I don’t know how many of you have noticed, but I have frankly been pretty distracted of late.
The last couple of months have been a frustrating, distressing time at Casa Twistie and a true test of that vow ‘in sickness and in health.’ We’ve faced this kind of challenge before, and met it handily. So no, it didn’t strain the marriage one iota. It did, however, stress us both out horrifically as individuals.
You see, Mr. Twistie was facing another round of cardiac problems. Yes, another. He had a triple bypass about ten years ago. We were told at the time that somewhere around the ten year mark he would probably need more heart help.
A few months ago, it became clear to us that the time was drawing near. He was having chest pains, difficulty breathing, and his color was going distressingly grey. The joy of trying to convince the doctors on his insurance that he seriously needed help began. Yeah, they have a tendency to tell him to just quit smoking… which would be great advice if he smoked, and send him on his way.
But this is not meant to be a diatribe about the state of health care in the USA, so I’ll restrain myself a little about the dog and pony show. Suffice it to say that Mr. Twistie had to change doctors to get someone to pay attention to his chart, but he found such a doctor at last. Said doctor immediately sent Mr. Twistie on to the cardiologist.
One month, two hospital stays, and one aborted stenting procedure, one aborted consultation for a bypass, and finally a successful triple stenting later, Mr. Twistie came home yesterday with the color back in his cheeks, no longer clutching his chest when it pains him. He’s breathing better, too. My heart feels a million times better, too.
Marriage is a wonderful thing. There are times, though, that test our strength, our faith in one another, and our ability to cope with stress. I wish every one of you as few of those times as possible, because frankly they suck right out loud.
But those of you who face such trials and come out the other side as strong as ever – or even stronger – are truly lucky. It’s in the testing that you discover what your spouse means to you.
Mr. Twistie is my heart. It’s wonderful to have him better again.