Before You Go Crazy With That Wedding Cake, Read This!

Some couples take wedding cake smooshing for granted, and what’s worse, take it for granted that their better halves share their opinions on wedding cake smashing. A little icing up your nose won’t hurt anyone, of course, but it sure can do a number on the bride’s makeup job, indelibly dye a white wedding dress, or cause the groom to lose the security deposit on his rental. Every tried to get icing out of an updo?

And even though some brides and grooms don’t care about their clothes of makeup or hair, those same people may simply not want a handful of wedding cake smashed into their faces. Not at a wedding, not ever.

Look like fun? Maybe, maybe not. If they’re both into it, then dandy. I went looking for opinions about wedding cake smashing on message boards and elsewhere, and reactions to it ran the gamut from childish to hilarious. One reaction I found compared wedding cake smooshing to a slap in the face! I wouldn’t go that far, but I will admit that I asked The Beard NOT to smash and did not smash cake on his face. My stylist was in attendance, and I think he would have felt compelled to redo my makeup. Plus, getting dirty just isn’t my thing.

So personally, I won’t advocate for or against wedding cake smashing, but I will recommend that all brides and grooms – even those who consider themselves very easygoing – bring up the subject in advance of the reception so they and their new spouse will be on the same page when it comes time to cut the cake.

Photo by David Christensen

9 Responses to “Before You Go Crazy With That Wedding Cake, Read This!”

  1. Melissa says:

    My husband went in for the cake smooshing, I moved at the last minute and ended up with pieces of cake down my cleavage. Instinctually, my husband reached into my cleavage to pull it all out. All this in front of 200 people. It was hilarious actually, and one of the guests snapped a picture of it that we used on the front of our thank you card. I guess you just have to have a sense of humor about it.

    My uncle at his wedding went in for the cake smooshing of his lovely bride and then at the last second faked everyone out and smooshed it in his OWN face. That was great too!

  2. Jo says:

    Interesting. At the point when I did this, the total votes add up to 135%. Something awry there methinks…!

  3. Risi says:

    They are checkboxes not radio buttons. You can pick more than one.

  4. Impkitti says:

    As I understand, it started as a tender gesture of care – feeding each other. R and I discussed it before our wedding, and were in complete agreement.

    I really do not like the deliberate smooshing, I find it aggressive and in poor taste.

    Besides, it would have been abusing an absolutely wonderful chocolate cake from Pacific Deserts.

  5. Victor says:

    During my days as a banquet hall waiter, I recall one groom who ignored the calls to, “Do it!” by replying, “No, that gives ’em headaches.” And he and his bride tenderly fed each other a piece of cake.

  6. Melissa B. says:

    If both participants love the tradition and want to do it, I don’t have any objection, but it definitely wasn’t for me! I told my husband that if he smashed cake in my face, I was going to demand an annulment. We spent months anticipating that party and I was not about to spend part of it in the bathroom cleaning frosting out of my eyelashes and nostrils.

  7. Nati says:

    My fiance and I have already talked about the wedding cake smashing. I told him that I really do not want him to do that because on the biggest day in our life, I don’t want to spend any minute in the bathroom cleaning my face. I don’t want to have sticky cake all over my body and for my dress to get stained. I understand that we should feed each other with the wedding cake because it is a tradition but it is unnecessary to go crazy with it.

  8. Dave Booda says:

    Your post came up on a related topic after I wrote about this same thing. I have a different view though.

    Wedding cake was meant to be smashed in faces of the groom AND the bride. That is the way things should be but somewhere along the line a few women started telling men “ohhh it will ruin my make-up and all the time I put into making myself look good will be ruined”. Men being the logical people we are thought “oh she’s right, that makes sense so we should follow that reasoning”. What happened to emotion? What happened to the value of passion and playfulness in marriage? Isn’t that what’s missing from MOST marriages today?

    Just my thoughts, PS I love the picture you used… they’re having so much fun!