate successfully and that you look like you.

Let me repeat that last one: you should look like you on your wedding day.

If you wear glasses every day, then you should probably wear your glasses. If you can’t see without your glasses, then you should certainly wear them! If you wear them sometimes and don’t particularly need them to get to the altar, then you’ll be fine without them if you choose to leave them aside.

But the worst reason in the world not to wear your glasses on your wedding day is fear that it will somehow make your wedding less special, less joyful, or less fashionable. You’re getting married. That’s special and joyful right there, glasses or no. As for fashion, look, we love fashion here in the Manolosphere, but more than that we love people who develop and live their own unique style. Fashion is fleeting and concerned with what others might say. Style has more staying power and is unafraid.

Where fashion might crash into walls for fear of being caught out wearing glasses, style rocks the hottest frames possible and knows where it’s going. How to do it? Take a look at a few of the photos I found in my wanderings around the internet.

These ladies wore simple veils.

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These went beautifully bare-headed.
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This one rocked a small hat with a veil and matching specs with her groom.
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Just remember, if you choose to wear your glasses on your wedding day, you’ll be far from the first bride to do so…
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…and so was she.
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If you want or need more practical advice on the matter, or want to look at more great photos of lovely brides in their equally lovely glasses, here are a couple of links you might enjoy:

http://offbeatbride.com/2008/01/brides-in-glasses (be sure to scroll through the comments on this one, since it includes a lot more reader-submitted photos)

http://events-egrego160.blogspot.com/2009/06/and-bride-wore-glasses.html (the photos in this one are duplicates from the previous article, but it includes advice on choosing whether or not to get new frames for the wedding and tips on making the most of your makeup behind those glasses)

And always remember, if you want to know how something is going to look on you, the only way to really tell is to try it out and see. Just as NtB suggested trying on gowns in silhouettes you may think are beyond your ability to wear, I suggest trying on different veils, hats, and miscellaneous hair decorations until you find something you love that loves you back. Sometimes you have to risk looking silly for two minutes to find something that makes you look spectacular.

If you wear your glasses, you’ll be able to see the difference, too.

7 Responses to “A Vision of Loveliness”

  1. Rabrab says:

    Something worth knowing if you normally wear glasses but decide to try contacts for you wedding day: like any other change you make, you should do so far enough in advance to become accustomed to it — I’ve always found that on the rare occasions I *do* wear my contacts, I keep my eyes open much wider, and blink a lot more than when I’ve got my glasses on. Not only do I not look like myself because the glasses are missing, but I don’t even look like myself-simply-with-my-glasses-off, because my eyes are not the same.

  2. Oh man, I was all set to look for pics of brides in veils with glasses this week. That’s one thing to cross off my to-do list 😉 Good finds!

  3. Angela says:

    Sounds like a good enough justification to buy some amazing frames, if the timing is right to get a new pair.

  4. Twistie says:

    Great tip, rabrab! Break in those contacts like you’d break in the new shoes.

    Thanks, NtB. You know I live to make your life easier, right?

    Angela, I was thinking the same thing. Great minds, and all that.

  5. Kristin says:

    Man, I hear that. I’m wearing my glasses when I get married, though I know my grandmother will give me some flak about it. I don’t like change, and I do like my glasses.

    She should be grateful we decided against the voice-changer clone trooper helmets.

  6. Twistie says:

    Kristin, I would take EVERY opportunity to remind your grandmother of that!

    What’s more, I feel very sure you’re going to look lovely, glasses and all.

  7. La BellaDonna says:

    Heh. I’m bad. I think Kristin should SHOW her grandma the original choice – stop by actually WEARING the helmet! The glasses will look SO much better in comparison! Unless your grandma has seen the helmets before, she won’t know how great the difference between “Kristin’s glasses” and “voice-changer clone trooper helmets” actually is.