I like to run wedding ideas by The Beard by prefacing them with “If I was planning our wedding all over again, I would…” and the last wedding planning idea I hit him with was having a morning wedding. Gack, I hear some people thinking, a morning wedding? Why?! And I will admit, later on in this very post even, that there are definitely some downsides to having a morning wedding. But there are upsides, too, and for the right couple with the right families and social circle, a morning wedding can be the ultimate antidote to the whole overwhelming wedding cluster-you-know-what.
I wouldn’t advise anyone not eloping to say their vows at sunrise exactly, but morning light can make for some amazing photographs. Outdoor morning weddings are awesome, particularly if you’re getting married somewhere that gets hot as heck midway through the day. Sparkling morning dew! A refreshing breeze! Birds chirping their cheerful little heads off! What more could you want at an outdoor wedding? And for the indoors set, that great morning light still makes for fantastic photos.
Morning weddings can be cheaper
As long as you’re working with wedding vendors who are not opposed to handling more than one wedding in a day, you can get some great deals from caterers and the like who can set up your affair in the a.m. and spend the rest of the day prepping for a p.m. fete. And the fact is that morning weddings are often simpler animals – possibly sans alcohol, sans wedding dj, and less elaborate dishes at the reception. And if you’re open to marrying on Sunday? Zow! There are a lot of great ways to save on a morning wedding, keeping in mind that if you want something huge or fancy, you’re still going to pay for huge and fancy.
Dance (and drink) or not, as you like it
Who says there can’t be dancing or drinking at a morning wedding? Not this chick! But if you’re not entirely keen on either, it’s a lot easier to justify your choices to persnickety guests when your nuptials will take place in the first half of the day. On the other hand, you can have drinking and no dancing (think morningish cocktails like mimosas) or dancing and a dry wedding (yes to the dj, no to the booze).
Breakfast and brunch foods are usually favorites
Maybe you’ll go for the basics at your morning wedding – pancakes or an omelet station or quiche come to mind – or maybe you’ll get some super chef to design you a menu with fun, upscale versions of classic breakfast foods. I’ll suggest (and you can prove me wrong in the comments if you like) that most people when faced with a breakfast or brunch buffet comprised of lots of choices will be able to find something they like. After all, you’ve got your sweet foods and your savory dishes, filling fare and lighter options!
You have a whole day ahead of you (and you’re not exhausted)
By the end of our wedding day, The Beard and I were absolutely exhausted. Sure, our wedding was in the afternoon, but we’d both stayed up late the evening before, then there was a post-wedding casual dinner near our hotel, and there were some other social obligations we had to fulfill. If we’d had a morning wedding, we could have either had plenty of time to fulfill those obligations or we could have told people to sod off, since we’d gotten up so early in the a.m.
Which actually brings me to the downside of morning weddings, or one of them.
We can’t ignore them: The cons
It doesn’t matter whether you’re saying your vows at 9 a.m. or some time later… if you’re having attendants and getting your hair and makeup done, you will be getting up with or before Mr. Sun. And no matter how early you wake up, you’re probably still going to feel rushed. Oh, and you can forget having a late rehearsal dinner the night before, as all those little details that couples having evening weddings get to take care of in the morning will be on your plate the previous day. Your guests will probably have to stay at accommodations closer to the venue, and they may look like the walking dead in your wedding photos. And you may want to consider, as per The Beard’s recommendations, pre-feeding your guests at the ceremony locale with something like coffee and doughnuts while they wait for you to finish putting your face on.
Now spill: Have any of you out there had a morning wedding? Or are you thinking about having one?
(Image via Elizabeth Anne Designs)