Comments on: To Party or Not to Party

By: Annie

Annie — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 18:06:59 +0000

I remember a bridal shower I went to in my youth that ended with strippers.

Yes, you read that right. Bridal SHOWER. With Strippers.

Somebody thought it was a good idea to take all of the bride’s female relatives, future in-laws, family friends, and work colleagues, including 80-year-olds and 5-year-olds, out to a restaurant. After the meal, the strippers came out. Most people, including the bride, were quite uncomfortable.

By: Leigh

Leigh — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 04:17:37 +0000

I got married before bachelorette parties were en vogue, but I’m a firearms instructor, and have held a few private instruction/private range time sessions for bachelorette parties. The rule is no cocktails before the class, so they come for instruction, range time, then go out for dinner. Different and fun.

By: KTB

KTB — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 17:56:06 +0000

I had a bachelorette that was mostly put together by one of my bridesmaids, as my MOH sister lives in LA and we had the party in Seattle. Basically, a big group of us girls got hotel rooms at an inexpensive but trendy place downtown, the girls gave me a wig and little girl’s sparkly ribbon tiara to wear (I love wigs, so this was not a punishment at all!) and we bar-hopped through Belltown before ending up at a cabaret/burlesque show. I had an absolute blast, and as a wedding present, one of my friends collected pictures from all of the girls and gave me a bound book of the evening!

My friend emailed me before the party and explicitly asked if I felt like I’d be missing out without the “stereotypical” bachelorette crap, and I said I would be absolutely fine, because we both hated that stuff. We both agreed that the night needed to be about girls going out on the town and having fun together, rather than humiliating me with penis paraphernalia.

By: Toni

Toni — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 17:15:28 +0000

See, this is where it’s handy for you and your best friend to be getting married within months of each other, because the best course of action is to do what you’d want done yourself in a few months. (Of course, we would have granted each other’s wishes anyway.)

We didn’t do anything bachelorette, just run-of-the mill (but fun!) wedding showers. I’ll admit to having one game, but it was a homemade Scattegories. The letters used were A-M-Y, and the categories were things like “type of flower” “honeymoon destination” etc… I liked that it made us think, was in no way humiliating or intrusive, and it seemed to go over well.

By: Emi!y

Emi!y — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 21:53:31 +0000

I have been part of several b’ette parties – I’m at that age when all my friends are getting married, and it’s a pretty common event for us. They’ve been a whole range of events. Usually something in the dinner/dancing range. For my BF’s wedding where I was MOH, we had dinner at a Japanese restaurant in a back room with our own karaoke machine and then went dancing. For another friend’s it was dinner at Chili’s, a comedy show, and then dancing at the country bar. My favorite was for an out-of-town wedding: one of her other bridesmaids was friends with a manager of the “fancy” bar in town, and we got VIP service with our own seating area and champagne toast. That one was co-ed, but most were just girls only nights. Most didn’t have the cheese factor except for special hats or veils (but no penises!!), but the country bar party did involve one of those t-shirts with things to check off like “get a kiss” and “ride a mechanical bull” (which the bar had). That one also did end up in a porn store at 2 am because one of the b’maids couldn’t believe the bride didn’t have her own…um…marital aid. We’re not a stripper kind of crowd.

One party was supposed to be a Pampered Chef party, but it snowed and the PC consultant cancelled, so we just got together, ate, drank and put together the chuppa, programs and favors. It was totally fun! I think the most important part is the company.

By: gaga

gaga — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 09:28:44 +0000

HI!
In two ocassion, i was an attendee in a bachelorete party with others friends. In the first, we were to a cottage in the country, play games, sing in the karaoke we were bring there, and ust have a lost of fun without any stripper, or any sexua reference to a penis.
In the second one, we were dancing all night long in a bar, singing together, and that afeternoon we were shopping in a big mall with the bride-to-be.
SO, i agree with you. A bachelorette party has to be something funny, in the bride mood of fun, and is expected to have fun al time long.
I will be married in 4 months from now, and i know my friends are plotting some kind of bachelorette party for me, but i am sure they don´t end bringing any stripper to the party…..or so i hope!

By: Sarah C.

Sarah C. — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 17:52:03 +0000

I had one- my wonderful MOH planned it and she was amazing! The only addition to my usual dress was a sparkly tiara (from Claire’s- we were 30), we went out in a group to a wonderful Cuban restaurant (many drinks were had, but they weren’t the point) and then on to a comedy club. And then we all went to a hotel that was in walking distance and all slumber partied.

It was perfect.

My MOH’s bachelorette party started out Xanadu themed at the roller rink and ended with making 80s ribbon barrettes. Original and also a really, really fun idea.

By: Johanna

Johanna — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 08:49:06 +0000

I was so strict about what I don’t want for my bachelorette party that I got to be called a bridezilla for once in my life. It was because one of my more imaginative and outgoing friends had the notion that those parties are supposed to be so horrible that the bride will be scared into staying with the first husband, not wanting to go through that again.

Of course I didn’t need to worry as everyone else knew better and would have opted for a traditional sauna/spa with yummy foods and drinks. But that is what I think friends should do together even though some might be married, not only because someone is about to be. And I think it would be rude to exclude some friends because of their gender. I ended up not having any parties, though I still dreaded till the end there might be one.

So no I didn’t want one and NO! that does not appeal to me!

By: FireFly Events

FireFly Events — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 19:57:31 +0000

I always tell my clients that the bachelorette party (bachelor too) should be about making memories, not secrets. I’ve seen a lot of bachelorette parties get out of control. I recently sent a client to a chocolate making session in a chocolate boutique. It was fun, full of chocolate, and there were no banana hammocks in sight. Nobody was embarrassed or crazy or out of control.

By: Heidi Aphrodite

Heidi Aphrodite — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 18:25:03 +0000

Isn’t the whole “let’s wear penises” thing terribly sexist and objectifying? I hate that kind of bachelorette party with a blinding, fiery passion. I also hate shower games. bleh.