What I’m about to share is sort of old, but is just so lovely that it deserves to be passed around. In October of last year, Ty Ziegel and Renee Kline were married in Metamora, Illinois. As KSDK so aptly put it, “they promised to love one another in sickness and in health…somehow that pledge seems a bit superfluous.”
According to the Times Online, Ty, a Marine stationed in Iraq, survived a suicide bomber attack that left him partially disabled, burnt, and disfigured almost beyond recognition.
“I don’t remember saying it to Renee, but I’d have understood if she’d said, ‘Yeah, I’m out of here,’” Ty says.
He had seen other badly wounded soldiers and marines get dumped by their girlfriends in hospital. Sometimes they would be cruel to their girlfriends and chuck them pre-emptively to spare themselves hurt. But quietly and with little fuss, Ty, 24, and Renee, 21, resolved to stick it out.
Renee felt sick with nerves before going up the aisle, but she had no second thoughts. She looked radiant in a white dress. “You’re beautiful,” Ty told her. He wore his combat medals and a Purple Heart for being wounded in action.
Donna had been shocked when she found out the extent of Ty’s injuries, but she told her daughter she simply had to “follow her heart, and that we’d make it work, if she wanted it”. Today she is convinced that they will never part.
Becky recalled that on Valentine’s Day in hospital in 2005, Ty was so wounded he could hardly speak. She and Renee taped a pen to the splint on his hand and he wrote as best he could on a dry erase board: “Ty and Renee”.
“Well, we think it said ‘Ty and Renee’,” Becky laughs. “Then doctors removed his ‘trake’ – the tracheostomy tube in his neck that had been feeding him when his lips were too burnt – and he said, ‘Renee, will you be my valentine?’ I cried.” His next words were: “Do you want to make out?” Months passed before they could, but at that moment she knew that he hadn’t really changed.
I’ve read the story plenty of times but it still leaves me teary-eyed. If you love to peak into other people’s nuptials as much as I do, some of Ty and Renee’s wedding photos can be found here.
The tale of the saga that Ty and Renee have endured has been making the rounds lately and you see a lot of comments talking about ‘pity’ and ‘obligation’ and notions even more presumptive. But to those people, I say that if the thought of Renee still loving Ty seems so foreign, try imagining yourself telling a disfigured loved one, “I’m sorry, I can’t love you anymore because you’re too weird looking.”
Personally, I wish these two all the love and luck and abundance in the world.
Photo by Nina Berman