Let’s talk about bachelorette parties, shall we?
Thirty years ago, they pretty much didn’t exist. Twenty years ago, they were fairly rare. Now they seem pretty common. Still, they aren’t for everyone.
I well remember a wedding where I was the MOH about twenty years ago. One day the bride called me in a bit of a panic because the other bridesmaid was talking about whisking her off and forcing her to drink fruit daiquiris and watch male strippers. This was profoundly not the bride’s cup of tea.
Luckily, I was able to talk the other bridesmaid down from that particular ledge, and the bride was saved. I threw her a nice, quiet, game-free shower with tea and desserts instead.
Now it seems that every bridal magazine and reality show and forum more or less assumes that the bride will have some form of bachelorette party. Some of them involve hard liquor, penis-themed garb, strippers, and adult-rated scavenger hunts. Some involve pole dancing lessons. Others might be about paint ball with the girls.
Me? Well, that bride I saved from a bachelorette party was my MOH, and she knew not to even go there for me. What’s more, she wasn’t tempted. Nor were any of my other bridesmaids.
Do I morally object to bachelorette parties? No. I just haven’t met one that seemed like a good time for me. Most of them seem to be about emulating some form of typical bachelor party, and most of the things guys traditionally do at those parties are not things I want to do. Nor do I wish to wear/carry a penis in public, learn to pole dance, or participate in games that require me to drink to excess or make embarrassing requests of total strangers in public.
On the other hand, the practice is becoming far more popular. I’m guessing that there are plenty of people who’ve come up with interesting variations on the theme, just as there are now plenty of bachelor parties where nobody drinks until they pass out on the stripper.
So I’m curious. Are you being given a bachelorette party? Did you have one? Do/did you want one? What sort of party was it/will it be?
Does this appeal to you?