Archive for the ‘Proposals’ Category

How Much Is Peace of Mind Worth to You?

Wednesday, March 21st, 2012

Do you know what can happen if you go about proposing the wrong way to your lady?

According to R.J. Licata, the dangers include:

– Marrying the wrong girl
– Waiting too long/Proposing too soon
– Buying the wrong ring
– Overspending on the ring
– Being uninformed
– Overlooking an important detail
– Ruining the surprise
– Destroying your nerves
– Letting her down

I think about the only thing he left out was the heartbreak of psoriasis.

Oh, wait! That was a dandruff shampoo commercial in the seventies. My bad.

But Licata has the answer! He has written the book he wishes had existed before he proposed marriage. You know, the one that would have stopped him marrying the wrong girl. Or maybe it was that he was uninformed… or maybe he let her down. It’s hard to tell.

What’s Up at the Huff Po Wedding Page

Thursday, March 1st, 2012

Sometimes it’s fun to take a gander at the weddings page at the Huffington Post just to see what’s being said there. The information and advice often ranges from the painfully trite to the downright deranged, but there’s also an occasional nugget of bridal goodness to be mined.

For instance, that photo at the top of this entry? That’s Len Kendall. When he decided to pop the big question, he went to Buzzfeed and posted this meme of himself asking Katie the Big Question… and invited his friends to create images in a similar vein to support him. The images include everything from Tim Tebow to Angelina Jolie’s right leg to… stuff I don’t recognize, but still find amusing. About the only one I didn’t see was Princess Beatrice’s hat from last spring’s royal wedding. Then again, I’m guessing the images at Huff Po don’t include every single effort.

BTW, the lady said yes.

Can You Get Delivery on This?

Monday, February 13th, 2012

Tomorrow, as most of us know, is Valentine’s Day. Not only is V Day huge for the flower and chocolate and teddy bear industries, it’s also one of the most popular days of the year for people to propose making their SOs their spouses. And every year some surprising company that doesn’t sell diamond jewelry makes a play to get into the lucrative ‘getting people engaged’ industry.

The latest player in that game is Pizza Hut. I’m betting it’s too late to play now, what with the big day being tomorrow and what with PH having limited the deal to just ten pizza loving couples, but for $10,010.00 they will give the following:

Limo service
a ruby engagement ring
a bouquet of flowers
a personal fireworks display
a professional photographer
a professional videographer
a Pizza Hut $10.00 Dinner Box, containing: a medium, one topping rectangular pan pizza, five breadsticks with marinara sauce, and ten cinnamon sticks with a sweet icing cup in one box.

I have to say, the thing that probably intrigues me the most about the entire deal is the fact that the engagement ring included is a ruby flanked by diamonds, and not all diamonds. Funnily enough, I do think it adds to the appeal of the deal for me… though any man who thought what I wanted most in a proposal was chain pizza and breadsticks would probably get a very sad video in return for his ten grand investment.

Then again, I’m betting there are at least ten women in America who would consider this the absolute perfect proposal. I hope their loves found this offer.

And So the Controversy Continues….

Monday, January 16th, 2012

Some of you may recall a recent article in which I discussed that new professional in the world of weddings, the proposal planner. Some of you may recall I wasn’t too crazy about the whole concept. The three of you who responded were equally – if not moreso – unimpressed.

Well, it seems we are not alone. Proposal planner Michele Willamson has written an article for Huffpo defending her profession. It seems to Wiliamson that we just don’t understand her calling. If only we understood, we would change our minds and appreciate her services, even if we didn’t use them ourselves.

She answers some questions about her job… but frankly I find that her answers don’t actually make me think her business any more useful than I found it before. After all, she says she plans intimate, personal proposals as well as huge, flashy ones. But if it’s intimate and personal, why does the gentleman (and she does divide the world into ‘men’ and ‘females’ which is a nasty habit more and more people seem to be falling into) require someone to tell him what would be intimate and personal for him and his lady? Or gentleman? And the fact that Williamson says she is present for most of these proposals frankly kind of skeeves me out.

She says that she does a lot of research by talking to the man about his relationship with his female… oops, I mean his significant other. She prompts him to remember things and consider questions that may not have occurred to him. But has this gentleman no friends? No family members he might consult? Has he no skills to discover for himself what his love finds romantic? Is it never possible for a woman to propose???

After all, the best way to make the proposal romantic is to consider carefully the tastes and personality of the person being proposed to, as well as the history and structure of the overall relationship. If, for instance, a man knows that his lady always sighs happily at movies when an engagement ring is discovered in a glass of champagne, he knows she’ll find that romantic. If she laughs her head off and talks about wasting a perfectly good glass of champagne, chances are that’s not the way to propose. If the moment just seems right while lying in bed on a lazy sunday morning… then why not take the chance? Only if you know she wants the down on one knee approach and for you to ask her parents for permission to marry her.

There is no such thing as a universally romantic proposal. And unless you’re trying to arrange the practicalities of a Jumbotron, a marching band, and a host of celebrities showing up to urge your beloved to say yes… chances are you can work it out on your own. And even then? Yeah, guys have been working out the Jumbotron thing at sporting events for decades all by themselves.

Sorry, Michele, but I still don’t see a need for your service. And while I will refrain from personal abuse, I laugh soundly at what you’ve chosen to do with your life and the people who think they need it.

Would You Want Your SO to Hire a Proposal Planner?

Wednesday, December 28th, 2011

A new professional has appeared on the wedding planning horizon… well, ahead of it, really. This smiling lady shown above is Sarah Pease, and she plans proposals. In fact, she calls herself the Proposal Planner. She’s one of a small but growing number of professional proposal planners. According to her Facebook page:

we’re the go-to source for men who want to create the perfect proposal. Not only do we know what girls want in their proposal, we know exactly what will knock their stilettos off.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t think I would have wanted Mr. Twistie to go to a pro to figure out how to create some spectacular EVENT of a proposal. I like the fact that he chose the time and place on his own and said his own words.

There are a lot of people who wouldn’t have found Mr. Twistie’s proposal all that romantic. The setting wasn’t spectacular. In fact it was a family-style restaurant that still happened to be open when we got out of the theater ravenously hungry. The words weren’t poetic. In fact, it took me a while to get him to say enough words to figure out what he was trying to say.

But it was him and it him telling me in his own way that he’d thought hard about pleasing me.

To me, that was perfect. I didn’t need bells and whistles and hot air balloons. All I needed was for him to let me know that I come first with him.

And that doesn’t cost money.

Super Awwww

Tuesday, July 19th, 2011

Just because I was okay with a plain, no frills proposal of marriage doesn’t mean I don’t go all gooey inside when I see creative marriage proposals like this one by 28-year-old Jeff Gurwin, who got his graffiti on when he popped the question to 27-year-old Caitlin Fitzsimons. It wasn’t only an incredibly sweet proposal all on its own; it was also a lot of fun to watch the making-of video.

Especially fun, I think, because Caitlin answered Jeff’s graffiti marriage proposal in the affirmative. Always nice to have a happy ending! Now, who hasn’t chimed in before and wants to share their proposal stories?

Some Unusual Proposals Work… Some Don’t

Sunday, January 30th, 2011

Here at Manolo for the Brides, we are delighted with imagination and creativity. Because of that, I have to give it up for Greg, a Cincinnati gentleman who chose to offer his lady love, Dana, his heart through a Groupon coupon.

The bride-elect was offered a 100% discount on the deal, but of course there’s some fine print:

Nontransferable. Groupon entitled to no less than 15% of your marital bliss. Either party may develop a snoring problem. One or both participants will not always look like a 20-year-old. Good luck, you kids.

The lady said yes. I wish them both all happiness.

On the less successful end of the imaginative proposal scale, we find Anna Perez of Chicago who chose the truly unique tack of calling 911 as her boyfriend was trying to break up with her in hopes that the police would convince him to marry her instead.

The gentleman was not amused. Neither were the police. Perez remains single.