Whatever your preferred end of December holiday, Twistie and I want to wish you a happy one! My holiday will be all the happier for including cupcakes, like these from Nicholas Lodge. Yum!
FULL DISCLOSURE: I’m knocked up. There’s a bun in my oven. I am heavy — well, not yet — with child. I’ve got a stowaway in my gullet. There is a person growing in my uterus. Etc., etc. Why am I telling you this? Besides the fact that it’s fun to spill the beans, I can also tie it in nicely with today’s topic. You see, I’m currently trying to get The Beard to write a pre-baby blog, the same way I tried to get him to write a groom blog when we were planning the wedding. That is to say, to no avail.
Which brings me to my main point. There’s a total drought of groom blogs out there. Oh, you get plenty of results when searching for groom’s blogs, but most went defunct long before the associated wedding. I suppose you could argue that there’s just not enough out there to occupy the average groom-to-be’s attention, but no one is saying that dudes should be blogging about bridal shoes, floral arrangements, or table linens. I’d be satisfied with a blog filled with groom-centric grousing about high prices, meddling relatives, and the Electric Slide.
Contrary to what popular culture tells us, not all men are grunting barbarians who think wedding planning is for sissies and girls. As tongue-in-cheek as it is, I don’t like Brideorama’s Top 11 Reasons Its NOT a Good Idea to Put The Groom In Charge of the Wedding list because it promotes unfair stereotypes. Find me one groom-to-be who actually wants his groomsmen in tie-dye t-shirts and his wedding vows to include the words, “Whatever, dude.” Heck, I would have happily eloped, but The Beard wanted a wedding with all the pomp and circumstance!
Grooms should be sharing their experiences, if a survey by Bridal Guide is any indication. According to respondants, 42% of engaged couples plan their weddings together, flatly ignoring the kind of advice my father gave The Beard, i.e., “Shut up and get out of the bride’s way.” It makes sense, considering how many men and women are paying for all or part of their own weddings. If a guy is dropping $5,000 for cake, music, a site, and transportation, he’s going to want to have his say.
After some Googling, I found two active blogs for grooms, one of which is the blog associated with GroomGroove so it doesn’t really count. The other, I Groomzille…You Bride, has been around since July, is written by an actual groom-to-be, and the author is involved in his wedding in a decidedly dude-ish way.
If your guy is at all involved in planning your wedding, why not suggest that he start a blog about it? He could also be a contributing writer on your blog if you have one. It won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, of course, but I really think that we here in the wide world of online wedding writing could use a dose of testosterone.
Since the fabulous Never teh Bride finds herself without access to Word Press today, you guys get another day of Twistieness this week. Let’s all wish NtB a fabulous day sort-of-off and get down to business.
There have been some great posts of late out there in the bridal world, and I thought I’d point you in the direction of a couple of stand outs. First on the list is not from a bridal blog. It’s from Shapely Prose, where Fillyjonk has written an excellent article on the difficulties brides of size find in getting what they need in bridal salons and how to bypass the Wedding Industrial Complex to get a great wedding outfit. FJ, I’m totally stealing the term Wedding Industrial Complex.
Nina’s Weddings Blog has some great advice for the bride who wants to make her own wedding cake. This is meant for someone who is already an experienced home baker, but it definitely takes some of the mystery and terror out of the concept. Trust me, if you can make a nice cake, you can make a simple wedding cake. She’s also got a link to another blog with an even simpler plan that sounds delicious.
The Engaged Guy gives us a timely reminder that sometimes even the groom has trouble getting the outfit he wants. Luckily, the story has a happy ending.
iDo Sugar discusses a…er…somewhat…specialized and painfully intimate bridal beauty product. This is probably not work safe and definitely not for the faint of heart. All I know is I’m glad nobody thought of it before and I really wonder what the hell prompted anyone to think of it now.
A Practical Wedding showcases a lovely, elegant small wedding held at a lighthouse in Sausalito, CA. Gorgeous and dignified.
A Little of This, A Little of That asks a question that had definitely been haunting me of late in light of seeing too many episodes of Say Yes to the Dress. I don’t know if an answer has been found, but the question definitely needed asking.
NtB will be back on the job tomorrow, so I’ll see all you guys next weekend!
News of iDo: Planning Your Wedding with Nothing But ‘Net is getting around, thanks to my ubercool publicist at Simon & Schuster and the word getting around. The sweeties over at Aisledash called me a “wedding guru,” which made my entire weekend. I was quoted in an article on Smartmoney.com, and I’m being interviewed for an article in the NY Post tomorrow. And there was an entire article based on iDo in the NY Daily News!
If you’d like to see what all the fuss is about — or you already own one copy of my book and you’d like one for a friend — tell me in the comments what you think I should call my next wedding planning book. Be as silly or serious as you want to be — there’s no guarantee I’ll ever cop your title, but you never know!
At noon EST on Wednesday, June 25, I’ll use a random number generator to pick the lucky commenter who will win an autographed copy of iDo.
One: Remember how I made soap using a soap kit from Bramble Berry? If you read the whole post, you may recall that I used regular old food coloring (the sort in the teardrop shaped bottles) so I could enjoy a little more sudsy variety. Because I didn’t want anyone who tried the kit getting mad at me, I wrote: “I don’t recommend you do the same because I’m not yet sure the resultant soaps won’t turn you blue or green.”
However, I am now happy to state that I’ve been using one of my dyed-with-food-coloring soaps for a while not and have not yet turned green.
Two: Check me out over at iVillage! In honor of iDo‘s official release, they asked me to create a list of five web sites I think every bride-to-be should visit while planning her wedding. The result is up on the iVillage wedding blog From “I Will” to “I Do”.