Archive for September, 2010

No Saying ‘BRRRR’ For These Bridesmaids!

Friday, September 24th, 2010

Can anyone else feel just a touch of autumn in the air? *brrrrr* I sure can. And when I think of autumn, I think of all the ladies in the wedding party getting goosebumps. It’s tough to cope with wedding weather, isn’t it. In the summertime, the guys are sweating in their suits and at winter weddings, bare-armed bridesmaids are in danger of losing limbs if the thermostat is set too low. Now I’ll of course 100% support the bride’s decision to wear a strapless, gauzy sheath dress at her autumn wedding, but I’d rather not see the poor bridesmaids freezing their buns off at those November nuptials just so everyone looks uniform in the wedding photos.

One solution you frequently see is the wrap. Then there are the true pashminas. And stoles, though you see those far less often since fewer people wear fur and the faux fur ones look costumey. Oh, and of course the bolero. Sometimes you even see the bridesmaids at autumn weddings and winter weddings huddling near heaters swaddled in the groomsmen’s jackets! Which isn’t exactly the best look.

Maybe once in a while we can all ditch the cover ups? I mean, even as a guest at cold weather weddings, I feel that it’s pretty darned difficult to find a dress that has sleeves and also doesn’t look like something made for a 75-year-old pre-calculus teacher. I am SO SO SO loving the photo (by the amazing Cliff Mautner) above, which features bridesmaids decked out in chocolate brown sweaters with matching skirts made by the bride’s mother. They look absolutely ready for an outdoor ceremony that might be subject to a brisk breeze or two. My guess? There wasn’t a goosebump in sight!

LOVE/HATE: The ‘Badassery’ Edition

Thursday, September 23rd, 2010

We all like to poke a bit of fun here at the bridal models who glare into the camera, sniff their pits, contort themselves into positions you need a chiro to get out of, and wait around hotel lobbies. But what about the real couples and attendants who do similarly strange things in actual wedding photos? I thought it would be fun in upcoming editions of LOVE/HATE to take a look at some popular poses struck and facial expressions adopted by bridesmaids, groomsmen, bridesmen, groomsmaids, brides, and grooms.

The inspiration for this little series was the hugely popular badassery snapshot where everyone looks angrily into the camera with expressions that say “Why the #$%@ are you taking my picture?” and “You want a piece of me? Do ya?”

Or even “You’ve trapped me in this dungeon and I am very angry at you.”

So what you think of all the camera glaring, angry mug making, PO’ed looking brides, grooms, and attendants appearing in wedding albums these days? I kind of hate it, but I’m also one of those folks who has a big grin in my passport photo and on my license. I like a big goofy grin more than I do a pout. How about you?

(Images via: ? and Ed Pingol)

If the Shoe Fits, Match It

Wednesday, September 22nd, 2010

Nearly a year ago, I posted a poll asking whether your bridesmaids’ shoes needed to match, and 38% of you responded with “No. Who cares?” But if you add them up, a whopping 51% of you believe that the bridesmaids’ shoes should match if the wedding is formal or if the bridesmaids dresses would just plain look better with matching footwear. So why does it matter? Why should one care, one way or the other? If you’re not a natural shoe lover, have you considered that more and more shoe pics are finding their way into wedding albums? There are the wedding rings on the heel of the bride’s shoe photos, the bride and groom’s feet photos, the attendants from the knees down photos, the bride’s shoes with the bouquet photos, and more.

So if you are in the ‘matching shoes sometimes’ majority or in the ‘yes, always’ minority, and you know that your wedding photographer is going to zoom in on your feet and the feet of your bridesmaids, why not go for something a little funky? In this pic by Mike Bresnen we see bridesmaids gone wild in sweet strappy heels featuring some kind of pseudo animal print. When I think about how I’d replicate the look, I think I’d take it to the next level, with bridesmaids in popping red dresses and zebra print heels. Tacky? Maybe. Awesome? Yeah, that, too.

Would you put your bridesmaids in a funky shoe or is it going to be traditional all the way at your nuptials?

Groomsmen: Fit to Be Tied

Tuesday, September 21st, 2010

Since Bridesmaids’ Week has come and gone, I thought it might be nice to throw all the groomsmen a bone, since if we don’t talk about bridesmaids nearly enough, we hardly talk about their male counterparts at all! Now the groom can dress his groomsmen (or the bride can dress her bridesmen) in anything he pleases, but the fact is that groomsmen in the wild are often seen sporting neck ties.

Plain black or some other coordinating color will always be a popular choice, but I thought I’d gently suggest that grooms and brides consider ties with patterns for the men of the wedding party. Why? First, because we spend so much time obsessing over the bridesmaids’ dresses and usually don’t give nearly as much thought to the attire worn by the dudes. Second, because there aren’t a lot of ways for grooms and groomsmen to have fun with fashion while staying in formal suite territory. And third, because there are some truly awesome ties for groomsmen out there! Check it:

The Pi tie is from Wild Ties while all the rest are from Cyberoptix Tie Lab, maker of fine ties featuring bombs, exhaust systems, engines, and other awesome patterns. For real, you can have a lot of fun with groomsmen’s ties.

And shoes, for that matter! I’m loving this shot from A Bryan Photo of groomsmen wearing sneakers that were painted by the groom.

What are your groomsmen wearing? Anything out of the ordinary?

Wedding Dress or Retro Lingerie?

Monday, September 20th, 2010

Wedding dresses with spaghetti straps can be deliriously beautiful or, in some cases, look more like old fashioned nightgowns than actual gowns. I don’t know why, exactly, though it could have something to do with what seem to me to be the misplaced bra-like cups in some spaghetti strap wedding dresses and the particular unstructured necklines you find in others.

Even when a wedding dress sports thicker straps, the straps can still appear flimsy. And if they’re just the right thickness and made out of just the right sort of ribbon, they end up looking like the straps on the bra I’m wearing right at this very moment.

Maybe I’m biased against spaghetti straps since too often it feels like they could be taken off without having much of an impact on the dress…? Or do these two wedding dresses really kind of look like the nightgown half of those jacket and nightgown sets that I’ve heard the mother-of-the-bride used to give the bride to wear on her wedding night?

(Both dresses from Watters)

At Last I’ve Seen It All… But They Can’t Make Me Watch

Sunday, September 19th, 2010

I’ve never been a big fan of plastic surgery for purely cosmetic reasons. Then again, I’ve always figured it was a decision up to the person considering it. I don’t think less of someone for having had breast implants or a nose job or a tummy tuck. As I said, it’s a personal decision.

And while it’s not something I would recommend, I’m certainly not going to rain on the parade of a bride who decides that before the wedding is the time to have her chin or cheekbones enhanced.

But now E! has ordered a new bridal reality show. What does this have to do with plastic surgery? Everything, as it turns out.

You see, Bridalplasty (yes, you read that correctly, Bridalplasty is the name of this horror) is a competition. Each week, the brides will compete in a new challenge. The winner of said challenge will win – wait for it! – her choice of plastic surgery from the ‘wish list’ she has submitted. She goes straight in for surgery and the audience will see the results the following week in the next episode.

Think about it. The average competitive reality show has somewhere between twelve and sixteen players. On each of these shows, there are always several competitors who never win a single challenge. On each of these shows, one or two competitors seem to wind up winning at least three or four challenges each. That means that at least a couple of these women are going home looking very, very different than they did when they left.

Each week the competing brides will vote off one of their rivals until just one bride is left standing. Said last bride standing will win a dream wedding at which, of course, she will wear a veil with full blusher so that the audience can enjoy that voyeuristic moment when the groom gets his first chance to see what his bride now looks like. That’s right, he doesn’t get to see her until she stands at the altar in a brand new face.

All of this is, of course, in the name of seeing a ‘perfect bride.’ Because, you know, a woman who hasn’t been touched up by a surgeon can’t be perfect.

My advice? Ignore this show. It’s just trying to sell us all more on the idea that we’re not good enough as we are, that we are automatically better if we change ourselves quite possibly to the point of being unrecognizable.

Even if you do decide you want to change something about yourself before the wedding photos, you still want your nearest and dearest to know who you are when you walk down the aisle. Trust me, you’re good enough as is that someone asked you to marry him or her. You don’t need to change a thing to be good enough to deserve a pretty wedding or a happily ever after.

Don’t fall for the hype. Be you on your wedding day.

And this show? Let’s all agree not to watch it. We don’t need the toxic messages or the sensationalism.

Twistie’s Sunday Caption Madness: The Fearsome Faces Edition: The Result

Saturday, September 18th, 2010

Ah my dears. Last week I slapped you all with this deathless (and possibly zombified) image:
and a whole… two of you responded with captions.

Never mind, the two submitted both rocked.

Alas, only one can win. This week it’s my compatriot and companion in crime Fabrisse for this funny and fabulous caption:

Cissy tried to explain to the bride that singing all four verses of the National Anthem before the reception was NOT traditional.

Congratulations, Fabrisse! And thanks to, well, Sarah G for playing.