Choosing wedding vendors can be nerve-racking (or wracking, both are correct) because, after all, you’re putting your entire wedding in the hands of a handful of professionals. Are their picture perfect portfolio shots really representative of their work? Will they be on time? Do they really understand how important this is to you?
Maybe yes, maybe no. More than likely, however, yes. Your wedding vendors will show up, give you everything they’ve promised and you’ve paid for, and help make your wedding beautiful. But that doesn’t mean bad things don’t happen very, very occasionally to an itty-bitty handful of brides and grooms. It’s a difficult situation to contemplate, but maybe one that everyone who’s engaged should think about just a bit.
The question, of course, is what do you do if one of your wedding vendors doesn’t show up.
First, let’s talk about what you don’t do. You don’t, as much as you’d probably like to, panic. When you’re just about to leave for the ceremony and you find out that your caterer isn’t coming, panicking is NOT going to help. And if you’ve just arrived at the reception to find out that your cake isn’t coming, freaking out isn’t going to get you a cake.
Here’s what you do instead of panic: Have your mom or dad or bestie or some other party try calling the missing wedding vendor. Maybe there’s traffic. Maybe there’s been an emergency but the vendor is sending backup. These are good things to know.
In the event that your wedding vendor is simply unreachable or they answer only to tell you that no one’s on the way, the first question you should ask yourself is whether you can live without the services of a pro. Let’s say the reception flowers aren’t coming – can you live without floral centerpieces, etc.? If there’s a full sound system, can you pull of an iPod wedding?
And then it’s triage time. If your baker is the missing wedding vendor, send some responsible people to the nearest supermarket for the fanciest sheet cakes or pastries they can find. A nearby bakery is even better, but call ahead to make sure they can accommodate. For flowers, try florists, farmers markets, or even the supermarket for matching flowers and supplies with which to whip up very simple bouquets and centerpieces. For food, there’s always pizza, the quick and dirty option, but that’s less than ideal. Designate someone to call every restaurant and eatery that’s semi local to see if anyone can hook you up.
Finally, try to calm down. Relax. Do your best to enjoy your wedding day. You have your whole life ahead of you to be pissed off at your missing wedding vendor… and to litigate, as necessary. But hopefully, you’ll only ever have one wedding day. No matter what happens, try to make it a good one.
Question for all the married ladies in the house: Have any of y’all had to deal with a wedding vendor who was a no-show? How’d you handle it?