Quickie Question: Fairy Godparent, Yea or Nay?


Sometimes when you look over your wedding budget and the choices available within it, it’s tempting to imagine a fairy godmother coming along and making all your dreams come true with a flick of her wand. There are times when you’re dealing with yet another family squabble over the menu, the guest list, the seating arrangements, or the wording of the ceremony, it occurs to you that life would be much better if someone else came along to sort it all out for you.

But when I watch bridal reality shows that provide these services… I’m reminded that there are fairy godmothers, and there are fairy godmothers. After all, the one from Shrek looked so very sweet and kind and helpful. But I think I’d still rather deal with her than David Tutera.

Then again, I don’t give up control easily. Given the choice between an easy path and one that is overgrown because rational people no longer follow it… yeah, I’m going to break out my weed whacker and go attack those thorny wild berry bushes.

On my wedding day, I needed stuff to be doing with my hands so I could be calm and collected. I may have had a budget of two shiny nickels and been doing projects the morning of the big day, but that’s the sort of wedding I honestly wanted. I needed to have my hands in everything. I wanted things simple and handmade. I wouldn’t have known what to do with a lot more money.

Other brides honestly would prefer not to have to concern themselves with anything on the wedding day. There are many women who would find someone swooping in and doing everything for them, no expense spared, the very definition of awesome.

And then there are those whose preference would be somewhere in between. They’d love to have someone hand them wads of cash to use as they see fit.

So what about you? What would you do if a fairy godmother suddenly appeared and offered to simply make your dream wedding happen in a puff of glitter and pink smoke? Would you accept whatever she created, ask her to leave the money bags behind and use it your own way, or send her packing with a flea in her ear? Do you have yet another approach I haven’t considered?

Remember, there is no right and no wrong answer on this. There’s simply what approach you’d prefer.

3 Responses to “Quickie Question: Fairy Godparent, Yea or Nay?”

  1. Nariya September 19, 2011 at 2:02 pm #

    I would have said yea before my wedding, when I wanted something glamorous and complicated. Now, with some more perspective, I’d say nay. I’d plan my own bash just how I’d like it!

  2. Jenn September 19, 2011 at 4:19 pm #

    You know, my first wedding was planned almost entirely by my then Mother-in-Law and, looking back, I felt so disconnected from the whole thing.

    This time around it’s pure DIY and while, yes, I’d love to have a little more budget to work with for the things I cannot reasonably do myself, I’d never take someone else’s idea and execution of my wishes over my own hands-dug-in version. But, then, I’ve always been a little stubborn that way!

  3. Katie September 20, 2011 at 7:10 am #

    It actually mean a lot to me that I made the FG and BM dresses, that my MIL made my dress, that a SIL designed our invitations etc and a BIL printed them, that the best mad and his wife gave us our cake, that my honourary brother organised the music and MC’d the evening. Sure things might have been easier with more money, but it couldn’t have meant as much.