Archive for February, 2012

Quickie Question: Dream Honeymoon?

Tuesday, February 21st, 2012

The honeymoon is one of my favorite bridal traditions. It’s a chance to get away, get used to your new relationship, bask in the glow of each other… it’s both fun and practical.

But of course there are honeymoons and there are honeymoons. Not all of us get the honeymoon of our dreams.

Mr. Twistie and I dreamed of London. We couldn’t afford it at the time we got married. Instead, we drove up the California coast to Vancouver and spent a couple lovely days there before turning around and driving home again. It may not have been our ultimate dream, but it was a heck of a great trip. We had lovely adventures along the road both ways. And five years later, we did get our dream trip to London. It was every bit as great as we’d hoped.

So what about all of you? Did you/will you get your dream honeymoon? What is it? If you’re doing something else, what is it? If you did something other than your dream, how did you enjoy it?

Quickie Question: What’s Least Important to You?

Monday, February 20th, 2012

(Illustration via Zazzle where you can order this cool shirt, if you like… or not)
When you’re planning a wedding, it’s easy to get caught up in the superimportance of… just everything. But you know what? Not every single possible item is important to every single couple, and that’s okay.

Between chairs and cakes and flowers and dresses and music and lighting and maps and tablecloths… yeah, there are going to be at least a couple that just plain don’t matter all that much to you.

I frankly didn’t care that much about the invitations and maps. If they were reasonably attractive and got the information across, I really wasn’t that concerned about the details of what they looked like. When I found an invitation at my local stationary store that I thought was pretty and it turned out to be discounted, I went ahead and ordered it. I left the maps in the capable hands of Mr. Twistie whose sense of direction and ability to convey messages about distance and where to turn is far, far greater than mine.

I didn’t really care what the men wore. I mean, as long as they didn’t show up in gym shorts sans undergarments and tee shirts with obscene slogans, it didn’t matter much to me whether or not they matched or what it was they did wear. When one of my brothers called and announced if Mr. Twistie didn’t tell him what to wear soon he was going to show up in a kimono and a top hat, I told him that was fine with me, but I would tell Mr. Twistie to get in touch with his guys and tell them what he wanted. A small part of me has always been disappointed that Mr. Twistie actually made the call. I thought the kimono and top hat sounded kind of spiffy.

Flowers and other decorations were a low priority to me. We were getting married in the woods, so I figured I’d go with the decor Mother Nature provided for free, and just add a few bouquets and such. Thirty five bucks at the open-to-the-public florist’s supply and a couple goodies that friends donated from their gardens without any prompting from me took care of everything I needed or wanted.

I didn’t care that Mr. Twistie didn’t want a wedding ring. He doesn’t wear jewelry, so his decision didn’t either surprise or upset me. I asked him if he wanted one, he said no, that was the end of that for me. Funnily enough, a lot of people seemed to have more trouble with that one than I did. I figure that owning a ring wasn’t going to change his attitude about fidelity, so why freak? If I can’t trust him without a ring, I can’t trust him. I do trust him. It’s his hand. He doesn’t want a ring on it. Me? I’m all for any excuse for another ring. But that’s me.

What’s low priority for you? What aspect of wedding planning can you not imagine giving a gnat’s eyelash about?

Inspiration: Neon

Saturday, February 18th, 2012

When thinking about wedding colors, many of us tend toward pastels or deep jewel tones. Neutrals also have a strong following. But what about neon?

I know, it struck me – child of the sixties and Yellow Submarine fan though I am – as possibly a bit scary and OTT… until I saw it done right.

The key, as shown in this fabulous photo of a real wedding featured at Design Sponge, is restraint. Keep the backgrounds to stark white or black, and use the neons sparingly. Stick to just a couple colors, but don’t fear them.

As you can see here, a bright white background and carefully considered touches of neon pink, neon orange, and lime green make for a festive, fun, yet surprisingly sophisticated look.

Their Love is Lifting Them Higher

Friday, February 17th, 2012

This happy couple is Lela McArthur and Stephanie Figarelle, personal trainers both hailing from Alaska. They didn’t marry there. The place they’re standing is the observation deck of the Empire State Building in New York City. On Valentine’s Day, McArthur and Figarelle became the first same-sex couple to marry in the Empire State Building after winning a contest on Facebook to get married there with the services of celebrity event planner Colin Cowie. The contest, called Wings of Love, also required the happy couple to accept the choices of Facebook users to determine their wedding rings, floral arrangements, reception menu… pretty much everything.

Figarelle wore a black suit provided by Men’s Warehouse, and McArthur wore a strapless white gown sent from Kleinfeld, setting of Say Yes to the Dress and it’s myriad offshoots.

In a statement to the Associated Press, Figarelle said:

‘It’s unfortunate it’s not more understood or accepted in our country. Love is genderless. It’s two souls, that’s it,’

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I couldn’t agree more.

In all, four couples won weddings in the Empire State building. Aterwards, all four couples’ weddings will be voted on again to decide which had the nicest one. That couple will win a $100,000.00 cash prize.

I hope you’ll join with me in wishing the very happiest of marriages to all four couples: McArthur and Figarelle, Phil Fung and Shawn Klein (the first male/male couple to marry in the Empire State Building), Angela Vega and Lubin Masibay, and Paula Cubero and Enrique Cattler. Whoever wins the prize money, you have all begun an amazing journey. Best wishes!

The Tie-Ins Never Stop

Thursday, February 16th, 2012

Yes, it’s Kate and William Barbie and Ken. According to an article from MSNBC, Mattel plans to release the hound… er… dolls… er… collectible figures in April to coincide with the royal couple’s first anniversary.

The pair will be dressed in wedding finery modeled on that worn by the actual couple, from her Alexander McQueen gown to her diamond tiara and the groom’s Irish Guard uniform in striking scarlet.

Of course, some couples get immortalized as Barbie dolls faster than others. Last month, Mattel released their Twilight line Edward and Bella Barbie and Ken… and they were only married last summer.

Then again, the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge are available for pre-order at $100.00 a set, while Edward the Sparkly Vampire and his eternal bride go for just $29.95 each.

For those looking for something down the middle, Mattel did release their wedding edition Faith Hill and Tim McGraw wedding Barbie and Ken for $69.95. They come with microphones.

Picture Perfect Wedding

Wednesday, February 15th, 2012

When wedding photographer Jerry Tomko survived stomach cancer in 2007 thanks to the excellent care he received at Thomas Jefferson’s Kimmel Cancer Center in Philadelphia, he wanted to give back to those who had saved his life. And so it was that he asked the center to find a cancer patient or survivor who needed some nice wedding pictures.

For quite a while, the center didn’t have any ideas who Tomko could help. Then along came social worker and mother of four Melinda Muniz.

Happy Valentine’s Day From Manolo for the Brides!

Tuesday, February 14th, 2012

May you get all your hearts’ desires… and some extra chocolates.