And of course whatever colors you choose, someone loves them and someone else hates them. Some couples compromise if someone close to them has a difficulty with the colors they really wanted in the first place. After all, it might be politic to remove black from the color scheme if it’s going to upset grandma too much, or pink if the best man is uncomfortable with so much as a pink tie. Whether you do that depends on how much the relationship means to you as opposed to how important the color is to you. Only you can decide where your priorities lie.
Me? I wound up more or less avoiding the whole question. I didn’t specifically choose a color scheme, weirdly enough. In the end, the wedding wound up being mostly cream and silver grey with touches of red, which I liked. I didn’t go in saying ‘these are my colors.’ I just picked things I liked… and once I’d picked a couple things, others fell into place. But there were touches of every color of the rainbow at that wedding. Pink, blue, yellow, lavender, even orange made an appearance. I was tremendously pleased with my no color scheme color scheme. It left me open to options that kept the whole look from being too carefully matched for such an informal style of picnic wedding.
But I think if I’d specifically picked wedding colors, they most likely would have involved blue and/or purple. Funny how neither wound up being a major part of the wedding.
So what about you? Do you have an ideal wedding color scheme? A color you would never dream of putting in your wedding? One you love but worry is too cliche to use?
Tell us all about it!]]>
Pink wedding gowns tend to cause a bit of a stir, but they’re hardly something new.
After all, this wedding gown dates from 1877.
Just a month before my own 1993 wedding, I attended one where the bride wore bright rose pink.
It’s not for everyone, of course. I’m not a pink lady, and never was. But if you look good in pink, and you like it, and it feels festive to you, why not?]]>
Some of us, though, have a harder time deciding on the question that will set the mood and the look for the entire event. Yes, I know, that sounds momentous. It sounds like making the wrong move here will destroy the entire wedding. Trust me, though, it probably won’t. It’s an important decision, but not a world-ending one. This should be the fun part of planning.
If you’re finding yourself stuck, maybe all you need is a little inspiration to hunt through. To that end, I’ve found you a couple resources that might give you a pointer in the right direction.
The image above comes from an inspiration gallery over at Better Homes and Gardens. You’ll find eighteen different color schemes illustrated, with links to pictures of real weddings based on those colors for each combination. It’s a great place to start.
Another good tool is the color wheel at Brides.com. You can pick a color range you want to work in, a level of contrast you prefer, or just let the wheel spin and spit out what it will. This one doesn’t direct you to weddings in those colors, but if you find something that appeals, you can go look at real things in those shades and see how you like them.
Color sets mood. It helps make the design cohesive. Whether your preference is graphic black and white, gentle pink and cream, giddy orange and yellow, or lush purple and red, your colors should make you happy.
Go find what makes you smile, and then make it your wedding day.]]>
Of course table settings are one thing… but far from the only thing you can do in mint. How about a mint wedding gown?
I found this pic at Stella Harper Events, and I love it. Not only is the dress fabulous, the VW microbus in the back looks exactly like the one my father drove for about twenty years until he passed it on to one of my brothers.
But not everyone is ready to wear a mint wedding gown. Of course, that doesn’t mean you can’t have a few colorful accessories to pull the color scheme together.
Check out this etherial wedding halo of mint fabric flowers and pearls I spotted at Platinum Weddings and Events.
And of course it looks delicious on the buffet table!
de la Renta showed several colored wedding gowns in his latest collection. Some were vibrant red like this, the others were a more ethereal blue. Vera Wang showed gowns in shades of red from an almost black burgundy to a vivid vermillion. Red, blue, purple, pink… color is one of the top stories of bridal couture for the coming year. But what does that mean for you?
Frankly, it means what you want it to mean. While color is being shown in more and more collections, it’s still just a fraction of what’s available. White isn’t going anywhere, anymore than ivory, blush, or ecru are. If your dream is a white gown, then I say go for it.
But white just isn’t for everyone.
There are brides who cannot find a shade of white they feel they look good in. There are some who prefer to buck tradition whenever possible. There are some brides even in this day and age of four time divorcees wearing white to the altar again who feel that white would be false advertising if they aren’t virgins.
For my part, I consider the state of the bride’s hymen to fall firmly into the ‘none of my business, so please don’t share with me’ category. I do happen to believe that there is a shade in the white spectrum that will make the most of nearly any complexion, if you look for it. As for the tradition of white… it’s not nearly as set in stone as most people think. Until very late in the nineteenth century the vast majority of women simply wore their best dress, whatever color it happened to be, or had a dress made that would then be their best dress until it got too shabby to wear and was cut up to dress the children or make a quilt. While more and more women had white available to them after the invention of the sewing machine and the home washing machine, it still took until well into the last century for most women to assume they would marry in a white gown they would wear only the one time.
All the same, colorful wedding gowns aren’t for everyone, either.
Take a moment to really consider how you feel about the color of gown you will wear to get married. Consider the feelings of those close to you. Will your mother be horrified or supportive? Will a scarlet wedding gown give your beloved grandmother a heart attack? How often will people demand you explain yourself? There are some social circles where nobody will even blink, but there are some where you could find yourself being whispered about for years afterward. How much this matters to you is, of course, up to you. All the same, it’s worth recognizing.
Think about the space you’re getting married in and where you’re having your reception. What sorts of colors are already in place? If you’re dreaming of a pale green wedding gown and you’re getting married in a garden, that’s a dream of a combination. But it might not look as lovely in a church with a lot of red stained glass windows muddying up the color of your gown.
Also keep in mind that while big name designers are doing colored gowns right now, that doesn’t mean that your local bridal salon will have much selection for you in the color of your choice. That means you’ll need to be flexible about how you find your gown. Don’t be afraid to look into having a custom gown made by a seamstress, or to check out the evening wear selections at department stores instead of going to a bridal salon.
Me? I love a colorful wedding gown. One of the prettiest brides I ever saw wore bright rose pink for her nuptials. And yet when I walked down the aisle it was in a cream colored gown with silver grey lace… and a tartan arisaide… and bright scarlet dancing ghillies.
So remember, even if you do decide on a white gown, it doesn’t mean you can’t be colorful. Details can say a lot, too.
The most important question of all is this: what makes you feel like a joyful bride?
The correct answer? Wear whatever that happens to be.]]>
But if you aren’t getting married in white, that opens up every possible color in the rainbow to you. What to pick then? Well, right now a lot of brides are looking to shades of silver, steel, platinum, and just plain grey.
Grey? For a wedding gown??? Yep. I say don’t knock it until you take a look at it.
Take, for instance, this strapless Aria gown in platinum floral print on a cream colored background shown here with a narrow spring green sash (sold separately, which means you can do without, choose another color, go wider, or choose something with beading instead, if you prefer).
It’s simple, festive, and definitely not the standard wedding gown.
But shades of grey can go dramatic, too.
For instance, this steel tulle ballgown by Wtoo features metallic beading and embroidered lace embellishments. With all those ruffles, it’s definitely dramatic. And in that color, it would look spectacular with the currently popular pink and purple blooms.
Even the seriously budget-minded can get in on the trend with this steel blue Casrin strapless gown. In fact, it can be ordered for a mere $131.79, plus shipping. What’s more, just another $25.00 gets it in custom sizing.
Or you can go entirely custom, like this delicious gown made of vintage cream uchikaki with silver silk charmeuse trim:
White wedding gowns are great, as are ones in cream, ivory, blush pink, gold, emerald green and bright purple. But if shades of grey make a good frame for your face, seriously think about wearing one of them. It can look amazing.
And I know. My cream-colored wedding gown featured silver grey lace trim way back in 1993. Little did I know then I was a trend setter! I just thought it was pretty.]]>
I’ve found a few examples of the versatility of copper, just in case you’re undecided on the matter.
(Image via Delightfully Engaged)
Here copper combines with red for a sumptuous, elegant look. It’s rich and warm.
Here a combination of aqua, copper, and old gold makes for a cool yet invitingly stylish look.
(image via One Fab Day)
(Image via Craft Foxes)
Here a copper-colored glass and a mass of kumquats make for a rich, but budget-friendly centerpiece. Click on the link to read more about it and get some great ideas for imaginative, inexpensive decorations from the Craft Foxes interview with Preston Bailey.
Image via One Wed)
But as I said before, copper can be rustic and simple, too. This dessert table is a perfect example of what I’m talking about. It also shows how great copper looks with neutrals.
So if you’re looking for a metallic to add to your wedding colors, don’t forget about copper!]]>
I know, it struck me – child of the sixties and Yellow Submarine fan though I am – as possibly a bit scary and OTT… until I saw it done right.
The key, as shown in this fabulous photo of a real wedding featured at Design Sponge, is restraint. Keep the backgrounds to stark white or black, and use the neons sparingly. Stick to just a couple colors, but don’t fear them.
As you can see here, a bright white background and carefully considered touches of neon pink, neon orange, and lime green make for a festive, fun, yet surprisingly sophisticated look.
One way to show you don’t fear neon is to put it on yourself. From funky jewelry to fabulous fun tights like these (though I have to say I dislike pairing them with white shoes. I would probably go bold on the footwear with them), or spectacular neon nail polish, you can carry out your theme in bold touches from head to toe.
While I saw several people encouraging neon bridesmaid’s dresses, I have to say I’m not wild about that one. It sounds like a great way to alienate your best friends and any sisters-in-law you have in your bridal party… unless they all love neon, too. My advice? Stick to your background neutral and dole out neon details like the nail polish, tights, and jewelry. Trust me, your bridesmaids will thank you.
For flowers, go with gerbera daisies, or just go crazy and do fabulous faux blooms, like these felt and button flowers I saw at Blog.Celebration.Co.Za.
Another great place to use neon is the dessert table. Whether you go for a super bright cake:
like this one I spotted at Pink Cake Box, or a variety of colorful treats such as Parisian macarons:
… you can go big with neon in the desserts.
Yes, a marriage is a serious thing, and I do believe in taking the wedding seriously. But it doesn’t have to be solemn, or timid in color. Have a blast… of neon!]]>
Dessert tables are expected to continue to be a big deal in weddings. Variety is the spice of life, and a wonderful way to end a reception meal.
A further wrinkle on this trend that’s on the rise for parties that last late into the night is a second spread of snacks offered to guests on their way out. Doughnuts, cookies, sliders, coffee and cocoa… this is the chance to offer up a tasty final gift to your guests.
Alternatives to flowers are another trend on the rise. Paper, brooches, fabric, feathers… if it can substitute for flowers, someone’s using it. This is a great trend if you’re dealing with allergies or want to DIY your bouquets and centerpieces over time. But real flowers are hardly going anywhere.
More brides have been doing DIY projects for their weddings, and that isn’t changing anytime soon. Whether it’s to save money, add uniquely personal touches, or honor a family tradition, using your own hands to put at least a couple pieces of your wedding together can be tremendously satisfying.
Green is clearly the way to go in the coming year. From invitations of recycled paper to living plant centerpieces, to packets of wildflower seeds as favors, brides and grooms everywhere are getting eco-friendly and loving it.
More weddings than ever are happening in the great outdoors. Whether it’s a garden, a beach, the woods, couples are choosing the sky as the ceiling they prefer. As someone who had an outdoor wedding and loved it, I say go for it… just make sure you have a backup plan in case of inclement weather.
Of course trends are fun, but never follow one if it feels wrong to you. You should do what matters to you.]]>
You may have a favorite color that’s become something of a signature in your life. It doesn’t matter whether that color is sunshine yellow, inky indigo, or bright fuchsia: everybody will know it’s from you when your invitation arrives in the mail, because it’s in ‘your’ color.
Or you may choose a color because it’s culturally significant. Many a Japanese or Indian bride has chosen red because it’s as standard in their cultures as bridal white is in ours. And there are brides who decide that if red, white, and blue is good enough for Old Glory, well, it’s good enough for them.
You may choose the colors of your favorite sports team, or just go with the color scheme of the church or hall where you’re having your wedding. Then again, you may decide to go with what’s currently fashionable. That one’s easy. After all, you know that everything you need will be readily available in the colors you want! And if you already like those colors, so much the better.
You may even decide to pay tribute to someone you loved who has passed on by using their favorite color in your wedding. It’s a happy, subtle way to honor someone who has been important in your life, after all.
Or you may find yourself utterly flummoxed and hunt online for sites that will allow you to play with color until you find a combination that makes you smile.
You can put together an inspiration board and see what colors keep jumping out at you.
(I found this one at Wedding Aces)
Or you can even do what I did: not bother to pick. That’s right, I never picked specific wedding colors. I just found things I liked and put them together. I dressed the bridesmaids in the same shade of white I wore, added tartan arisaides all around, tossed in some pretty flowers and ribbons… and voila! A ridiculously attractive wedding. Red did seem to keep popping up, which worked just fine. I like red, Mr. Twistie’s mother was from Japan, and my late mother was particularly fond of the color. It wasn’t something I had particularly planned on, but it turned out nicely. All those tartans meant that the cheerful mix of flowers all co-ordinated with something else. And overall, since the day was a picnic in the woods, a bit of randomness and informality really fit the situation nicely.
Whatever colors you choose, it’s fine. Whatever the reason you choose them is fine. Color can – and should – be one of the fun bits of the planning, because it’s just pretty. So have fun with it. Choose something that makes you and your intended smile, and just take it to eleven… or whatever number will make you happy.]]>