Even though weddings bond two people together, they nonetheless have the capacity to tear others apart. The tension that begins as an out-of-stock tuxedo, an impossible-to-book officiant, or a too-good-to-be-true reception site that turns out to be just that (read: any wedding catastrophe) can become the rage and anxiety that alienates relatives and destroys friendships. When that same tension results in laughter and “what are you gonna do” shrugs rather than unbridled frustration, however, you get fabulously bittersweet weddings that people remember for years to come.
I’ll admit that sometimes it’s sometimes hard for those involved to find the humor in wacky nuptial circumstances until years after the event has passed. When good weddings go bad, it can seem like the end of the world to the brides who had such high hopes and dedicated their lives to planning the perfect ceremony and reception. But matrimonial mishaps and mayhem sure do make for great reading for those of us not actively engaged in the wedding planning process.
Case in point: Tied in Knots : Funny Stories from the Wedding Day compiled by Lisa Taggart and Samantha Schoech. I sat down with it this weekend and practically devoured it.
Maybe I’m just a sadistic voyeur, but I loved the 20 stories–written by 20 witty and wonderfully honest women–of future brides and grooms who take DIY too far (Throw together an impromptu dinner for 26? Sure!), manage to locate the only *good* tuxedo on a small Hawaiian island, find themselves dealing with a real life sea witch, and undertake an almost futile search for the ultimate rabbi. There are stories of sisters who embark upon fantastic quests to stop upcoming weddings (I mean, what else does one do when one’s sibling is poised to marry a *gasp* Republican?) and mothers-of-the-bride who overcome C-cup sized odds and the trials and tribulations of women who find themselves always the bride and never the bridesmaid.
I really, really, really loved this book. And not only because it cemented my resolve to have a very small, very intimate, very simple wedding someday. It’s hilarious! There is just so much that can go wrong – both in regard to the wedding and in the heads of the bride and groom. Why not enjoy it?