Archive for February, 2010

Twistie’s Sunday Caption Madness: The In the Beginning Edition

Sunday, February 28th, 2010

Hey there caption fans! It’s time once again to play Twistie’s Sunday Caption Madness!

You all know how this game works by now. I post a picture that’s simply crying out for a good caption. You provide said captions via the comments function. Next week I declare a winner and there is much rejoicing.

This week’s image, while innocent in intent, may not be entirely safe for work so I’ve placed it under a cut. I actually tried to post this one a while back, but it apparently only showed up on my and Mr. Twistie’s computers. If it doesn’t show up this week, I’m going to assume it’s too shy to use for this purpose.

The Bride Wore…What?

Saturday, February 27th, 2010

When you think of a bride, chances are that you think of a lady in a white dress. The fact is, though, that white is not required at all. Oh, and if you choose not to wear white, ivory isn’t your only other option. Really. No, this is true.

Look, white is great. If that’s what you want to wear I’ll have your back no matter what your matrimonial or sexual history, age, budget, or any other factor you may think is holding you back from your dream.

On the other hand, if you don’t want to wear white, I’ll have your back every bit as much. Maybe you don’t want to because this is your second wedding and you already did that. Maybe you feel uncomfortable because you come from a culture where white is a color of mourning. Or maybe you just think there’s another color you look better in than white. Whatever your reason, you should choose what makes you happy.

Wedding Dress Silver You could wear a silver gown and pair it with a dramatic, dark bouquet.

A Chick and Her Cat Get Hitched

Friday, February 26th, 2010

How fun is this gangster themed wedding party? (Not to be confused with a gangsta themed wedding party, which would be somewhat different… more velour, for one). One Jazz Defo snapped these pics of the wedding of some good friends. You have a gangster, who’s dizzy with his dame, his cats, a gorgeous bim, and one hell of a bean-shooter.

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I am loving their choices of wedding day attire — it may not be traditional, but it still looks way sharp. It’s pretty obvious that the bride and groom had fun with their choice of theme and even more fun getting their wedding photos taken. Oh, and yes, that’s a real Thompson submachine gun he’s holding! Way to take a wedding theme all the way!

Brides and Grooms Are Spending Less? Sort Of.

Thursday, February 25th, 2010

Cost of Wedding Down

While the economy is looking up these days, the supposedly watertight wedding industry didn’t make it through the downturn unscathed. The average cost of a wedding in 2009 dropped 10.2% over the 2008 totals, according to The Wedding Report, and that means bride and grooms (and their parents) were spending about $6,000 less per affair. Cost of Wedding had this to say:

On average, US couples spend $20,398 for their wedding. However, the majority of couples spend between $15,299 and $25,498 while their wedding budget is typically 50% less than the amount spent. This does not include cost for a honeymoon or engagement ring.

So where did those couples cut back? The wedding guest list was one area that got a little trim, with the average number of guests totaling 145 in 2008 versus 128 in 2009. Even as wedding stationery gets more and more beautiful, it wasn’t exempt from the squeeze. Reception menus in particular were downsized, with brides and grooms spending about 36% less on them. Other areas that suffered include gifts for the parents of the happy couple and… anklets. (Quelle horreur!)

And yet, as articles shout that wedding vendors are suffering in this weak economy, there are some area of the wedding budget that have seen definite increases. The Wedding Report found that brides and grooms spent about 23% more on musicians for their ceremonies and receptions, 16% more on their wedding photographers, and 13% on the wedding dress.

You’ll hear no judgments from me in either direction. People will spend what they want to spend on their weddings, and I’ve been to backyard weddings and huge elaborate multi-event weddings that were equally awesome. What I will say, though, is that brides and grooms who are cutting back because they have to shouldn’t feel like they’re the only ones doing so! The stats show that plenty of couples are keeping a tighter reign on those wedding budgets so you’re in good company.

Need a bit of help in that regard? I recommend How to Have an Elegant Wedding for $5000 or Less, Celebrate Simply, How to Plan Your Wedding and Save Thousands, and of course, iDo by yours truly!

(Photo via Art Vision Studio)

The Wedding You Crave?

Wednesday, February 24th, 2010

If the thought of getting married in a fast food joint makes you feel a little ill, it might just be the belly bombs getting to you. The fourth wedding in the series of fast food weddings — the McDonald’s wedding, the Waffle House wedding, and the Taco Bell wedding — that have come across our plate is the recent White Castle Wedding. Make that two White Castle Weddings.

Edward Denson and Tamika March’e Thomas said their vows on Valentine’s Day at an Ohio White Castle after winning a radio contest with a prize package that included a fast food wedding, a diamond pendant, and a White Castle gift card.

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Amazingly, while Edward and Tamika were saying their vows in Ohio, Stephanie Keil and Rich Brostowski were doing the same in New Jersey… at a White Castle… after winning a radio contest!

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My heartfelt congratulations to both couples, who I hope included Maalox on their wedding registries.

Can’t Find the Perfect Ceremony Space? Build It Yourself!

Tuesday, February 23rd, 2010

Need some inspiration to blow away the Tuesday blahs? As if the rolling hills in the background of this outdoor wedding space were not enough, this bride and groom pair was married in a unique and fascinating open air wooden chapel. The couple said their vows in the bride’s parents’ backyard, and it was the bride’s brother who built the structure complete with pretty windows and doors and a striking yellow altar.

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The chandelier is one of the details that really make this ceremony space a success. And how about that amazing dresser? The whole color scheme is so pretty and rustic without being too country.

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The chapel looks like it was open enough to retain an outdoor wedding feel while also giving wedding guests the impression of being in a cozy, private, and intimate space. It’s the best of both worlds!

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(Images: Green Wedding Shoes; Photographer: Stephanie Fay)

Too Feminine? (or There’s a Guy In Here Somewhere)

Monday, February 22nd, 2010

Somewhere close to half of all the people getting married at any one time are men. There are women marrying other women (so no dudes in those weddings) but there are also guys marrying other guys, which means it may more or less even out along straight and gay lines.

And yet, weddings are very often uber feminine affairs. There are big bunches of flowers, sometimes oodles and oodles of them. Wedding color palettes are trending toward gender-neutral hues, but there are still plenty of weddings with color schemes dominated by pinks and purples and pastels. Plus, so much of the wedding hype actively focuses on the bride — her experience, her wedding dress, the engagement ring, etc. — that the groom can seem like just another minor detail.

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My take on it is that society frames weddings as being for women. Dads tell their sons and future sons-in-law to “stand back and shut up” while the wife-to-be goes on a tulle-fueled buying binge. Advertisers address the bride-to-be’s experience. Have you ever seen a commercial or print ad that featured a groom-to-be waxing poetic about wedding planning? I haven’t. We grow up thinking of the guys as secondary players in the wedding, so maybe it’s easy for some people to forget that the guy standing in the corner holding the Tiffany & Co. box might have some opinions about what his wedding ought to look like. At best, grooms-to-be are given one area to oversee… they handle the music or the menswear, while the bride-to-be has the final say over everything else.

I realize, of course, that there are some men who honestly do not care about their own weddings. They’re more than pleased to be tasked with showing up at the ceremony wearing whatever their sweethearts have picked out. And there have got to be grooms who think a feminine wedding is the only kind of wedding! But I also wonder how many guys are “standing back and shutting up” because that’s what they’ve been taught to do, just as us ladies have been subtly trained to do it all. Maybe the groom-to-be secretly hates the pink wedding invitations or the wedding cake that looks like a castle or the elaborate floral arrangements, but is hesitant to say anything because he thinks he shouldn’t care or that caring will seem unmanly or some such thing.

To brides (or grooms) who are dismayed, offended, or irritated by their groom’s lack of interest in the wedding, I say give him another chance. Before you put down a deposit on a venue or vendor, ask his opinion. Try once more to include him when you’re shopping around. Give him something to do, especially if you’re feeling overwhelmed by all your wedding planning to-dos. The flip side is, of course, that once you include him, you have to respect his opinions and choices just like you expect him to respect yours. Compromise will no doubt be necessary. But won’t it be awesome to have a wedding that you created together and that reflects aspects of both of your personalities?

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