Comments on: Too Fat to be a Bridesmaid?

By: Mandy

Mandy — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 01:37:11 +0000

She should have NOT asked her in the first place if she did not fit her twisted standards. That is so RUDE!

By: Raven1025

Raven1025 — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 04:32:13 +0000

So, a local radio station has a bit on their morning show called, “How will they take it?” Last week, a bride calls, and in the scenario described above, she would be the bride. She called the bridesmaid, on a radio show, and told her she had two months to lose the weight. The bridesmaid dropped out. Then, the bride came back on the show, and basically played the victim. She said that she was always there for her friend, and offered to get her a personal trainer and plan a diet, and she could have stayed in the wedding if she would just lose the weight. She then mentioned that she lost another bridesmaid, and that the bridesmaid totally made up the conflict of her grandmother’s birthday. She also mentioned that her caterer canceled due to hearing the story. So, she basically said that her life (and her wedding) were ruined over this, poor, poor, her.

I can’t believe that someone like that actually thinks they are a good friend. Not to mention, what is the guy like that is marrying her? I am sad that people think that type of behavior is acceptable. I would like to think that the bride would come around one day and feel remorse, but that is a long shot.

By: Jennie

Jennie — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 02:19:39 +0000

And sent the bitch a bill for any expenses incurred, post everything on Facebook and Twitter and call every common friend/aquantance with the story. When people know what an ungrateful, shallow, and self absorbed waste of oxygen this person is, maybe she can have the wedding all alone in her imagined perfection.

By: AnthroK8

AnthroK8 — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 21:51:07 +0000

I am usually “comfort the transgressed, don’t jump on the transgressor.” But in this case, I would do both. I’d call the bride, leave the wedding party, explain why, and hang up the phone. And then I would call the bridesmaid not to tell her what I had done, but to tell her I am really sorry she was treated so badly.

Not. Cool. Vile, even.

By: SusanC

SusanC — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 19:47:34 +0000

Yup, best to drop that friend and bow out of the wedding now! After all, if you twisted a foot while hiking between now and then and had to limp around with on a cane, it would also “ruin” her wedding pictures (and the wedding video). Or maybe you might get a big zit or might be the victim of a bad haircut. Best to be cautious and cancel out, right?

Wouldn’t it be funny if the bride didn’t have anyone left in her wedding party because everyone cancelled due to such trivial concerns as above? She might have to hire some attractive extras to fill in. Of course, she sounds like the kind of person who would think that was a GREAT idea.

By: Pencils

Pencils — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:25:32 +0000

As someone who has struggled with her weight her entire life, I can’t tell you how offended I am by that story. Not that it’s new, I heard similar things on wedding blogs and message boards when I was planning my wedding. That bride doesn’t deserve to have friends. And she’s wrong anyway–people generally don’t stare at fat women, they look away after a sec. I’ve been that fat woman, so I know. It’s like you’ve offended them somehow by your very (fat) presence. Anyway, I hope B, the bridesmaid, realizes that the problem isn’t her, it’s the nasty, unfeeling bride, and that all the other bridesmaids drop out. Although I doubt the bride will understand at all anyway, those sort of people never do.

By: gi-gi

gi-gi — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 08:10:29 +0000

Oh! what an insult.? if you are a friend, don’t look to the physical aspect, you need to change your behavior regarding this attitude towards your peers, this is a very big insult to them as a person. This is a wedding for God sake,not a fashion show event. Just be sensitive to the feelings of others.

By: La Petite Acadienne

La Petite Acadienne — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 20:51:45 +0000

And if I was B, I’d be calling up A’s vendors and having some fun. Well, maybe I wouldn’t. But it’d be fun to imagine all of the delightful ways in which I could get my revenge on such a superficial, backstabbing individual.

And I looooove the photo of all of the bridesmaids in differing shades of green. What a lovely, lovely idea. That bride obviously deserves all of those smiling, happy friends with whom she’s surrounded herself.

By: Never teh Bride

Never teh Bride — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 18:53:56 +0000

Whoa, that is just SO wrong! I would certainly drop out of the wedding party and tell A exactly why I was doing so. People come in all shapes and sizes, and if the bride is so concerned with how those shapes and sizes will impact her wedding photos, perhaps she should hire her bridesmaids from a modeling agency. I’m surprised A even had friends enough to put together a bridal party!

By: The gold digger

The gold digger — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 17:57:00 +0000

I didn’t realize friendship came with a weight requirement. The letter writer definitely needs to ditch the bitch.