Archive for the ‘Same-Sex Weddings’ Category

Marriage Equality Wins in Landslide!

Wednesday, November 7th, 2012

Four states had ballot measures concerning same sex marriage in yesterday’s election, along with that trivial electing the president thing. Guess what? Equality won!

Maine and Maryland became the first two states in the USA to choose marriage equality by voter referendum. Maine reversed a 2009 referendum that banned same sex marriage, while Maryland voted to accept the state law in favor of same sex marriage that was passed earlier this year.

Washington state looks likely to make it a triad, with another vote to accept a law passed earlier this year. When last I saw the numbers, a little over half the votes had been counted and the tally was running 52% – 48% in favor. I’m keeping my fingers crossed that it continues in that vein.

And while they aren’t making it exactly legal yet, Minnesota voters have refused to amend their state constitution to ban same sex marriage.

Here’s to many lovely weddings, whether they involve one bride and one groom, two grooms, or two brides!

Love should always triumph.

Scotsmen In Love… and Other Cool Weddings

Friday, October 26th, 2012

Sometimes it’s fun to go wandering about on other wedding blogs and take a look at some of the great weddings they feature. Here are a few of my faves from the past week I’d like to share.

First up is a delightful wedding of two handsome Scotsmen in kilts named Chris and Eric, featured on A Practical Wedding.

Kilts, more kilts, a pretty outdoor spot, yet more kilts, people dancing Gay Gordons (and that really is a dance, in fact Mr. Twistie and I did it at our wedding, too) and lots of pretty pictures would have won this wedding a spot on the list anyway, but I love this quote from the grooms most of all:

If you ever wonder how many people love you and how much, have a wedding. You’ll know.

You know what else? That’s absolutely true.

Take That, DOMA!

Friday, October 19th, 2012

(Image via Jet Fete Blog where you can see more pictures of this beautiful wedding held in Mexico)

Yesterday the Second Circuit Court of Appeals in New York ruled (as have so many courts before it) that the Defense of Marriage Act or DOMA is unconstitutional in that it violates the fourteenth amendment right to equal protection under the law.

The suit was brought by Edith Windsor, 83. She and Theda Clara Spyer had been engaged for forty years when they were finally able to tie the knot in Toronto, Cananda in 2007. Two years later, Spyer sadly died of multiple sclerosis. In Spyer’s will, she left all her property to her surviving spouse, Windsor. And since the federal government will not recognize same sex marriages, Windsor was forced to pay $363,000 (that’s three hundred sixty-three thousand smackers) in estate taxes. Windsor felt that was unfair since a surviving spouse in a DOMA approved marriage would not have had to shell out that kind of money to inherit.

A federal court sided with Windsor, but the decision was appealed. Now the appeals court also sides with the plaintiff… as has every other court that has heard similar cases.

Even the current presidential administration considers DOMA unconstitutional. President Obama announced that his administration would no longer defend it because – wait for it – it violates equal protection. The act is currently being defended by the Republican majority in the US House of Representatives.

Me? I say it’s time for DOMA to land on the ash heap of bad law. It hurts families, inflicts hardships, and does absolutely nothing to protect, defend, or support any marriage whatsoever.

My opposite sex marriage is in no way threatened by the fact that two men or two women may marry in certain places. In fact, my marriage is so cool and nifty that I want every adult who wants one to be able to get their own, regardless of gender identity, race, or preferred flavor of consenting adult to have one with!

Two Brides, One Dream of Social Justice

Tuesday, August 14th, 2012

(Image via The Jakarta Globe)

Fish Huang (on the right) and You Ya-ting, both thirty, made history saturday in Taiwan. They were the first same sex couple to marry in a Buddhist ceremony in their country.

The wedding remains a symbolic statement rather than a legal one, since Taiwan law does not officially recognize same sex couples. A bill legalizing same sex marriage and the rights of gays and lesbians to adopt children has been making the rounds since 2003, but has yet to be either adopted or formally rejected. President Ma Ying-jeou cites the need for more public consensus before going ahead with the bill.

Still, Fish and You wanted to formalize their union and share the moment with friends and family. Female Buddhist master Shih Chao-hui presided over the ceremony in which both brides wore western-style white gowns and veils and exchanged prayer beads.

Said Fish Huang:

“We hope with the master’s support, the wedding will change many people’s perspective even though it is not legally binding. We hope the government can legalise same-sex marriage soon.”

Some three hundred well-wishers attended the ceremony. Sadly, the parents of the brides were not among them.

I hope you will all join with me in wishing the happy couple every joy. I further hope that one day same-sex weddings in Taiwan will be legal, as well as symbolic.

Yet Another Court Rules Against DOMA

Wednesday, August 1st, 2012

This time it’s in Connecticut.

US District Judge Vanessa Bryant, an appointee of George W. Bush, ruled yesterday in a 104 page decision that the Defense of Marriage Act violates the fifth amendment of the US Constitution because it denies federal marriage benefits to legally married same-sex couples.

Joining the other seven courts that have found the precise same thing (five district courts, one appeals court, and one bankruptcy court), Bryant’s decision found there was ‘no rational basis’ for the denial of benefits to same sex married couples.

You know what? That’s what I’ve been saying all along. About time a court put it that plainly.

Cynthia Takes a Bride

Tuesday, May 29th, 2012

Congratulations to Cynthia Nixon and long-time lady love Christine Marinoni who were married on sunday. The couple has been together for eight years and have a one-year-old son together.

Nixon wore a custom Caroline Herrera gown and Marinoni a black tux.

Best of luck to the happy couple!

Their Love is Lifting Them Higher

Friday, February 17th, 2012

This happy couple is Lela McArthur and Stephanie Figarelle, personal trainers both hailing from Alaska. They didn’t marry there. The place they’re standing is the observation deck of the Empire State Building in New York City. On Valentine’s Day, McArthur and Figarelle became the first same-sex couple to marry in the Empire State Building after winning a contest on Facebook to get married there with the services of celebrity event planner Colin Cowie. The contest, called Wings of Love, also required the happy couple to accept the choices of Facebook users to determine their wedding rings, floral arrangements, reception menu… pretty much everything.

Figarelle wore a black suit provided by Men’s Warehouse, and McArthur wore a strapless white gown sent from Kleinfeld, setting of Say Yes to the Dress and it’s myriad offshoots.

In a statement to the Associated Press, Figarelle said:

‘It’s unfortunate it’s not more understood or accepted in our country. Love is genderless. It’s two souls, that’s it,’

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I couldn’t agree more.

In all, four couples won weddings in the Empire State building. Aterwards, all four couples’ weddings will be voted on again to decide which had the nicest one. That couple will win a $100,000.00 cash prize.

I hope you’ll join with me in wishing the very happiest of marriages to all four couples: McArthur and Figarelle, Phil Fung and Shawn Klein (the first male/male couple to marry in the Empire State Building), Angela Vega and Lubin Masibay, and Paula Cubero and Enrique Cattler. Whoever wins the prize money, you have all begun an amazing journey. Best wishes!