LOVE/HATE: The ‘Just Come On, Already’ Edition
In case the novelty cake toppers featuring the bride dragging the groom to the altar or the much less common groom dragging the bride to the altar, we now have those wacky toppers in stunning reality in the form of staged wedding photos.
You know, just in case the stereotype of women having to trick men into getting married was prevalent enough. Oddly enough, I couldn’t find any images of a real groom dragging a real bride to the altar, which might have something to do with the fact that forced marriages are alive and well in many parts of the world, and more often than not, it is the bride who is the unwilling participant.
My take: Hate. Hate, hate, hate. This is one so-called funny stereotype I wish would just die already because the fact that it’s still around and has made its way into wedding photo albums doesn’t make anyone look good. What say you? Am I just being a fuddy-duddy, or what?
I think the reason this stereotype just won’t die is that somehow our culture has conflated the desire for a committed relationship with emasculation. Couples who have to joke about dragging the groom to the altar are uncomfortable with the implications of willing and joyful participation by men. I would speculate that men crying, or men helping to plan the wedding would be right out.
What makes this so odd is that men still traditionally do the asking – why ask to get married then stage a photo of your bride dragging you to the altar?
It is so funny, and the bride is very strong and brave. Maybe it is just a joke, as the scene is rare seen in real life. I can’t imagine that what is the result of forced marrige, but it must be incredibe.
I agree with you. I am sure this was meant in fun, but it smacks of stale mid-20th-century sitcom-y humor. And for that matter, let’s avoid the one about those desperate single girls elbowing each other for the boquet toss, too.
And while I’m on my soapbox, I’m not a fan of the whole staged-humor picture anyway. Yes, you can put in a few goofy pictures into your album, but it’s more charming when they don’t appear to be contrived.
I’m with you guys – enough with the insulting stereotypes!
Hate. For all the reasons you said. Bleh.
Ick. I hate the cake toppers. And now there are pictures! Ick. Force and coercion is not what marriage is about.